How do you get over someone you have been with for four years?

Question

My boyfriend of four years just broke up with me saying he's changed, grown out of me, feels like he needs to find something more and wants to take the time to find it...he even said he wished he could put me on pause...I even got that crap line that he wants to be friends....It's been about 2 weeks and I miss him like crazy and I'm still in love with him. He says there's nothing I can do to get him back and that I just have accept that...I'm trying to so badly but it's just so hard. I go to sleep and wake up still thinking he's beside me or at night I still think he will be coming through the door when he should be coming home from work....I feel so heart broken. I hate this crap that it's just going to take time!!!! I just don't know where to go from here..Help!

Answer 1

Your right it will take time, but its going to matter what you do with that time. I am sorry he has hurt you and just left you like that. But you have to things now to take up more of your time and more of your mind. Your in pain and he is not. That alone should set your goals and sights on other things then what you could have and can't have. It takes work but you can pull yourself together, especially if you get mad at him for him doing this, instead of wondering what you did or could of done.

Answer 2

I also went out with a guy for 4 years. He even ask me to marry him. I had the ring and everything. He didn't really tell me that he wanted to leave me. He just never called me or tried to contact me for 3 months. I had to dig a little to find out what in the world was going on with him. I though he would be a man and man up and just tell me that he didn't want to be with me. Yes I'm heart broken but I know It wasn't me. I never did anything wrong and that he need help before he can take on a wife. I put my life on hold and I should be doing the things I should have been doing a long time ago. Do I miss him. Yes. I'm like you. Everytime the phone ring I think its him or if I see someone who looks like him. My heart skips a beat. What happend to my guy is that he went to Iraq and now that his back home safe. He hasn't been the same person. He has pushed me and his faimly away. The people who want to help him and care about him the most. He doesn't want anything to do with us. He will never be the same person ever again. And even if he gets the help he needs and gets back on the right track it could be years and I can't put my life on hold for him. I need to move on with my life. I will never forget about him or stop loving him. Maybe this will make you feel better. Your guy may not be hurting now. But in a few years he will be kicking himself in the head. He will be tell himself that you were the one that got away and that he will have to find someone who will just be the flavoer of the week. What you are is a girl who doesn't come around everyday and he will find out some day. Just think he'll not only be hitting himself in the head for letting you go. But you will fall in love again and your forget about him because your be having to much of a fun time with your new boyfriend to care about him.