My ex of 6 months recently broke up with me because she said she felt bored to me. The truth is though that I'm a very shy person. She know's this but after 6 months she feels like she know's the kind of person I am now when in reality I'm still very shy to her? I don't have a problem being around her it's just making conversation with her and keeping her entertained. I just feel like sometimes I don't know what to say or how to act around her and I was afraid that if I did I might mess things up with her. She doesn't want to give me a second chance now because she says she feels like she already knows me which I know isn't true. I don't want any move on answers just some advice on how to overcome my shyness with her and get her back.
2007-03-23 17:15:22 · 15 answers · asked by Jake 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't waste your time with that girl.
You need to find someone who you will be more
comfortable with and you can be yourself.
2007-03-23 17:35:40 · answer #1 · answered by Jagger Otto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to learn to trust yourself and you won't feel so insecure and self-conscious around anyone every again.
Practice, practice, practice. Call her and tell her something about you that she doesn't already know. What do you have to lose? Honestly, tell her everything about you that you think she doesn't know. Then, you two can decide if you want to try this again.
Tell your ex that she can only be bored if she is a boring person. It is not your responsibility to constantly keep her entertained. Women like that are known as emotionally high maintenance. It's too much work to keep someone like that around.
2007-03-23 17:22:33 · answer #2 · answered by friendlyadvice 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Shyness isnt bad, sometimes its good. Some chicks like mysterious. But hey, when a chick says she knows you she dont. You;re right. Conversations are a hard thing to keep up unless you two bump inot a really good topic. But the thing is, you might want to give out some attention to her. They love attention. Try to start out little and move on to bigger things. Small talk, then maybe simple dates, and so on and so forth.
2007-03-23 17:20:23 · answer #3 · answered by dennys 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh Jake, You don't want her back. Find someone that will love you for you! Shyness and all! I am sure you have a lot of great quality's! Never try to change you for someone else! It takes tooo much energy and it won't work out in the end. As you have seen with the relationship you are just getting out of!
2007-03-23 17:20:08 · answer #4 · answered by Amy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First realize there are only two outcomes to this situation. 1.She'll take you back. 2.She won't take you back.
Now, my best advice is to show her who you really are! Don't ask for another chance, just do it! If you are spontaneous, show her! Loving? Show her! Brave? Show her! Who ever you really are "SHOW HER!". As women, we love show and tell, but for the most part,it's the "show" aspect of it all. Surprise her, make her feel like you'll do whatever it takes to reveal the "real" you. But whatever you do count up the cost and make sure it's what you really want to do. That way you'll have no regrets, but a lesson learned in the place of possible regret. And after you are you, and things don't work out, continue to be "you", because no one will know "you" if you don't know how to be yourself! Best wishes and good luck!
2007-03-23 17:27:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just come out of nowhere and give her a big kiss thats not something shy :) i dont kno never dealt with a shy boy I guess it takes time but it seems like she doesnt like you thouhg at least not enough to give you a chance so do something crazy if you want her back, go to her house with flowers and sing her a song. All i have to say she is pretty dam lucky to have you and she's ungreatful the way she left you
2007-03-23 17:22:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell your grandmother that you are for your interval and that you wish to have presents. She can have a few stuff mendacity round; I recognize my grandmother used to have tampons crammed into her rest room cupboards. Even if she does not have something, I'm certain she'd be completely happy to run to the shop for you. If now not, make a transitority pad with bathroom paper and/ or tissues.
2016-09-05 13:59:03 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, i dont think u should just move on. Let her know. Maybe show her that you can be a spur of the moment kind of guy, but not crazy. shes probably just feeling like you should have loosened up by 6 months.
2007-03-23 17:20:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well if you dont want the right advice then dont take it, but i am going to give it to you anyway. if she doesnt want you then she doesnt want you its as simple as that. if you were dating her for sixth months and didnt want to dissappoint her then you didnt show her the real you. you obviously arent ready for the relastionship that she wants and you shoudnt want her back. like the adivce you said you didnt want i suggest you move on. when you are in a relastionship with someone you should be who you are especially for half a year!!!!! just leave while you still have some dignity
2007-03-23 17:20:37 · answer #9 · answered by ellie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to be Alexander Bell to know the phone is dead. Did you hear the fat lady sing ?
Read some good books and move on.
2007-03-23 17:21:38 · answer #10 · answered by radar 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, u should be ur self. and throw the shy part away. no reason to shy at all, specially to ur own girl. juz be ur self and enjoy ur relationship. be someone she liked. i know u can do it. give it a shot! ok. take care and wish u the best.
2007-03-23 17:22:42 · answer #11 · answered by EJ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋