2007-03-23 15:54:51 · 10 answers · asked by amandarae_98 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I would say that this would depend on both their ages and your personal preference.
If they are older, I think it would be best to leave it alone, or even let the children decide. I went to middle school with a girl who was a foster child, and then she and her brothers were adopted by them. Since they were all 12 and above, the parents let them decide. One of the brothers kept his name, the other brother and her changed them.
If they are infants, then it would be fine to change it as you see fit. They will not remember being called anything else.
If they are toddlers, it would be fine to change it, too, if you want, but by this time they would already know their name and answer to it, so it would be difficult at first to get them to respond. They will eventually get used to their new name, though.
Good luck in your decision, and your adoption, and congratulations on your new kids!
2007-03-23 16:05:11 · answer #1 · answered by Queen Queso 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The last name can change on any age. I agree with the other answers in that it depends upon the age of the child. Prior to age 2, you could change the name with no problems with the child. With Toddlers who recognize their name or know enough to say their name, you may want to keep the child's first name and change the middle name and last name. With children that are older, it would be better for them to decide. Maybe the child hates their birth name or middle name, then they have the power to change them. Good luck w/the adoption process. Adoption is such a wonderful thing when people are actually committed to following through.
2007-03-23 16:11:49 · answer #2 · answered by Kristie Y 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We have adopted 5 children through our state's CPS. It depends on their ages, in my opinion. Our oldest children were in elementary school already and had their names established so we didn't change their names. The next to youngest was a toddler. We didn't really change her name so much as gave her a different version of the same name. With the youngest child, who was an infant, we changed her entire name. Good luck!
2007-03-23 16:17:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you change someone's name, even if it has a negative memory attached to it, like it was the name someone who abused you gave you, it is still part of your identity. To take that away would be bad. In fact, that is what they teach you when you adopt through DHS. If a name change is done, then at least part of the original name should be retained. An example we got in class was, a girl named Sylvia Elenor Xavier. (Initials read, "SEX" - parents did it on purpose to be funny). Adoptive parents didn't care for Elenor, so they renamed her first name, placed Syliva in the middle, and she took their family last name. I think that's the fairest to both parties.
2007-03-23 16:07:57 · answer #4 · answered by Angie 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I gave my 7 month old boy up for adoption 8 years ago. When he had went up for adoption his adoptive parents did change his name. Don't get me wrong it bothered me a bit, but I have learned to except it, and now its like nothing to me. They did keep the name I had given him as a second middle name. Maybe that might be a good help for you. Good luck on the adoption, your doing a wonderful thing.
2007-03-23 16:06:42 · answer #5 · answered by ann w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how old they are. If it's a baby then it's probably ok to change the name if you really want to. But, the older the child is the more disruptive it will be to them. They are already going to experience a huge change. Why give them another if it is not necessary?
2007-03-23 16:05:46 · answer #6 · answered by Freaked out 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not if they're old enough to know their names already. Unless you're talking about last names. I would definately change the last name.
2007-03-23 16:08:56 · answer #7 · answered by zil28ennov 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i really dont think u should change their names. this is a connection from the child (or children) and his/her birth parents. i think its partially out of respect that u leave their original names. i also think that the children are used to the names they have now.
2007-03-23 16:05:01 · answer #8 · answered by monkeypie6 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
depends on how old the children are. if they are old enough and you deside to change there names....let them choose their own name, that way it's guaranteed that at least the child will like the name, even if you don't.
2007-03-23 16:09:28 · answer #9 · answered by rickys_lil_mama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so. It sounds silly, but it seems right that you keep the names that were given to them.
2007-03-23 16:02:45 · answer #10 · answered by ugochi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋