So this boy asked me out to the dance. I said yes and thought about it and it just didn't feel right, so I said no the next day. He was cool with it, and he didn't mind. Now, he says that he does not like me and now I kind of wish we could of gone together. People tease us, and they say he says he hates me, so I say I don't like him even though I do. What can I do to make the teasing stop and let him know I want to go to the next dance with him without actually saying it. FYI i am way to shy to tell him this on my own.... So that is out of the question. Please and Thanks!
2007-03-23 15:47:50 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wellll hun hate ta tell ya, but guys arent mind readers, and writing a letter would just be a little grade schoolish. You should tell everyone else to just grow up and mind their own business. Because seriously, would they want people teasing them if they were in that situation? I think not. Stick up for yourself, but try not to get into a fight lol. But at the same time, try not to let it bother you to much, dont sink to their level and do the same thing as they did to you because then you'll be just as cold hearted and lame as them.
But as for the guy thing, I know you dont want to tell him, but you need to just sit down with him alone, so no one will bother you guys and just come out and explain yourself like you have on here, dont worry about him laughing or anything like that, because if he laughs at it, you'll know you shouldnt bother with him anyways, and that he's not worth your time. Tell him you're sorry that you said no to him and if you hurt him, but then explain to him how you do want to go.
But dont feel the need to like him just because of what everyone is saying, sit down and think about whether or not you really do like him. And if you dont, still talk to him about it so that things between you two will be better. Orrr you could just let it all blow over because honestly, in a few days people will have forgotten about it and found someone else and something else to make fun of.
I hope it all turns out well, feel free to send me an email and let me know how it turns out for you.
Best of luck,
Erica
2007-03-23 16:07:10 · answer #1 · answered by Erica C 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He may be just acting defensive in saying he didn't want to go with you to the dance anyway, when you turned him down, so as not to look foolish.
You mentioned that you turned down his invitation to the dance because it just didn't feel right. Maybe your "gut reaction" is right, and he's not going to be a good person for you to go out with. I know it must hurt that others are teasing you, but try to not let it bother you. If you feel that he is really a good person and you DO want to go with him to the dance, try to talk to him alone and say that you really wish you didn't say no, but you were just nervous and feeling shy at the time. Anyway, good luck!
2007-03-23 22:58:35 · answer #2 · answered by Jackie 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Teenage boys are just as sensitive as girls. Most girls don't know this.
Write him a note and tell him you are sorry for backing out of the last date but you hope he will take you to the next dance.
Don't let your pride get in the way. He likes you but you hurt his feelings so it is your responsibility to make amends. Remember, a girl can spend many a lonely night with her pride. Good luck.
2007-03-23 22:56:42 · answer #3 · answered by joker_32605 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ok he stepped out of his shell to ask you out. that means that he likes you a lot...he says he hates you because his ego is hurt, and that is understandable. i'm sure you can put yourself in his shoes right? if so, then you need to mustard up a little courage and do the right thing. say i'm sorry, tell him that you were shocked and didn't know how to respond to him asking you out. let him know that you never meant to hurt his feelings...ask him if you can start from the beginning...then you ask him out...
this will show him that you care enough. your friends will probably stop goofing once you guys talk to each other again.
2007-03-23 23:16:00 · answer #4 · answered by la21unica 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're sweet. It's not out of the question. Let's face it, if everyone gets 'busted' once and quits, it's a lousy world. You like him - you maybe hurt him(sorta - you're young) - try to do want you want to - get it goin' little lady - you like the guy. Us guys 'like' that too. Good luck - and please tell him how sorry you are!
2007-03-23 22:54:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk it over with your friends and ask them for help. They will be there for u and help u. Just try talkin 2 him online its a lot easier that way. But tell him that u DO like him (after u talk 2 him 4 a while) and c wat he says back.
2007-03-23 22:51:57 · answer #6 · answered by Kelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgetaboutit
2007-03-23 22:51:16 · answer #7 · answered by JamaicanmecrayZ 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If your not willing to be the mature one and tell him then nothing will be resolved. Ater all you broke the date not him.
2007-03-23 22:52:39 · answer #8 · answered by marie3681 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Just go home a cry, then tell your dad he broke your heart.
Your dad will know what to do with this SCUM
2007-03-23 22:50:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
what we're you thinking dumping him like that after you said yes!? oh and by the way, there's nothing you can do. just forget about it
2007-03-23 22:59:00 · answer #10 · answered by ~rAveLic!oUs~ 3 · 0⤊ 4⤋