we already have a boy and a girl 3 and 15 months i want one more but he say now way
2007-03-23 15:53:29 · 12 answers · asked by purplechic1982 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Marriage is a partnership & you are BOTH supposed to AGREE on all the different issues!
without argueing you should be able to tell him why you want another child
& he should be able to tell you why he doesn't want another one & if nothing can be worked out for one then no!
but really 2 kids today is plenty in my opinion
is he the bread winner? he probably knows its to hard now
& you dont want to work forever yourself
dont trick him or force him or the marriage will fail
2007-03-23 16:20:11 · answer #1 · answered by ausblue 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Men are more than a pump of sperm and a financial convince. They have sensibilities that women do not have and a counter to your way of doing things that make a couple greater than the sum of their parts.
The "why should he decide?" question shows how you are arrogant and are so full of yourself that you think men have no say in their responsibility for the family.
Combine this with your stupid belief that you do not need a marriage to have children, and you will be wondering why he is going to break up with you in less than two years.
It is you that broke things up with your belief that men have no say and that you can have a child with a man that has no commitment.
You put your family in a position that has no serious expectation of not falling apart in five years and has such a scene of entitlement to say that you are the only person to decide these things.
You should start thinking about what to do to save this relationship before you destroy it. If no for yourself, for your children. But then again, if you cared for your children you would not of put them in this situation.
2007-03-23 23:17:56 · answer #2 · answered by eric l 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
well you both should decide the decision but you need to concider the factors of the cost of raiseing a child now days and is he the only one working in the home are you working to help support these childeren or are you a stay at home mom maybe it is too much for him to handle if he is the only income provider and not to mention the medical bills that come with haveing a baby maybe he is haveing issuses of health and dosent want to trouble you with it scence you already have your hands full with 2 childeren you need to talk to him and see if you can find out what made him come to this decision on his own is age a factor , men dont think like a woman they just see haveing to work and take care of there familys and that is a huge responsibility on its self
2007-03-24 01:16:51 · answer #3 · answered by family fan 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ethically, you shouldn't have more than two anyway as you are replacing yourselves. But there are obviously problems in your relationship or you would be discussing this with him, not with thousands of strangers on Yahoo. He has no right to lay down the law to you, but on the other hand if you go behind his back and get pregnant, you will have to be prepared for him to leave you. Your choice. But I would recommend relationship counselling for both of you.
2007-03-24 06:28:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
it should be something that should be decided between the both of you. however, if you went behind his back and got pregnant, he may grow to accept and love the child, or he may just resent you as well as the child. feel blessed that you already have two healthy children and be happy. in the future he may change his mind, who knows?
2007-03-23 23:03:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should both sit down and discuss it before making a decision either way
2007-03-23 23:01:06 · answer #6 · answered by Maggie G 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well, I understand but try to put yourself in his shoes, if you didnt want anymore and he did .... wait a little while and talk about it again. maybe he will change his mind once these 2 precious ones are a little older and he misses having a baby around
best of luck to you
2007-03-23 23:13:44 · answer #7 · answered by jon jon's girl 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That should be a decision that the BOTH of you make together.
2007-03-23 23:45:59 · answer #8 · answered by mcgirl7 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well its not just his decision. You need to decide that togther! best of luck!
2007-03-23 23:28:47 · answer #9 · answered by bubbles 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he gets to choose how many kids he has..... you get to choose how many kids you have that is the way it works.... if you want more kids leave him and find a man who does....
otherwise just accept that for him he feels two is enough
2007-03-23 23:15:06 · answer #10 · answered by wollemi_pine_writer 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋