Well Im 17 years old and Im 1month pregnant and eversince I told my boyfriend that Im expecting he's been real mean to me for example:he screams at me all the time about sleeping too much,yesterday he didn't want to help carry some heavy stuff I needed to put in the car so I had to do it myself,everytime I try to talk about the baby he Ignores me and changes the subject,when he goes to work in the mornings he doesn't kiss me anymore,this one time he kicked me on my belly and said it was an accident but it didn't seem like one. I dont now wat to do Im real scare of him now and If I leave where am I going to go, I can't go to my mom's place because if I tell her she's not going to want me there I just know it she's gonna tell me Im a discrase to our family, I try calling shelters and they say that they can't take me in because they need my mom's signature. Plus I dotn have any friends can anyone help me and confort me right now I would really appreciate that alot.
2007-03-23 15:34:34 · 10 answers · asked by Smiley17 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your boyfriend sounds like a jerk. Get rid of him.
Your family might take the news hard but, they'll be there for you. Go to them.
Good luck.
2007-03-23 15:40:12 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is probably very scared, too, and doesn't know how to handle this. Tell him it's his responsibility as well as yours--you didn't get pregnant alone or on purpose--it's his responsibility to use protection if you're not on the pill. He is acting immaturely by not stepping up to the plate--even if he DIDN'T care about you. Screaming at a woman is a form of abuse--they teach that at shelters. He should be supporting you--not blaming you. You aren't screaming and blaming HIM and you have more of a reason to do that--you're gonna carry his baby for nine months and get stretch marks and go through the changes, not HIM. And please, no matter what, tell your mom. If she won't help you, so be it, but you have to try to get her help. Talk to her on your level and ask her what you should do about this situation and the way your man's treating you. It's gonna come out sooner or later, so why not sooner. The longer you wait the more help you may need and if you do it sooner, by the time you need the most help, your mom may give in a be there for you. Good luck...and mostly, stand up for yourself. You are a person--make yourself a great person and a great mother. Soon you'll have someone who will ALWAYS be there for you--your child and then you won't need ANYONE else.
2007-03-23 15:45:53 · answer #2 · answered by Helen L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh sweetie!!!!! You need to be strong right now and think of your baby! I know it's hard right now and there's probably so many emotions going through you that you don't know what to do and everything seems overwhelming but you have to look at your situation rationally. On one side, he could just be freaked about about impending fatherhood. However, the fact that he screams at you all the time and is not helpful kinda shows that he's not too impressed with the thought.
The fact that he kicked you in the belly is a HUGE warning sign! The thing about abusive men, is that they'll do something to hurt you and then right after claim it was an accident or that they didn't mean to do it. I know you're going through a tough time right now, but you deserve better than someone who treats you badly. If you are scared of him and worried about the life of your child please, get out of there!
Have to told the shelters of your situation? If you explain that there is a chance that you're in an abusive relationship, they should do what they can for you!! If he gets abusive again sweetie you may have to involve the police to make sure that you and your child are protected!
If you need to talk or whatever, email me !
2007-03-23 15:44:13 · answer #3 · answered by Mandy L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a situation like this earlier this week, i was soo afriad i was pregnant and when i tried to tell my boyfriend he kind of neglected it and played it off, that really annoyed me so i told him that i was afraid and i needed to sort things out just incase he told me that he was just worried and scared and he just has different ways of dealing with things, but if you can't even talk to your boyfriend i would reccomend getting out of the relationship, especially if he's kicked you in the stoamch and you're thinking it wasn't an accident. He could eventually become abusive to you and your child. Maybe you could try and call his mom if she's around or even an aunt or someone. You need to get help if he isn't going to be there to provide for you emotionally and physically. Good luck with e verything<33
2007-03-23 15:42:03 · answer #4 · answered by angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing 2 do n dis case is 2 pray 2 God & ask him 2 help u break the news 2 ur mom. When u do dat it would make things much more easier. Next have a mother-daughter conversation & let her know how u feel. Dont be ashamed 2 tell her how he treats u & how u felt b4 u told her about ur situation. Last but not least u need 2 talk wit ur boyfriend. Make sure u make him fill dirty and guilty. Tell him how it makes u feel when he treats u like dat. Let him know its his baby ur carrying & dat if he acts dat way 2 u know u need 2 leave him because he prolly aint ready 2 take care of of datkid n da future. If he continues 2 hit u leave. If he ever asks u 2 marry him please dont fall 4 it. Cuz dats how dey do. They get u knocked up, get stressed & take it out on da mother of their baby, have sudden mood swings, regret wat dey do, continue 2 beat u, den ask 4 yo hand n marriage.
Be strong & take care of yo biz
2007-03-23 15:55:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He obviously doesn't love you, He used you, used you for sex, you got pregnant (it takes two of course)and now he regrets it and is angry at himself and is transfering this anger onto you. No matter what go back to your family and tell them exactly what you have stated here. This is your first course of action. It doesn't matter what you THINK about your family, or your bf (which he is not or no longer should be in your mind(and if he tries to ever appologize DO NOT ACCEPT HIS APPOLOGY in your heart, but maybe to him verbally so he will not stalk you and maybe leave you alone) ,
just ACT!...GO, NOW, DO NOT tell him anything, but only go when he is not there even if you have to go to a neighbor or call the police or a taxi or anybody for a ride back to parents house.
Again, do not think or worry what your family might "think" or say; only remind them it is their GRANDCHILD! and THE BABY needs help, not you necessarily, understand?
GO as soon as you can.
good luck.
2007-03-23 15:49:57 · answer #6 · answered by Gary G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey..you need to sit down and talk to that boyfriend of yours...ask yourself..is he a good guy at heart?...how has your relationship been before this?...if you know this guy is an *** hole than leave him and tell your mother because she will understand trust me...it will take time but she will accept the fact that you are having a baby...With your boyfriend you really just need to talk to him and see how he feels...you are carrying his child for goshs sake...he should be treating you better than he ever has before!...and if he hits you because you said he kicked you on your stomache...than GET OUT OF THE RELATIONSHIP...you do not deserve to be hit..i do not know a lot about your situation but please please please you are a strong woman and do not let you and your baby be abused!
2007-03-23 15:40:04 · answer #7 · answered by *Mariah* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
iI think that he is so mean to u,sory to say but if i was u i would tell myself and ready to be an indipendant girl eversince i'm still young....u must be a beautiful girl and also a wise girk right? Fight for yourself & the baby in u'r belly,even if u afaraid if u'r mom get mad at u than standup and be an Indipendant girl!!!
2007-03-23 15:45:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it looks like he does not want that baby.and you need to live him befor he hurts you and your baby.a woman should never have to carry something heavy and your having his baby he needs his *** kicked.all i can say is dont have that baby. becaues do you really want a man like that apart of your childs life or yours.and its just going to get worst.im so sorry just get as far away as you can from him
2007-03-23 15:45:48 · answer #9 · answered by alifsmother@verizon.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say leave him and move on
my mom had it worse than you ever had
2007-03-23 15:39:15 · answer #10 · answered by Kensuke 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋