Phone s.e.x.?

Question

I met this man about three months ago and we met a few times for dinner and drinks. We kissed and made out some but we didn't have sex. He left March 1st to go to Iraq, he is a soldier. Wonderful man. We email quite often, but he wants to call me and lets have phone sex. I have never had phone sex and am a little shy at things like that. How can I do this with him without being so shy. How do you have phone sex. What do you say and what do they say and what kind of sounds do you make. Please I am serious, I really want to do this with him but honestly dont know how!!!

Answer 1

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Answer 2

Simple, really. You crawl into bed, preferably naked, get on the phone and answer the questions he asks you. You will both masturbate, often using very explicit language. Moan, breathe deep, be very descriptive about what you're doing with your hands, how it feels, what you want him to do to himself, what you imagine it would be like if you were in bed together...

Rub yourself, encourage him, feed off his rising passion, be open and willing to let your own orgasm build and explode.

Phone sex is a LOT of fun. All the elements of fantasy are there, no one smells bad, slips at the wrong time, it all works well, because YOU are controllling your own sexual experience.

The anonymity also frees you up to be less shy than usual. Get into it. It IS sex of a sort, a real sexual experience with another person. It is FUN!

If unsure, try calling one of the many phone chat lines that offer 'always free for women'. Practice. Get GOOD at phone sex. You'll be glad (and very tired) that you did...

(And if you want to practice, let me know...LOL)

Answer 3

I have had mixed reactions with Internet Sex and Phone Sex .. trying both exactly once.

It of course on one hand is extremely exciting .. and the other hand it is kinda of a big let down.

It works best if you both like to think sexy thoughts and then listen to someone else talk sexy. and or "dirty" .. there is a difference and you might like one or the other or both.

Best if you both are aural people .. people who like to listen .. instead of people who like to look or people who like to touch.

The key is that is revolves around the two of you building a sexy story together .. sorta being together and of course the setting can be anything you or he imagine.

I would almost recommend against phone sex in favor of talking intimately together .. that can be hot too. Getting to know the other person .. their likes .. dislikes. can get hot too. Trust builds intimacy.

So tell your friend that you are concerned .. say at a non phone sex time like lunch .. and then if you still want to go through with it .. be brave and you are a girl and he knows what he wants so let him lead like dancing (or sex?!?) but guide him a bit if he says things you really don't want to hear.

You can take your queue from romantic novels or even jokes...Internet stories .. etc.

And because it is over the phone or over IM you MUST perhaps tell the other person more of what you want and don't want .. because all you have is Telling .. you don't have expressions and you don't have body language and you have limited non-verbal communication.


A joke I read last night that might be a good lead in to a phone sex session was that a young man who was very shy was told by his therpist to "sieze the moment" when both were interested and have sex right then and there. A week later .. he tells how re romanced his honey over dinner .. and they had an electric spark and he took the advice and it worked great. But then he says to the doc .. but alas .. we can never go to that Resturant again!
o honey I cooked this fine dinner , but it can wait, I have been wanting you for so long .. etc...

or mail order bride , or a girl so hot for someone that she waits by the door w/o her panties hoping for her lover or a new lover to ravish her ... etc.

Nancy friday has some inspiring thoughts in her books.

There are lots of free stories on the internet that you can borrow from .. but key points are ..a sexy senerio that then leads to rubbing on the good parts. If this sounds icky to you .. then perhaps you should not do it.

The sounds you might make would be just like if you were with someone or even "by your self" but you might have to exagerate a bit because it is going over the phone.

but also you are playing with fire .. you can be offended or be offended more easily here too . so be kind.

Once in real life .. and it might be worse over the phone .. I made the judgement call that at first might have been a big mistake .. and then worked out surprisingly well .. my friend Ms. N wanted me to talk dirty to her whilst we played, which was a first for me .. so in a moment of husky breathless inspiration with my brain and other parts in a knot

I told her she was my little c.s. ( details of the word truncated) btw it WAS what she was doing at the time.

and at first she was mortified and her eyes grew really big .. and then looking into my eyes to see I still loved her .. she got extremely submissive and excited .. go figure .. but that kind of fire can get more out of hand with talking over the phone and not in person to smooth out wounded feelings.

You might get some guidance from an odd book that I only skimmed .. "the shy exhibitionist" which is the world you are edging into.

good luck.

Answer 4

That's the closest i have come to the really thing other than a fingering on her here and there. I usually have her play the in and out game. The name speaks for itself. He tells you in out and around and u moan and enjoy hearing his voice and he beats it. Play games ask sexy secrets about each other and talk naughty. tell him what your wearing and make him choose either for you to use fingers or a dil or a brush or something. Put the phone up to your **** and go in fast and out fast make the noises to make it even better. If you need any other tips go to porn sites. That's all i know. Hope it helps. Good luck.

Answer 5

You will like phone sex if you love sex. You basically talk dirty to each other to get both of you horny and aroused. Then he'll ask you to finger yourself and wants to hear you moan and heavy breathing. He will be cumming while he's listening to you. This is all really just a way of masturbating. You should give phone sex a try. Have fun!

Answer 6

just make it an out of body experience. pretend youre a professional. pretend you know exactly what youre doing, even if you dont, and you wont feel as shy. Go with the flow and have fun. say things you think he would like to hear. Youll know when youre doing something right.

Answer 7

Having sexover the phone by explaining what you're doing to the other person - like cybersex but on the phone
Example:
A: oooh, baby, im rubbin my thick co%k in your tight wet pu$$y
B: oh, im gonna ***!!! aaaahhh!!
a form of virtual sex; a sexual intercourse but done remotely and verbally, i.e. two people talk by phone and their deliberate choice of words (as well as intonation, tone of voice) is intended to produce sexual arousal of the party talked to. As a follow-up to its verbal level, phone sex can be connected with masturbation; in its other version, phone sex is synonymous to an act of masturbation being described and commented on over the phone to turn the other party on.

She went on how she liked doing it and he gave her his hot load of words that touched her almost like his hands did when they made love yesterday, and all that made her nipples grow harder and harder. In fact, they spent an hour on the phone indulging in phone sex.

Answer 8

well. tell him that you don't know, but that you are willing to try it, and HE will guide you through it, you just gotta go into it with lots of imagination, and willingness to experiment. it will be ok, you'll be great (maybe not the first time, but as you do it more often you will then use your fantasies... and make them true with him... over the phone... ) good luck!! =0)

Answer 9

gurl do it once. im 18. i did for like 2 years straight. but now.its played out.i would rather have the real thing. but u mite enjoy it. i did for a while

Answer 10

let him start out first then save some money because your going to have to buy some xxx tapes to get an idea of what to do. guys love that type of stuff.

Answer 11

Well you gonna play with your self and moan like your having sex say things like you like that baby, you wanna come over and **** me right now...Things like that..First time gonna be always hard but trust me you will like it...