2007-03-23 17:01:21 · 15 answers · asked by spartanangel2001 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
If you don't have custody it is!
2007-03-23 17:07:21 · answer #1 · answered by Mishell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A number of years ago, my husband was on a jury in a custody battle between a Protestant minister and his wife who were divorcing. They had 2 daughters age 5 and 8. When she left, the wife moved across the state (4 hours away) to live in the same town as her parents. She was a dental hygienest and had a good job, she just wanted to go back home. Prior to the divorce, the kids were in the private school run by the church (free) where the dad worked. The wife enrolled them in public school and told the dad he could see them every other weekend if he would come and pick them up on Friday night and bring them back on Sunday afternoon. Well, as a minister, he pretty much had to work every weekend and often had weddings on Saturday and the church singles group that he led met every Friday night. So, effectively, he was put in a situation where he was unable to see the kids at all except on a school break or summer vacation. There were no allegations of abuse, violence etc. and both the minister and his ex-wife seemed to be fine people. The kids missed their father a lot and were not doing well in school.
The jury agonized for 3 days (my husband could not sleep at night) over the custody of the girls and decided that the father had to be given custody to enable him to see them at all. The wife made the choice to move which was fine but they decided it was an injustice for her to create a situation basically cutting the father out of their lives.
It seemed terrible either way... custody battles should be avoided at all costs.
2007-03-24 01:13:04 · answer #2 · answered by nursebetty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This shows you love your child very much. That's a good thing. If the mother isn't giving them the proper care and you can then yes you should try and get custody. If the child is happy, and doing great with the mother, then it might be best to get joint custody. Usually they lean towards the mother unless you can prove they are unfit, and the childs best interest is with you.
2007-03-24 01:10:06 · answer #3 · answered by Amanda R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful, I've been through it. First off you need to know that a custody battle is at the top of THE WORST POSSIBLE things you can do to your child. It is emotionally stressful for the child of any age and can slow there development.
That being said, and having been through the court system as a Father fighting for custody of my son (I won), it is difficult due to the bias of the court system towards the Mother.
If it is the right thing to do, then do it but your house needs to be in order. If you throw stones while living in a glass house, you will lose, the child will lose, and you will spend a lot of money for nothing.
2007-03-24 00:15:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes but i have a cusin who is a male who won custody of his daughter in court so it may be hard but it is not impossible everytime he caught the mother doing something wrong like taking child to drug houses he call the law and reported his child been there so he could have police records of the places his daughter was found in and he had to do all the leg work because the courts wont do it but if she is a good mother and is allowing you to see the child when ever you want then i would wait when the child gets old enough they can tell where they want to live i wouldent make them choose but more in likely if you are a good father she sees a difference in the way you talk and treat her she will say she wants to live with you if shes a bad mom she will hopefully mess up herself and you will have to notified
2007-03-24 01:30:30 · answer #5 · answered by family fan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Custody battles differ in all States. Depending on where you are located, the main reason a parent would get their child taken away is if they are negletful or abusive to the child and if the child is in harm in any way. Always make sure your child is well fed, bathed, and clothed and loved. Your child is your blessing from Heaven.
2007-03-24 00:10:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless the mother can be proven unstable, incompetent, or a threat to the welfare of the child, it is unlikely that the courts will take a child from her custody.
2007-03-24 00:09:34 · answer #7 · answered by C J 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It truly is cause the courts are normally on the Mother's side not unless the Father can show very Good Cause why she shouldn't have them.Try 2 work something out with her before court it's the children that are the losers they end up all confused believe me I know my parents went thru a Nasty Divorce when I was younger & My Dad's new wife wouldn't allow us over there.Good Luck
2007-03-24 00:12:39 · answer #8 · answered by sugarbdp1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The mother usually gets custody of the children unless she has a record, a history of drug use or alcoholism, or something bad like that.
2007-03-24 00:05:35 · answer #9 · answered by Amanda 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you a guy? I'm going to assume you are. Here's what I know about it....
Just the fact that you are a guy and you are sincerely interested in your child enough to fight for custody, the courts will take a favorable view of you. Seventy percent of men who attempt to gain custody will get it.
2007-03-24 00:05:18 · answer #10 · answered by Angie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
courts tend to lean to the mothers side, but more and more guys are getting more rights. If shes honestly not a fit mother it shouldn't be hard to prove it, but if she realistically did nothing wrong then yes it will be hard. They will probably give equal or shard custody.
2007-03-24 00:07:55 · answer #11 · answered by melfred_20 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋