What to Do when your to stressed?

Question

my brother just moved back home and i feel all my energy has gone into figthing him. i am a female he is a male. at frist we was best friends now we can't stand each other. every time i come home from school i get a headach. sometimes i have fun but most its just a big figth. i am also stressed out by school all the school work and everything is so stressful i am now passing most of my class but then i wanted a break for a day but my mom said no what do I DO

Answer 1

I am so sorry about your current situation. Ask him WHY is he acting like such a jerk and a bully. Tell him that you are going through enough and don't need him to stress you out anymore. Say it LOUD to him. Ask him to go pick on someone else or get a hobby or something. I went through that with a cousin as a child. I was so fed up that I went ballistic and beat the crap out of him with a stick. Now we are very close. Not saying to use violence but sometimes you need to let them know who YOU are.

Answer 2

1) You could take a bubble bath.
2) Call your local beauty school. Go there and get a new hairstyle or a massage. It is really cheap!
3) Volunteer somewhere to get out of the house.

Remember that your brother probably didn't want to move home either. It was just necessary. He probably won't be there any longer than he has to anyway. Just be nice and remember that 40 years from now, your parents may be deceased......and he will be the only person in the world that truly cares what happens to you. And you may be the only person in the world that truly cares what happens to him. Why not give him a hug and tell him, "Welcome home!"

Answer 3

Your home situation is very important when your taking a lot of classes, because you need time to really exercise your mind. If your mom doesn't understand this reason, try to find a friend you can stay with sometimes or at least where you can study and then use your room at home to sleep there until you graduate. When you get a job and save money start shopping for an apartment.

If your parents can afford it, see if they could put you in a nice clean studio apartment.

God Bless

Answer 4

When i was smaller i had the same problem, it depends maybe its ur age, but just get a hobby or something, Dance, or pray like some of da other answers, thiers always things you could do, or u could find and after school program so you wont come home to early than do that, and ignore him, and if you want to make him mad then everytime you fight, laugh, and don't show ur mad, that always worked for, wow now i feel bad for my lil sister, oh well we grown and we have are own life, its kind of a time period

Answer 5

Hard to answer without knowing what it is you fight about.

Every argument is about something, but it's not always about the thing you're yelling about at the time (in other words, when someone says "I hate you!" what they can mean is "I'm frustrated," or "I'm scared and don't want to admit it," or... any number of things. Plus, "Do you have to leave your junk all over the place?" can mean "I feel like I don't have a space of my own - your stuff is everywhere," or "I don't like not having any control over how messy things are," or "I'm annoyed with you about something else, so just the sight of your stuff irritates me").

First off, the stress. You need to find a space - a room with a door that shuts - where you can decompress before you interact with your brother. Because of the way the brain works, people who are very stressed literally lose their minds - the brain pushes blood into the areas that handle "fight or flight" response, and away from the parts of the brain that handle higher functions, like reasoning. This means that when two people are yelling, they literally aren't thinking. They're just reacting. The more tense things get, the less you and your brother are really talking at all - you're just making loud noises at each other that really mean "stop upsetting me and go away!"

So. First off, when things are tense, you go into a room - your room, the bathroom, any room with a door that shuts. You sit down and take a looong, slow breath, hold it for a couple of seconds, then let it out slowly. Count it out - in -2-3-4...hold-2-3-4... out -2-3-4-5-6-7 (you want the "out" to take longer than the "in"). Do this a few times. You'll feel your body relax.

Now, BEFORE talking to your brother, think about what's going on. When do your arguments start? What do they seem to be about? Somewhere, there's a pattern, and you need to find what it is in order to deal with it.

Once you've got it pinned down (as in "they seem to start every day when we come home") you have a couple of approaches. One is to talk to him - CALMLY - without making accusations. A simple "I feel like we used to get along, but now we don't, and I'm not sure why." You listen to what he says - don't argue, just listen. Whatever he's saying is true, to him. If he can talk to you calmly about it, then you try to find an answer that works for you both.

If he can't, or won't, then you accept that he's not ready, forgive him, and resolve not to get drawn into an argument that will just upset you, make you tense, and accomplish nothing. When you see him, you take that deep breath and let it out slowly. If it gets too bad, you go that room with a door for a few minutes. You give him space, because if he can't discuss it with you calmly, then he's not ready - but that doesn't mean you have to just suffer. You can let him alone and go do something else.

Answer 6

When I'm stressed out I exercise. It helps when I'm really mad too cause I'm burning all that energy. Usually when I'm done i feel a lot better. You might try it and see if it helps. I was in the same situation with my brother and I promise it will get better once you are all seperated again. Sometimes relationships just need their space literally. So good luck

Answer 7

okay that dude is a Awhole. ne way pray baby! just ask for courage and strenght. luv ur brother froma distance.a start going out and do things on 4 urself

Answer 8

Pray to the LORD to have strengh to feel better about you situation, also try to read the scriptures, also take time to relax.

Answer 9

Stay out of your brother's way. Don't cross paths and keep to yourself.

Answer 10

If Im stress i just hold my boyfriend hand and i feel better!!!
Try it, its really works =)