how do i turn him down without hurting him?
2007-03-23 16:21:40 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him flat out no. If he is pushing you to have sex, that is all he is in it for and will eventually dump you anyway (even if you give in), so wouldn't you rather him dump you and you not giving up instead of putting out and having him dump you anyway?
2007-03-23 16:26:24 · answer #1 · answered by lxl_serendipity_lxl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I slept with my boyfriend for the first time when I didn't really want to either and I've always regretted it. Don't do it unless you really really really want to. Just tell him exactly how you feel. Be completely honest. Let him know you just don't feel physically or emotionally ready right now and you really care about him but you just don't want to go to that next level yet. Tell him that when you are ready you'll let him know. If he gets mad or doesn't understand then that's a sure sign he's only in it for one thing and you should run for the door. If he cares about you he won't be hurt but rather understand and be patient for you. Hope this helps
2007-03-23 23:26:08 · answer #2 · answered by blessed mommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say no and if he can't understand that you are not ready then maybe he is not the one for you. A man that loves you will respect your wishes. And accept you for what you are. So stay strong, don't let him push you into something that you do not want to do.. Just pray for God to give you guidance and do what you thing is right in God eyes.
2007-03-23 23:27:58 · answer #3 · answered by kool aid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him. Boy you better back the hell up. Respect me cause Im not gonna give myself to just anyone allright? You dont like it theres the door. Dont let it hit your *** on the way out!
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Okay this is what you could do. Say something like "Im sorry, I know you want this, but Im just not ready. It has nothing to do with you. I really like you and everything, but Im just not ready. I hope you respect that, cause I dont want to lose you.
2007-03-23 23:28:19 · answer #4 · answered by leyanne7676 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to *** off. He has to respect you tell him you are not ready. Just make sure you are not alone with him in a place where you can't run away from him. My bf raped me. Ever since I have tried to date but it fails. So my point is if he does not respect your opinion, honestly you do not this man in your life. There are people who are willing to wait without even asking why and begging.
2007-03-23 23:25:59 · answer #5 · answered by thatswhoIam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him firmly that you don't feel ready to have sex. If he pushes you or makes you feel uncomfortable, you should break up with him. If he wants the real you, he should be able to resist sex.
2007-03-23 23:25:41 · answer #6 · answered by Sally 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why worry about hurting him? He acts like all he wants is a booty call. Just tell him NO means NO and if he dont like it, move on.
2007-03-23 23:25:51 · answer #7 · answered by Common Sense 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you are just not ready yet, but that you do care for him. He should understand and should wait until you are ready, if he truly cares about you.
2007-03-23 23:28:22 · answer #8 · answered by Shanna h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
explain to him that you are not ready to sleep with him for the time being, and that he should respect you just as much.
2007-03-23 23:25:43 · answer #9 · answered by K R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him you atr not ready for that yet. If he gets mad, tell him to find someone he may really care about.
2007-03-23 23:25:02 · answer #10 · answered by Nort 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋