First of all I know hes not cheating so dont even suggest anything like that!... He works a lot and always seems to be tired, plus he works 3rd shift so that doesn't help his sleeping problem... We're both in our early 20's so hes def not old! Hes like the only one ive been sexual with on a long term basis. We both really love each other, I just wish he wasnt so tired all the time... Any suggestions to how i can get him interested in sex more than only once a week?... no kinky stuff haha. Thanks!
2007-03-23 15:36:43 · 15 answers · asked by Jackie C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you answered your own question. It sounds like he's beat from that shift he works, compounded by a sleeping problem.
The human body is meant to wake when it's light out, and sleep when it's dark, and to regenerate by sleeping. That means (for an adult) sleeping 6-8 hours a night--straight through. Even young and in-shape people suffer when this is not observed by them.
If you are understanding and let him take his time getting back to normal for a young guy, you two will be copulating like crazed rabbits in no time. Doting on him will help--a backrub here, a home-cooked favorite meal there--and makes guys truly horny. Also, try something unusual, like answering the door totally nude when he gets home. (This move takes almost no preparation, and is incredibly hot. Just being clean is enough.) So get to it! :)
2007-03-23 15:49:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A lot of guys are "creatures of habit." Sounds like your guy is in a comfort zone. He gets what he wants out of sex and is happy with that, even if it is just once a week. If he works a lot he could be just tired. Girl magazines have lots of articles on spicing up things in the bedroom. How about a little lovin first thing in the morning when he is energized? You need to pay attention when he has the most energy and take advantage! I'm not sure what you meant with the comment of "no kinky stuff". I"ve got news for you: GUYS LIKE KINKY STUFF! Sexy lingerie, a massage with scented oil and a bottle of wine. You get the idea? Use your imagination and don't take sex too seriously. Make it fun and I'm sure once he sees how important it is to you, he'll accommodate your wishes.
Good Luck! xoxo, Zena
2007-03-23 15:59:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think the best approach is to help him get better sleep. I can understand being tired, I've worked third shift often in my life.
Some tips:
1. Get a high intensity light. Have him turn it on at night (bring it to work if possible.)
2. Help darken the room during the day when he sleeps.
Make sure he gets some exercise, if you could workout or go for a walk together that helps a lot.
Next, make sure he is eating properly. IF possible get him to lay off the caffeine (this will be tough, I slammed lots of Cherry Cola to get me through the night.)
Once he's able to sleep a little bit better, wake him up with a bj. He'll rise to the occasion and you will be satisfied more than once a week.
2007-03-23 15:45:09 · answer #3 · answered by Vegan 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear Concerned Lady,
As a psychology instructor and specialist in relationships, I will tell you that your boyfriend might need his own time and space to work on other issues.
1. Try to feed him what he likes. Is there a hobby that he likes? Try to show appreciation for it. Also, communicate your concern and talk about sex. You can also try to spice it up and do things, but don't show any anxiety over it. Dr. John Gray, the famed relationship experts, suggests that men run to caves, but come out when they are ready.
2. You mention that he works a lot, and that can fatigue individuals. You should try to call him at work (while he is on break) and leave sexy messages every so often and/or show up and perhaps get romantic with him during his break to jump-start his passion.
3. It seems from your question that you do understand that he is tired and may need to have some time to himself. Ask him also to have special time with you.
Hope this helps!
Jay
2007-03-23 15:44:40 · answer #4 · answered by S.P. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might have some hangups.
He might be totally overworked, especially if he works a manual labor job.
Can't offer much in the way of advice, because there are so many explanations for this problem.
2007-03-23 15:42:55 · answer #5 · answered by poweranni 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG hes ur boyfriend not ur husband. U shouldnt b having sex. Or living 2gether 4 that matter. Try reading the Bible 4 once! My Gosh i mean seriously dont have sex with him it ruins ur relationship.
2007-03-23 15:48:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Because you feel the need to post your personal things all over the internet where any perverts can get it. My gosh why don't you just ask him yourself instead of making a big deal out of it?
2007-03-23 15:41:58 · answer #7 · answered by Awkward.. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tease him. Start and stop, seduce and pause. That gets most guys (including me) totally turned on.
Oh, and of course, wear provocative clothing.
Good luck! I hope things turn out great.
2007-03-23 15:40:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go naked around the house. Play with your self in front of him. Give him a bath and keep him hard for 30 minutes without letting him ***. Watch porn with him and play with your self while you watch the girls. Go naked in the back yard. Go naked in the car. Go without panties to the mail and flash him and others.
2007-03-23 15:49:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Act like you are too tired, that usually works. The more you don't demand, the more he will want you!!
2007-03-23 15:42:57 · answer #10 · answered by Suzie R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋