My mom and dad have always had problems, they have stayed married, but have fought a lot. Recently I heard my mom talking to my Dad telling him that she had nothing left to contribute and that she was a loser who everyone never wanted to spend time with. My dad a little later responded with "Killing yourself is the most selfish thing you could do because it would leave you with only 1 parent for your kid's when they could of had 2. My mom has always been a little moody. What can I do? Please respond!!!
2007-03-23 16:55:27 · 25 answers · asked by Guy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My mom does not have any known problems. My dad is always the calm one but it seems like she takes everything out of proportion, even little things. This is not like a financial situation. We are well off with money and it does not even seem that here life is so difficult.
2007-03-23 17:06:06 · update #1
I am a boy at 14. I have a sister too and she is going away to college soon. She does not seem to think there is anything to do. My worst fear is that I will come home from school and find her dead.
2007-03-23 17:08:36 · update #2
My parents never abuse each other and if i didnt listen in to their conversations then I wouldnt even know this problem existed.
2007-03-23 17:20:47 · update #3
This morning my Mom seems fine and happy. I am confused.
2007-03-24 04:03:40 · update #4
The only thing you can do is talk to your mom, spend time with her. Let her know she's loved by you and if she were to "leave" she would be severly missed by you. But if she does end up doing it, don't ever think it was your fault. Some people just have something wrong with them, that was caused by no one in particular. Also remind her that if she were to "go" she would be missing out on grandchildren, she'd never get to spoil them. It's going to be hard to explain to my daugter when she's old enough why she doesn't have a grandpa. My father passed away when I was 17 (three years ago almost) from leukiema, and my husbands father passed away in January from a heart attack. So now none of our kids will have a grandfather. The only thing that hurts me the most is my father never got to see me graduate, get married, or see his first grandchild.
2007-03-23 18:15:12 · answer #1 · answered by Danielle 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Explain to your mom that you love her and need her and explain that you worst fear is to find her dead and that you could think of a possible thing on earth that was depress you more explain to her that you and your sister needher and she still does have a god given purpose on this earth explain that she always has God and that you will always be there for her and that she can always talk to you. Tell her that you love her and want nothing more tan to know she can see you everyday and your wiffe and children and that your sister needs her to get through the rough patch we call college let her know you ur dad and sister care and want nothing more than to be with her. Then give her a hug and kiss in a meanwhile I'll always be praying for you
God bless
Brianna
2007-03-24 00:42:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
based on what you have said, your mom may be suffering from a mental disorder. she may be depressed, and she may have bipolar disorder. people who have these types of disorders often reach a point in which they honestly feel like they have nothing to contribute (even if everyone else thinks the opposite) mental disorders are a brain malfunction,. and it needs to be addressed. maybe if your mom is depressed, she can get better with medication after taking it for a while, but the possibility is that she may be manic depressive and if she is bipolar it is something that she will have to live with, but the proper medication will make her better.
it may not be a mental disorder. physical problems can also impact brain function. there could be something wrong with her physically.
you seem to be a caring kid, i know it's hard to live with but believe me, your mom is not able to control what is going on with her. she is not doing this to hurt you or anyone in your family on purpose. you should talk to your dad, and tell him that it may be time for your mom to see a professional. your entire family will benefit from.
i'm sorry you are dealing with this... do you have any other relative who can look into this? maybe an aunt or uncle?
i really hope your mom gets well,
2007-03-24 00:27:27 · answer #3 · answered by la21unica 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi hun. Can I ask how old you are? Do you know of any abuse between your parents or with you? I think your Dad needs to step in and get her help. There is LOTS that can be done to help your mom. She needs evaluated by a Dr. Please know that it is NOTHING that you are doing that is contributing to her saying those things. It is not your fault. She is mentally sick and may possibly need medication/therapy. I also wanted to add that I'm sure she loves you very very much, she just maybe has alot on her plate right now. Maybe your Dad can contact a local hospital tomorrow to have her evaluated.
I have a brother who was self destructive and suicidal. He FINALLY (after many heartbreaking years) decided to let us help him. He is on medication and goes to therapy...and feels SOOOO much better.
Alot of the time its just an imbalance in the chemicals in the brain. Please remember its not your fault, and try to get her help so she can be the best mom that she can be.
Best of luck!
Lisa
2007-03-24 00:03:47 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa T 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try 1-800-SUICIDE or 1-800-273-TALK. Also Suicidehotlines.com will connect you to local hotlines.
You need a game plan right now and they can connect you with professionals in your area or at least advise you. You are concerned. Do your concerns justice by getting the information you may need. You may have overheard something in a moment of anger, jest, or emotion but you may be able to save a life. There are people who can help you.
2007-03-24 00:05:14 · answer #5 · answered by Serena L 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your mom needs some real attention and you are the perfect person to give it to her. Go buy her some flowers and make card for her. In your card tell her that you are worry about her and how much you love her. Let her know that you over heard your dad said about 'killing herself' and let her know that you are really scare! because you don't want her to do it. Draw a picture of your family and put their name beside it. Example, draw a picture of your mom, and write MY MOM beside the picture. Do the same with the others too!
At the end of your letter write: "I love my mom and dad" At night give her the flowers and card and then go to your room. When she comes in your room with a motherly smile, hung and kiss her and say: 'I love you mom'
Keep your family in your prayers.
God Bless
2007-03-24 00:21:23 · answer #6 · answered by tony 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to your dad. If your dad and you talk about it and feel it might be appropriate...take your mom aside and tell her that if she were to leave through death it will take so much quality out of your own life. Tell her you need her in your life. You want her at your wedding, to help you make the plans, to help you with homework, the prom. go pick a college and to be there to help you with her grandchildren. You need her in your life. You need to tell her that she is needed and can't leave.
Suicide is serious. Your mom also needs someone professional to help her come out of her deep depression.
Ask her to pray for strength with you.
2007-03-24 00:08:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to your dad first and see what that is all about and if he is going to do anything about it. If you don't get the answer you need with him call another family member you can trust and get your mom some help she'll thank you for it in the end.
2007-03-24 00:00:44 · answer #8 · answered by teresacmt 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm so sorry about your mom! You should talk to her. Tell her that killing, or even hurting, herself would be bad. Let her know that you love her and that you can't imagine her not being there any more. Also talk to your dad. Tell him that your mom surely doesn't want him nagging or yelling or whatever he does to her. They may need to get a divorce, and that is not good, but it would be better than her killing herself.
Good luck and I'm sorry!
2007-03-24 00:17:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your mom has depression. We all get sad feelings, she's overwhelmed with her sadness. She's trying to get her emotional NEEDS met.
She WANTS /NEEDS different skills disparately.
Acknowledge Mom's depression. Ask How might she change the situation? A call to contact? scheduling appointment with a professional? over the counter anti-depression (IE;St. John's wort)? Or just allow her some "vent"...
Don't over re-act. However if you feel she might be a danger to herself or others, summons medical help ASAP.
My prayers are with both you & your family.Please keep us posted!
Hugs,
2007-03-24 00:24:12 · answer #10 · answered by lizbethrandall 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋