Girl Issue (no guys with this one, please)?

Question

Alright it's a long story.......
So, basically, the girl of my dreams was kinda forced out of my life about 4 years ago (moved), and we were pretty close but not quite "there". I thought I'd gotten over her, but apparently not. Anyway, she has come back into my life, but just until May before I take off for summer training. I really don't know what to do. I thought I had my feelings under control and all, but they came back stronger than they were before. It's hard for me to talk to people. I really need some advice, preferably from girls (because you'd know yourselves better) I am not sure what I should do....I thought maybe a poem, or something like that would work, but dont want to try it without consulting someone first.
P.S.--If you think a poem or a song or whatever is a good idea, tell me one I could use.

Thanks, ladies, I really appreciate it.

Answer 1

Sure. You got these strong feelings, and you think a poem or song will help. But you want to use someone else's words. Yep. Them feelings are real strong.

Long Live Jambi

Answer 2

Don't take this personally, because your idea is pretty impressive for any guy at all, but don't use a poem or a song. Unless you're going to take her by surprise with a romantic experience and sing it to her, then it's not the way a girl wants a guy to express his feelings with. Ask her out, or take her some place where the two of you can talk one-on-one and tell her how you feel, but don't poor your feelings all over her, or else she'll start avoiding you. Be sure not to do this in a place where people are around and their attention is focused about you, or else you'll embarrass her. Keep the plan simple and clean, and don't fight how you feel. Don't push away or close the door upon what you're thinking, or it may be shut away forever, leaving you to have given up what might have been.

Answer 3

You know what? I think you have genuine feelings for this girl. And I do wish to see things work out between the two of you, especially if she feels the same way about you.

The thing is, it's been years since you and her had done something together so it's better to start off slow. Take her out on fun, casual dates and if you see her showing signs of interest you guys can do something more romantic. The point is, let her get to know you (again) after four long years of separation. This is also for you, so as to make it less awkward when you tell her how you feel about her.

Poems with music would be great. The question is when and where? You know the answer lies in your heart. For the poem, it's best you write one yourself. As for the music, it could be something instrumental... soft instrumental, since you have the poems to fill the lyrics-less music, right. I wish you well.

Answer 4

I think a poem or song would be fine but truthfully it would be better if you just told her flat out how you feel about her. While we like the romantic side of a poem or song we also like you using your own words to describe how great we are. It's so much more intimate when it comes from your own heart. If your nervous about it just write down everything you like about her and how you feel about her and then when you're talking to her you'll remember all those things and it will all come together. Good luck and hope everything works out well. Sounds like you've been waiting a long time for her

Answer 5

First in the past 4 years have you experimented with others? Have you had relationships? If not you need to do this first. There is a fine line between love/fate/destiny and infactuation. People are infactuated with things they missed or cannot have. Also consider where she is in her life.

If you have considered all of this nothing works better than talking. Poems and songs are great but when you speak to someone you see and hear their reaction.

Answer 6

Ok. Try just asking her on a simple date first. If you hit it off, continue dating. If you become a couple, yay! If you don't, you will eventually get over it. You might feel as if your heart is broken, but you will be okay. If you don't hit it off right away, try a second and third date. After that, stop trying because you will start to feel too awkward. And if you don't get her, or she rejects you, spend time with other guys. For the first day, stay at home and wallow in self pity. Then, try working out for the second. Then, spend some time with friends(guys) on the third day. After that, you should be alright.
Good luck. Keep me posted!

Answer 7

After 4 years-- Leaving in May you need to tell her right now how you are feeling. Take her away somewhere special Dinner on a Yacht, Dinner Cruise, beach, park, --you know her favorite places. Be yourself if you do not know how to express yourself write it down your feelings for her even if you do not give it to her. Hallmark, 99 cent, stores have nice cards that may express how you feel. A little book read it; buy it if it expresses what you feel for her and sign and date it.
If you believe you really love her take her to a jewelry store and buy the promise ring. Maybe she already has someone. You need to ask her in person in private and hold her hand look into her eyes. Come on with it dude. God be with u!

Answer 8

Just be honest with her tell her how you feel. it's better to try then to wonder what if. just sit her down and explain what you just told us in your question. don't use a poem or a song or do this by email or phone, its better if its done in person. pick a quite place and make sure she'll feel comfortable there and just tell her.
If she doesn't feel the same way than at least you will have no regrets and always wonder what if i had told her. good luck.
from a women of regret.

Answer 9

I don't suggest a song or poem from anyone else because it always is more meaningful if you come up with the words yourself.

If you're too shy to talk in person or on the phone, you should write a letter or email. That way you can take your time, erase, and reword until you're saying exactly what you want to.

Answer 10

Girls tend to over analyze things so talk to her, be open clear and to the point. This sets a good foundation. Poems and songs are lovely but they sometimes can have various interpretations that lead to misunderstandings. So talk to her! Believe it or not the sexiest thing that a man has ever done was come at me strieght, and expose his true feelings.

Good luck :-)