Eh, I guess that question sounds stupid... so let me explain.
My boyfriend an I have been dating for about 10 months. Recently, we went on a week long break and both saw other people. Neither of us got any farther than kissing with the other people we dated. After discussing it, we decided to get back together. I know we've had sex plenty of times(we even lived together for 7 months) and that the break was only a week, but I just don't feel comfortable having sex again. My boyfriend doesn't understand and thinks that I am being totally unreasonable. Am I being irrational?
2007-03-23 15:28:10 · 17 answers · asked by alli8188 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You gave me something a bunch of times, and then took it away. You are just being fickle now and he is lost because some guys just dont understand. You need to do what you want/feel is right for yourself. You should explain to your bf your own personal reasons and its up to him to understand.
2007-03-23 15:33:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are. You need to decide what you really want out of this relationship. And im not putting all of the responsibility on you either. Yall need to re-evaluate what got yall together in the first place and see if its real or not. You dont just fall unattracted to a person. Find the trigger, and either destroy it, or move on in your own separate ways.
On the other hand, if this is a spiritual indication that youre not living correctly, then by all means, you need to pull away and search your spirit as to why intimacy is weighing in on your concious now.
2007-03-23 15:34:57 · answer #2 · answered by atlazdrama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-08 09:52:02 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you're not irrational. You have a right to say no to sex if you're not comfortable doing it. My question is, could there be a psychological reason as to why you don't want to have sex with him? Could it be a trust issue or whatever? Remember, female intuition is a wonderous thing. If you're not comfortable doing it, by all means don't. If he loves you and respects you, he SHOULD accept that.
2007-03-23 15:35:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u just have to rekindle your love for each other since you both took a break, try to find that spark again and everything will come flowing back, well unless it doesnt work out then i guess you can just have a go with sex and see if anything happens there, if not then u two need to have a talk
2007-03-23 15:34:19 · answer #5 · answered by shanakon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me that your inner being is having second thoughts about the entire relationship. Now that you have seen both sides to the coin so to speak I think your realizing that life isn't all about a romp in the sack and that your placing higher values on other portions of a relationship. He probably is more interested in his steady meat and finds his comfort in the fact that you WERE there for his relief as he wanted it. not so anymore. stick to your beliefs and values girlfriend....I think your on track.
2007-03-23 15:40:27 · answer #6 · answered by J.M.C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like my mom used to say, once you have kissed it is very hard to go back to just hand-holding. But I believe it can be done but both of you have to agree on it. And, you can't continue to live together if you don't want to have "relations" anymore. Take away all temptations.
2007-03-23 15:33:44 · answer #7 · answered by Suzie R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that if you don't want to have sex again for awhile, that you shouldn't have to. I mean the two of you broke up for a reason and maybe you need to build back trust.
God bless and best wishes.
2007-03-23 15:40:05 · answer #8 · answered by tani n 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's your body you have a right to say no no matter how many times you have in the past. He should respect you. But remember he has needs to, anything you feel comfortable doing to help relieve this?
2007-03-23 15:33:28 · answer #9 · answered by S W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not a stupid question. If you don't want to have sex then he can't make you. And if he tries to make you then leave him. No guy is worth it!
2007-03-23 15:33:59 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋