a child of 18 years of age killed in auto accident?
2007-03-23 15:52:07 · 11 answers · asked by goforit 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
There is absolutely no greater loss than the death of a child. It feels like your world has ended, and to some extent it probably has. You will forever be changed by this experience. It will take time to begin to recover. Take each day at a time and dont try and pretend you are coping as this will just prolong the recovery time. You cant speed up the process and little by little you may see a glimmer of the old you. You will begin to smile a little (and feel guilty for doing so) and gradually each day will be a little brighter and easier.
People will tell you time heals, but it doesnt, it just eases the pain. It will always be with you and always a part of who you are.
Over time you will become more of the old you who people remember but YOU will feel different.
They will always be part of your life
2007-03-23 16:03:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
God that is so sad. If it was your child you are talking about, i am so sad and my heart goes out to you. Honestly, i don't ever think you can REALLY cope with it and get over it. He was a peice of you and you will always remember him. I would pray a lot to him and to god. Visit him regulary, keep his spirit alive. I don't know how anyone copes with the loss of a child, they just do. Time heals all wounds for the most part. Take it day by day at first and keeping busy. Talk to friends/family. Have someone there with you all the time, at night time. This will keep your mind from directly thinking about it by having others around you talking to you constantly. Some ppl need med's to deal. I cannot imagine. Sorry i can't give you a direct answer but there isn't one. Good luck and god bless
2007-03-23 16:06:32 · answer #2 · answered by marriedsoon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey I am so sorry for your loss, I know your pain first hand. In 1996 I lost a son at age 13 and it still hurts today on his birthday or holidays. I am adding you to our prayer list as being a minister it's one thing to bury an older person but to bury a child who has hardly lived is very painful and it's tempting to turn away from God but I encourage you to go to God. Seek help from a member of the clergy to help you deal with your grief and talk about your pain don't hold it in. Holding it will only delay your recovery and healing. You never really heal totally but you will learn to cope better as time goes by. God Bless your family and take care.
2007-03-23 16:22:53 · answer #3 · answered by Georgia Preacher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my brother December 2005. My parents are still trying to cope with his death. You will have good days and bad days. We went to a grieving class at a local hospital that helped. It showed us that we were normal in the way were feeling. The main thing is to find a relative or friend that you can cry with, get mad with and share the good times with. If you don't have support it is going to be so much harder. Don't know if you go to church or believe in God! But for me I don't know how I would have gotten this far without God. My prayers are with you.
2007-03-23 16:23:35 · answer #4 · answered by mickyg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for your loss. Everyone copes with the death of a child differently. When my sister lost her son, she turned to her religion and to her family for guidance. She also kept a keepsake box of all his belongings, and every year, on the anniversary of his death, goes through the box to remind her of him. You might also want to talk to someone about your loss, or, if you're not comfortable, invest in a journal and put your thoughts there.
2007-03-23 15:58:19 · answer #5 · answered by Vicki M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am sorry as well.
I was pregnant back in 2004 and lost my baby at 27 weeks pregnant. mine was not ever here to cry but i can still feel the pain or losing a child.
we had to have him and have a funeral and all.
I dealt with the loss as good as I knew how.....Prayer and finding comfort in my husband and family. We still morn the loss of our son not knowing what he would be today what color his eyes would be. Knowing that he is in no pain and has complete peace is what keeps us going.
Even with this comfort I know that it will never go away but it has gotten easier over the years and remembering has became a little easier as well. Time and family.....
2007-03-23 16:23:49 · answer #6 · answered by rebekaH2003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know first hand what you are going threw and its been 5 years now for the loss of my son and if i wasent a christian and dident have the hope that i could make it to heaven to see my child again i wouldent have made it the 5 years , it has never healed i have my strong days and my weak days i just ask god when im weak to give me strenth for the day and he dose it i use to baricade my self in my room all day on his birthdays and the day he died but now its getting to where i have stoped doing that and am getting stronger by asking god for help thats the only way i can make it thru it ill keep you in my prayers for god to give you and your family strenth , and peace that you all need
2007-03-23 17:47:42 · answer #7 · answered by family fan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My heart hurts for those who have lost a child. I don't think there is anyway to get through that without the comfort and peace from God. God bless you
2007-03-23 16:07:21 · answer #8 · answered by Ama A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am very sorry about your son. My grandmother lost two children and she never really recovered. She died almost three years ago and when she was on her death bed she said she saw her kids comming for her.
2007-03-23 15:57:38 · answer #9 · answered by Martin A Neville 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i could not even imagine, but there faith, family , friends, one minute at a time, a lot of tears, for me i would need a straight jacket and meds, very very sad
2007-03-23 17:11:34 · answer #10 · answered by melissa s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋