My girlfriend is afraid that her parents will have this big fit if we goto the same college and I don't really care but how to I go about this?
2007-03-23 15:42:31 · 6 answers · asked by chargrsoccerplr8 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You'll never know until you let them know.
But...
College is a big deal. Parents have a lot of hopes and dreams pinned on college. #1 - it's the last chance for the parent to help lay the fondation on which their child will stand for the rest of their life. #2 - when your gf was born, her father held her and promised her he'd do whatever he had to send her to college (you will do this with your own someday!) #3 - it's a butt load of money - a true investment - and like any investment, there's a risk it won't pay off - and they don't want to take that risk.
All this emotional weight is placed on college. They may see you as a risk to her finishing. She may get pregnant or unmotivated or lose focus.
Your parents have the same concerns to one degree or another - but it's assumed that you will finish college - afterall, you won't get pregnant and need to take a semester off and never actually go back - now will you?
So...forgive her parents. They really have brought her this far and only want to bring her all the home to college graduation.
It may be hard to have a long distance relationship - but it can be done - and when it works, you have a rock solid start to a great marriage. All worth the effort.
So - give more thought to going to separate schools. There are benefits as well.
Best wishes.
2007-03-23 15:52:39 · answer #1 · answered by Stan W 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You dont care that your girl has concerns with her familys feelings about it?
You can choose where you want to go to college. You may be single when you go if you dont seem a little more sensitive to her needs about it.
Maybe you can go to a nearby college and everyone will be happy.
2007-03-23 15:48:12 · answer #2 · answered by independent101 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing, just say you're in this together and tell your girl friend's parents that you'll take care of her, and be sure you do! and oh, focus on your studies. just have fun but don't forget, you went there to study not to fool around with your gf. It is a way to prove that you're responsible enough, and by then your parents might be lenient to both of you,
2007-03-23 15:50:02 · answer #3 · answered by ~rAveLic!oUs~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lets c ur in college...so im guessin ur both 18...meaning ur both legal adults and are capable of makin ur own decisions without parental consent...seems to be a no-brainer fer me...do what u want...her parents cant stop ya
2007-03-23 15:47:05 · answer #4 · answered by RJ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let them have their fit. Follow your heart and do what you think is best. You 2 are adults now.
2007-03-23 15:46:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. put in an application for the college she's going to.
2. go to that college
they say there are no dumb questions only dumb answers...somehow i disagree.
2007-03-23 15:47:13 · answer #6 · answered by veronica r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋