I am scared of weddings. I cry at them - ALL of them. On tv, in movies...you name it. And I hate crying in front of people. I get so embarrassed. I plan to elope when it is my turn to marry. But anyways, I am going to a wedding soon and am having serious anxiety about going to the ceremony. Is it WRONG to go to the reception and not the ceremony? The wedding is for a co-worker friend, not a family member.
2007-03-23 16:21:49 · 23 answers · asked by lollipop 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
People on here are really insensitive...
It is NOT wrong to just attend the reception.
In fact, some brides have a smaller ceremonies followed by larger receptions!
If you're feeling that much anxiety, don't attend the ceremony. You don't want to have a meltdown on her wedding day, and I'm sure she doesn't want you to have a meltdown, either.
If you feel open enough, talk to your co-worker and explain your situation. If you do not feel open enough, tell your coworker you have an earlier, yet unavoidable, engagement, but that you'd love to see her and her new hubby at the reception! Either way, she'll understand. She invited you, so I'm sure she just wants to share this day with you- whether it's at the ceremony, reception, or both.
2007-03-23 16:45:45 · answer #1 · answered by lilmissmiss 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No not really. Now if the co-worker wanted you specifically to come to the wedding them skipping it wouldn't be advisable. But if they just invited you in hopes that you would show up for it then no u aren't obligated to go to the ceremony. For me I missed a family members wedding because of me having to work and I got off late. So what I did was let them know about and told them if I make it for the wedding then they will see me, if not they would see me at the reception. This worked out great for me and they weren't upset and was very understandable. If u are afraid to confront your co-worker about your fears then don't talk to them about it and just got to the reception only. But be prepared for the dreaded question of did u like the ceremony or things about it. This is where you will have to tell the truth about it or here's a tip. find a friend that you work with or know that knows the co-worker also and swap info about the ceremony that way when the question comes up at least you know something about it. But otherwise have fun with the newly weds and help celebrate their union together.
2007-03-24 00:09:19 · answer #2 · answered by Friendly 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Lots of people don't go to the ceremony and only go to the reception. If this is not a family member, that is fine. There is nothing wrong with that. Most likely, the bride and groom won't even know you weren't at the ceremony. They will be too caught up in the moment and will be wondering were they close family and friends are, not their co-workers.
Save yourself time and just go to the reception.
2007-03-23 23:29:59 · answer #3 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes it's REALLY tacky to do that... it's not like it's one of those cases where they have a very small intimate wedding followed by a big party... if you are invited to both you should go to both! It would really hurt my feelings if a so-called friend only looked at my wedding as an opportunity to go to a party :(
And crying at weddings is traditional..no need to be embarrassed! Just leave the mascara off until after the service :)
2007-03-27 18:14:39 · answer #4 · answered by endorable 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of people cry at weddings so that's really not a big deal. But too, many people skip the wedding and head for the reception and honestly I don't see anything wrong with that (as long as everyone doesn't get that same idea).
I, too, would like to elope and my boyfriend and I have been discussing that option as being what we want instead of having the whole big 'to do' like everyone else (when we;re paying for it) wants. Just seems like such a big waste of money to make everyone else happy.
2007-03-24 00:05:43 · answer #5 · answered by Sunidaze 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes. The reason to go to the reception is to celebrate the ceremony you witnessed earlier. I cry too at weddings - all of them. Just bring lots of tissues.
2007-03-24 07:03:42 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, it is not wrong to go to just the reception if it is not a close friend or family member. A lot of people only go to one or the other, that is not usually viewed as a problem as long as you fill out your response card accordingly. Many of my co-workers skipped the ceremony and went to our reception and it was no big deal. I was just glad they were there for the fun!!!
2007-03-23 23:27:37 · answer #7 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Well to tell you the truth who cares if you cry it's just a wedding. I see people cry all the time at weddings! No big deal. You probably won't be the only one crying!!
2007-03-24 01:20:27 · answer #8 · answered by Princess 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
beings ur such an emotional person(nad don't be ashamed of it), now a days alot of people only go to the reception, especially when it's not a close relative getting married, so get ur best outfit on go to the reception and have a good time, that's what the bride&groom would want u to do ENJOY!!!
2007-03-23 23:29:12 · answer #9 · answered by neici 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, lots of people do not go to the cerimony. Just go the reception and have fun. Eat the food, drink and party.
2007-03-25 04:06:57 · answer #10 · answered by msknowitall 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋