I recently met a girl on a high school trip, im from NYC she's from Detroit. We really hit it off, and i have the feeling that she liked me. I know that i like her. The trip lasted 4 days, and on the last day we said our good byes, and i left without exchanging information. Now i am not a sentimental person, i never discuss relationships with anyone (friends or family). And whenever i am interested in a girl, i think of her for a week and then just become friends with her and get on with like unaffected. But i am having a hard time getting over her, i really cant stop thinking of her. Now i do know how to get her information, but even if i do that, i cant just call her out of the blue, that would make me come off as some weirdo. I really just want to hear her voice and laugh again. I am going crazy thinking of her, i get sad out of nowhere and i am watching chick flicks. I am usually a "friends with benefits" type of person. But i don't even think about her in that way at all.
Help.
2007-03-23 16:20:55 · 11 answers · asked by mh10190 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's obvious that you want to get in touch with her again. And in your state, giving her a call 'out of the blue' could go horribly wrong. Tongue tied and twisted you could wind up sounding like a weirdo. (Ah, the joys of youth.)
Even though long distance relationships seldom work, I say go for it. Enjoy it while it might last but realize that it will wind up being a learning experience more than anything else.
You said that you can get her contact information easily enough, right? An address or email address as well?
How about sending her a letter or email to start with. Remember to keep it short and make it specific to something you might have talked about while together.
Did she mention a favorite band? Send her a link about when the group will be in her area. Tell her that her excitement about that group got you to doing some research on them and you spotted the information. And you thought that she would be interested. I think you get the idea. This would work if she was discussing film, architecture, art, etc. From here you weave in a few open ended questions for her to respond to. At this point it becomes easier to snowball all of it into a phone conversation.
No addresses and only the phone number? Take the same tact. Think up a question that only she can answer for you and make that the reason for the call. "Hey, you mentioned XYZ college when we met. I'm trying to weigh my options and wanted a personal opinion about the feel of the campus."
Whatever course you take be genuine. If you're dishonest then it will show. And don't be afraid to say, "I really liked our time together. I enjoyed talking to you." And it goes without saying to never say, "I love you," in that first contact.
In this way you don't get that 'weirdo' feeling when you start that first phone conversation.
Good luck
2007-03-23 16:48:07 · answer #1 · answered by pensacola_sand 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can get her contact info, try to get an email address. This may seem less wierd than calling. Or find out if she has MySpace or another website account. Contact her on one of those. There is also the possibility of snail mail as well. This at least gives you the opportunity to put things on paper/or computer without coming across as a wierdo and it gives her the opportunity to reply in her own time or decide whether or not to reply. A phone call is hard to avoid. Then again, if she is interested, she would be impressed on how you researched to find out contact info and took the time to write. If you write to her in any means, you can give her your contact info phone included and this will open the door for her to call you.
YOu definitely have it bad for her. It is definitely worth the risk of trying to contact her whether it works out or not. The worst thing you can do to yourself is always wonder "what might have been"
2007-03-23 23:30:08 · answer #2 · answered by Kristie Y 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Take a shot at it and give her a call...a polite phone call isn't going to hurt her or you...
you could just say:
"Hey there...... Just had to call and let you know that you were thought of.....really enjoyed making your acquaintance and thought maybe we could pick up where we left off at....you know, maybe be friends? I'd like to give you an email address for us to keep in touch ......
so on, so on....just let the conversation take itself on towards a normal and natural conversation.... Though it may better to say to be friends, do you know if she has a boyfriend?, that is why I suggest saying friends.....
....but have to warn, long distance relations are rather difficult and sometimes they can work better as friends first only so you can get to know each other and then move on from there....Good Luck Dude!
2007-03-23 23:30:02 · answer #3 · answered by Rmprrmbouncer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you really think there's something wrong with just calling her? it won't seem like you're a "weirdo" if you just told her you wanted to have a long-distant FRIENDSHIP. just say it was really great that you met her and you still want to talk to her and have fun. also, phone isn't the only way to communicate. once you've called her, you could work something out with her and establish a penpal system, or by email or instant message. then, you can talk, but you can also share pictures and become better friends that way. just don't scare her away by telling her you can't stop thinking about her :]
2007-03-23 23:25:12 · answer #4 · answered by miisty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she likes you as much as you obviously like her then calling her wouldn't be a problem, but take into consideration that you only knew her for 4 days. she might not be the person that you think she is. if you do deside to call keep in mind the time difference between NYC and Detroit, also keep in mind that she might have a boy-friend
2007-03-23 23:29:13 · answer #5 · answered by rickys_lil_mama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just try getting her info but before you do that make sure it's okay for you to get maybe you should see if she has a myspace page and then you could send her a message and it won't seem weird if you don't want to call her directly on the phone
2007-03-23 23:25:47 · answer #6 · answered by Juliaysha247 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, If you like a girl make sure you ask her for her name and number, If she does not want to give you her phone number at least you will know she does not want you rather than wondering what would have happened.
2007-03-23 23:30:01 · answer #7 · answered by Joseph 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call her. she wont think youre weird, us girls love it when guys take a risk and call out of nowhere. Besides, you live hundreds of miles away from her. What do you have to lose?
2007-03-23 23:25:18 · answer #8 · answered by idbangrobertplant 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems like you really like her.get her info call her-its not weird to do that. she'll think your sweet. and see how things go from there. go get her
2007-03-23 23:25:01 · answer #9 · answered by jenperera 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ah it seems like karma has finally come to bite your behin..
2007-03-23 23:27:26 · answer #10 · answered by Sunset 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋