Well, here is the deal. I just turned 15 years old, and I have been working on a relationship with somebody for nearly a year, prior to that we have known eachother for about two years. More recently we have become closer, enough to call eachother Boyfriend or Girlfriend. The thing is I feel that over that amount of time we have known how we feel about eachother (As I said, about a year.), we have barely gotten anywhere. I feel odd even saying that I love her out loud, even though I do love her with all my heart. Is it normal to be this shy about how I feel? Could it be the problem is we both are really shy like this? This also happens to be my first relationship.
Well, I hope some of you people can give me insight.
2007-03-23 15:49:37 · 9 answers · asked by necino 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, I should have added, that we both well know how we feel about eachother, we both know we are shy, and I know that it's alright to say how I feel to her, I get upset myself up for *not* saying or doing what I consider to be right because of my shyness.
2007-03-23 16:08:49 · update #1
Dont worry, being shy is a normal thing. Its your first time in a relationship, so its normal for a person to say "i love you" and feel embarassed about it. If you so really love her, just say it to her. I know she loves hearing those words from you, especially when you truely mean it. Theres nothing to be shy about. The more you say it, the more comfortable you will get with it. At least you dont say "i love you" just because you feel like thats what gfs and bfs do. But to make it less werid for you to be the only one saying "i love you," tell your gf to say it when she is ready to, so that you're not the only one saying it. When two people say it to each other all the time, it wont be embarassing to say it anymore.
Your relationship is perfectly normal, its okay to take things slowly. Taking things slower is way better than people in relationships who are rushing and being confused about what they want. Each relationship goes on its own pace.
2007-03-23 16:01:17 · answer #1 · answered by =P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just make yourself take each thing a step at a time. Since it's your first relationship, you will be shy. As you conquer each step, you'll have more confidence. Remember that even people who you THINK aren't shy have their own insecurities--that's human nature. Everyone just handles their feelings differently. Loud people are nervous,too, that's just THEIR way of overcoming it. We shy people are envious of them, but they feel exactly the way we do. Just tell her you're kinda shy about expressing your feelings to her--don't even tell her what they are yet--and see her reaction. Say things, like, I'm glad you're in my life--that could mean a lot of things, and see her response. If she's shy, too, you may have to take the lead--but don't put pressure on yourself, take it slow. If it doesn't happen today, plan to do it tomorrow--set a goal for something and stick to it--do it in a week, 10 days, etc. You can do it. You're no better or worse than the people you're envious of.
2007-03-23 16:01:52 · answer #2 · answered by Helen L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm pretty shy myself with meeting new people and such. It might be a problem for both of you to be really shy. I usually try to find a guy with a more loud personality. Well since its your first relationship that could also account for you being shy about your feelings because your scared she might not feel the same and you don't know if she really does. And it's not that is not ''normal'' it's just who your are, everyone is different.
2007-03-23 16:01:38 · answer #3 · answered by xalittlerainx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its normal to feel anxious and everyone feels a little shy at first. you just have to let it out. it doesn't matter what other people think. do what feels right. if you don't feel comfortable, don't do it. its possible you are both shy, but if you really want this, you'll do what feels right
2007-03-23 15:58:28 · answer #4 · answered by xgen1987 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its okay to be shy...it is your first relationship...any new relationship you will be shy and you will feel awkward that is why you guys soend time with each other and get use to being together..
you are not alone on the whole shy thing.. it happens..and it is normal
2007-03-23 15:56:10 · answer #5 · answered by brighterthansunshine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
digital mail is a huge thank you to start attempting to recover from being shy. i might advise typing out what you opt to declare in a notice checklist, that way you could spell examine it and look it over for some days. once you're specific which you're delicate with what you have typed, log into your digital mail, reproduction the text fabric, paste it, and hit deliver. That way, you have much less time to back out and could be especially confident with what you deliver.
2016-11-28 02:29:23 · answer #6 · answered by mosen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are still young and you don't really know what loves is.Just like me right now just don't know who should i choose.so just relax and express what u fell to her slowly & that come f4rom the bottom of u'r heart ok!!!
2007-03-23 16:01:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am. I think we need to first accept and love who we are.. only than can we open up to people..however we get there I do not know
2007-03-23 15:52:50 · answer #8 · answered by JamaicanmecrayZ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am shy too, ur not alone a lot of ppl are shy as well
2007-03-23 16:12:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋