he's nice and i've known him my whole intire life, he was in hospitle when i was born. and now we're dating and sometimes he gets into us kissing and forgets im a little younger and wants to do more than i want to, he dosn't push me to do anything, but i don't want him to dump me because i don't wanna do more sexual stuff with him. what should i do?
2007-03-23 15:56:14 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
say no.
2007-03-23 15:59:12 · answer #1 · answered by zsaffireblue2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im afraid to answer this question because i can tell that you are really young. i was kind of sickened by the fact that this guy was at the HOSPITAL when you were born! oh my gosh! he's not forgetting that your younger. he's trying to get you to go further and further till there is no end to how far you will go. i dont think this is a healthy relationship. you dont do anything you dont want to first of all. secondly, your self esteem must be quite low to be concerned that a man would leave you for not putting out. millions of females go through this with men. it happens. its not the end of the world if he does. third, if he does leave you he was no good. i dont think he has good intentions anyways. please find someone who is more your maturity level. your running the wrong way for love!
2007-03-23 16:16:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The word is respect. If he loves you, he should respect you. If he can't take no for an answer, he needs dumped. You really need to talk to your parents about this. You whole life could be changed by giving in to him.
2007-03-23 16:02:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do anything you aren't comfortable with. A little advice: don't worry about him dumping you. If he dumps you because you won't have sex with him, then he is the type of guy that would dump you soon after you start putting out, anyway.
2007-03-23 16:00:47 · answer #4 · answered by lxl_serendipity_lxl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to let the man go. He is not the person for you. It is not good to be with an older man because you are probably not looking for the same thing in a relationship. And it is not fair to either one of you.
2007-03-23 16:02:50 · answer #5 · answered by kool aid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him you are not ready and you don't expect to be any time soon. if he can accept that with out trying to seduce you, then he's a keeper if he can't then he needs to be a walker, tell him to get to stepping. by the way in my opion never have sex with a guy until you are married. sex is just something people do, it has nothing to do with love, most men feel like when they've got that, they've got it all and they don't try to put anything else in the relationship.
2007-03-23 16:02:14 · answer #6 · answered by veronica r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, it's your body. Only do what you are comfortable doing. If he's not pressuring you at all, most likely he's respecting that already. Just talk to him about it, there's no point in guessing what he thinks. Communication is the key.
Good luck & take care.
2007-03-23 16:02:38 · answer #7 · answered by AC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
either you tell him youre not ready and he that he should respect that decision, or dump his sorry butt!! oh and what do u mean he was in the hospital when u were born? He's not to old is he. Dont be datin child predators.
2007-03-26 04:11:14 · answer #8 · answered by Maysia. [[funcky-chic]] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should only go as far as you feel comfortable going. Someone who doesn't respect your comfort leve is not someone who really loves you. It doesn't sound like he is pushing you into anything so if he is content with the status quo don't worry about him leaving you.
2007-03-23 16:01:30 · answer #9 · answered by Mel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he loves you and truly respects you, he won't dump you over it. i've had that problem several times and not one of the guy's dumped me. just tell him you are not ready but in meantime you love making out. just make sure that whatever you all are doing now you keep it fun and fresh.
2007-03-23 16:01:07 · answer #10 · answered by lilgracie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep telling him 'NO'. If he really cares about you he won't push you to do more then you want. If he don't care about you & gets mad & trys to get you to go against what you want then he isn't right for you.
2007-03-23 16:00:46 · answer #11 · answered by Ghost 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋