I know a woman who has been bragging for months that she's getting married. She talks nonstop about her impending nuptuals, her plans, her vacations with her "fiance" but the one thing she neglects to mention is that the man is still married. Is this proper these days?
2007-03-23 15:25:46 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Am going through a divorce,heard the woman hes cheating on with is already planning a weddnig,so bizarre..until we are officially divorced hes still my husband,gotta love these silly hoes today and the foolishness they do planning weddings with already married men.Its so crude it speaks levels of this womans character,make sure you remind her that shes not officially his anything but his lousy second hand mistress until the ink drys on his divorce,Slap her for me.If she lives in Colorado tell me..LOL.
2007-03-23 16:35:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, before everyone bashes it, there is a lot of information being left out. One of my best friends is engaged to a man who is legally married..but here is the back story:
This marriage broke up before my friend and her fiance got together. Now the only thing they are waiting for is a divorce decree.
The married man has been fighting for 2 years to get the divorce finalized. He has been living with my friend for a year now, they are raising their children together in a much more stable home than the "soon to be ex wife"'s home...they attend church and are working hard to take care of their family.
The soon-to-be ex wife has done things like steal, damage their vehicles, and has made choices detrimental to the wellbeing of the children.
In a case like this, I don't think there is anything wrong with planning their lives together. The former marriage is over in every way except getting the final paper signed. The divorce process has been gone through, everything is done.
2007-03-24 08:17:28 · answer #2 · answered by Kat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh hell to the naw.....what is this woman thinking or better yet what the heck was she smoking? It is not proper to plan a wedding when the man is still legally attatched to another woman. Is she that desperate to marry an unavailable man that she's making a fool out of herself. Until a man is officially broken up or divorced with the decree in hand I am not talking about no kind of relationship married or not.
2007-03-23 23:25:05 · answer #3 · answered by nabdullah2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, this is not proper.
Divorce is very common these days, and I'm sure the man and his wife are either separated or in the process of divorcing...
But, the woman should still have the taste to... 1. wait until the man is single before she engages in a relationship with him and 2. wait until the man is lawfully able to marry before she plans an entire wedding!
This is disrespectful to the man's wife. The relationship may be over, but it doesn't need to be made so clear that he had either an extramarital affair or that he has moved on exceedingly quickly. It's just plain rude. Furthermore, it's disrespectful to herself. I'm sorry, but it's just poor judgement all around.
2007-03-23 22:36:00 · answer #4 · answered by lilmissmiss 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not proper (bit crazy too) to plan a wedding to someone who you're not going to marry. She and this man may have a relationship, but if he's still married- unless the papers on just waiting to be signed- it's not "proper" for him to have a fiance either.
2007-03-23 23:00:41 · answer #5 · answered by K S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage just isn't held in the same regard as it used to be. Personally, I take making a promise to your fiance, in front of your family & friends, not to mention GOD, very seriously. It's a shame that people don't have better morals and values. Being with a married person is bad enough, bragging about it is even worse. I wonder if this woman knows she is totally ruining her credibility???
Morals, Values & Ethics RULE!!!
2007-03-23 22:32:11 · answer #6 · answered by w8nc 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
actually this is more common these days then most believe.
as far as the question is it proper these days? my answer to you would be no. it is never proper for a woman or a man to even be in a relationship with someone whoo is married. what ends up happening is that they end up hurting someone they don't even know. for me hurting anyone isn't proper either.
2007-03-23 22:30:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. She may be wasting her time and money. He may never leave his wife and why would she want to marry a married man? Did they have an affair? If so, once a cheater always a cheater. She sounds very insecure and is looking to get married quickly.
2007-03-23 22:30:39 · answer #8 · answered by Shanna h 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She should feel like a fool.
Im sure it isnt uncommon, but these days women have lost respect for themselves.
I would never date a married guy, and certainly wouldnt brag about marrying one. I'd be so embarassed and ashamed. guess its just me, though
=)
2007-03-23 22:30:42 · answer #9 · answered by independent101 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the divorce is pending, why does she need to bring it up? If it isn't then she's nutty. There is nothing going on these days that wasn't going on back in the old days, no matter how proper the '50's try to sound.
2007-03-23 22:49:19 · answer #10 · answered by Miss Metro 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋