at school i am really shy.. I sit there and read i only talk too friends...around my friends.. i am really hyper, i am outgoing and fun
i am going in too high school next year and i am worryed that if i stay like this i will be lost
plzz help me with suggestions?????????
p.s. i really whant a boy friend but i dont talkn to any boys and i l=think i might have social anxiety
2007-03-23 16:57:28 · 16 answers · asked by billy jack lol 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
by the way i am bigger sized... i wieght like 220
2007-03-23 17:07:17 · update #1
also i am wondering if my weight might be affecting how i act and if it is affecting my relationship whith boys
2007-03-23 17:36:04 · update #2
spend the summer taking up hobbies and work out. don't worry about finding a boyfriend in h/s...think about meeting new people in high school and making friends that way. everytime you feel nervous or anxious, force yourself to talk to people. (think like how you remove a bandaid from your wound) before you know it, you'll be outgoing with everyone.
2007-03-31 11:46:27 · answer #1 · answered by phoenixchi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Social anxiety? Maybe but i wouldn't go just that far yet. You unfortunately have to put yourself in those uncomfortable situations. That's the only way to learn. Don't over think what ever it is your doing. One common theme among shy or socially anxiety stricken people tend be that they over think what they will have to do, what they will have to say, were they will have to go or oo did i say that right, or did they take that the wrong way and so on.... Just relax and slowly expose yourself to the situations you fear.
Some thing i think could really help you is volunteering, join a club or something . This takes you away from your friends and gives you the freedom to meet new people, without the pressure of knowing you have to see them the next day, like in school. It might be hard to do, but like i said launch yourself into it without thinking. Just do it. Over time your anxiety or/and shyness will disappear.
2007-03-24 00:14:00 · answer #2 · answered by BAD KARMA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got to boost your self confidence a bit more. If you have friends now, and you're just entering high school, by senior year, you'll have hundreds you won't know what to do with yourself. Definitely join a club or something. For me, it was marching band, and being in college, I still talk to almost everyone from band. It doesn't matter if you weight 10 pounds or 220. If a guy is clean hearted and nice, he'll see you for the good things.
2007-03-31 22:36:28 · answer #3 · answered by yelhsa_noelle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has social anxiety to a degree...new situations are always nerve racking. Look at yourself in the mirror and think about your strong points. Sense of humor? Independence? Think about all those good things that make you YOU. The more confidence you have in yourself the more likely people will see that and respond to it. Have fun meeting new people and discovering new situations. Its an exciting time in life and dont let it pass by while you sit and watch!
2007-03-24 00:01:55 · answer #4 · answered by Nate 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have the same problem and it is affecting my life a lot and i hate it. just do things you want slowly, one at a time. start with talking to one other person until you become comfortable with them, then another etc. just keep telling yourself you don't care what other people think, it's your life. I don't know why i'm always thinking about what other people think about me, but i can't help it. i hate it so much! also, try joining clubs with stuff you're good at, like if you were good at debating, for example, join the debate team and your confidence will go up! good luck!! i hope you don't end up like me :(
2007-03-24 00:02:38 · answer #5 · answered by rt1290 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm just like you, expcet I don't want any boyfriends, and I don't have any outside friends. What you need to do is step up to the plate, and know that being shy and everything won't get you nowhere. How about if oneday you need to stand up for yourself (escpially in High School), and they step all over you because you are quiet? You can do it. ^_^
P.S I need to take my own advice. :p
2007-03-24 00:02:14 · answer #6 · answered by Lizzie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound like me! And you know what? I turned out ok. You don't need to be Miss Popularity. A handful of good friends is what you need and you already have that. You'll get by just fine. It all works out in the end regardless of what sort of personality you have in high school.
2007-03-24 00:01:13 · answer #7 · answered by RIffRaffMama 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself. Try getting into a drama class. Thatll open you up. Get practice talking in front of people and stuff. High school is really not that scary, really. Its not amazing. Theyre people just like you.
2007-03-24 00:01:21 · answer #8 · answered by Mayonaise 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just go out there and be yourself like when your with your friends! Dont ever be afraid to be yourself! And if they dont like you for you than you really dont need them in your life! And try everything in highschool (Meaning sports wise or high school activities)
2007-03-24 00:07:27 · answer #9 · answered by Janie L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie when the going gets tough hang in there. from right now i am telling you high school kids can definetely be harsh with words and very heartless but you have to go in there with some strong self worth and self esteemb/c that is what is going to keep you going.
2007-03-31 21:25:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋