I've liked a childhood friend for almost 5 years..but seen her only once in that time since she lives in another country. I've tried to move on, but I can't get into a serious relationship with anothe girl...something inside just turns off after a certain point! I told her about my feeling last summer, but she didn't give me a clear "Yes" or "No". Since we only talk on the phone or chat online...it's hard to guess what's going through her mind!
I'm 24...do u think I'm being immature? I mean how long is too long waiting for who I believe is my soul-mate?
2007-03-23 17:09:51 · 4 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, it is not weird. But you do need to get on with your life. It seems to me you have put her on a pedestal so high no other woman can even come close. You are going to lead a very lonely life.
I suggest you save up vacation time and start a savings account and make her country your vacation destination. Make arrangements to stay somewhere near her residence and ask if she will be your tour guide while you are there. Make sure you have her OK before you get the tickets and make the reservations. Or if you want to tour her country, prepare to have to do it alone.
This way you can have some 'face' time and maybe get to know her better. She may meet your expectations or fail them, but you will never know if you don't try.
If she didn't give you a clear yes or no the first time, maybe distance was a factor in her response. I have no idea what is going on in her head. Depending on her country, her parents may have arranged a marriage. Who knows?
Hope this gives you some ideas on how to get on with life, good luck and take care.
2007-03-31 17:08:50 · answer #1 · answered by Ding-Ding 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let me just tell you . .. I met my current man almost 10 years ago. We went out like 2 times and then he moved across the country (Not as long distance as yours but still farrrrrrrrr away). In the 8 years he was gone, I got married, he got married, we both had kids, I got divorced, then he got divorced. I can honestly tell you there wasn't a day that went by that I didn't think about him.. . .or compare every man that wanted to date me to him. 2 years ago, when he got divorced, he moved home. THE DAY he got back in the state he called me. I went to his sisters house (I have always been very close to his family) to see him. We've been together ever since. 10 months ago he moved back across the country to be with his kids. I'm in nursing school and can't leave the state until I'm done in 18 months. We have made it so far and are actually planning to get married next spring. We talk on the phone every night and I get to see him MAYBE once every 3 months. Your not being immature. . .your in love. . . forever isn't long enough to wait for someone who you believe is your soulmate. I would wait 2 lifetimes for this man to come back to me if I had to. Hang in there and good luck.
2007-03-24 00:23:28 · answer #2 · answered by ricksgrl2005 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sweetheart, I'm 10 years older than you and I have been there and done alot of things, I'm a female myself so I can honestly say that since she hasn't given you a straight up answer, she doesn't feel the same way about you. Stop waisting your time waiting on someone who apparently does not feel the same, she just doesn't want to hurt your feelings
being that you've been friends since childhood. Believe me, if its meant to be, and you feel this is your soulmate she'll come around eventually, even if its years down the road.
2007-03-24 00:36:38 · answer #3 · answered by Monica M & M 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you are fantasising..u dont know her that well yet u say she is ur soul mate..u need to grow up and move on with ur life and find someone else..forget about her.
2007-03-31 07:45:31 · answer #4 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋