Are guys responsible for not asking a girl who is in search of mr.right, I mean the responsibility is tough on us. We have to go head and make a move. We have to decide if she is the right one, and there is also rejection. So as a guy I would love to have a good mate, but because of the reasons I mentioned above I often back off. what is your opinion?
2007-03-23 15:22:15 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
If you are interested, make it known in a respectful way. You don't want the gal of your dreams to slip through your fingers! Take all things before God before you open your mouth. Ask Him to let you know who to ask, who not to. He will guide you if you trust Him.
Yes, you may suffer some rejection. But put yourself out there, if you really care about someone! God will see you through.
2007-03-23 15:26:42 · answer #1 · answered by Esther 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Don't date. Instead, court.
Dating is spending time with someone for a season because you enjoy their company.
Courting is like an interviewing process - you are "hiring" a wife, and if during any level of interviews, an applicant proves themselves NOT to be up to the task, they are not invited to the next interview.
There are two steps for a man to take to find a wife. The first is the hard one, and probably the more important one. It is this: Make of yourself the man God intended. To do this, focus on Jesus and run as hard as you can for Him. Two very important things will happen for you if you do this right - you will be a mature Christian who will only settle for God's best, and the right kind of girls will not be able to stay away from you.
Once you have really done the first step, the second is not too hard. Look to your left, and look to your right. Of the girls keeping up with your pace for Jesus you may choose to court. Remember, you ARE looking for Mrs Right. As soon as any girl shows herself NOT to be Mrs Right, do not string her along - don't break a girl's heart by courting her after you know it cannot end in marriage.
You will be equally yoked. Both searching for the same #1, unchanging goal in life.
2007-03-23 15:52:48 · answer #2 · answered by teran_realtor 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think we ask God enough about these things. Seriously, when I was young I thought I had to figure it out on my own! Now, I ask God for help and guidance on Everything and he never fails. The most important step in finding a mate is not looking for the mate but practicing trusting God. Then, at the right time, the mate will appear!
2007-03-23 15:28:18 · answer #3 · answered by shirleykins 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
At some point, you will have to step out in courage and make a move. Try to get to know her a little first, and observe her to find out if you are truly compatible. I don't mean spy on her, I just mean, pay attention to the thoughts she expresses (or doesn't) and what she says. Out of the treasure of the heart the mouth speaketh. Start out with basic conversation. Does she display compassion? Sincerity? Charity? But even when you think you may have found the right one, it will still require courage on your part, and for that you should pray. God knows your needs; ask Him for help finding the right woman.
2007-03-23 15:31:40 · answer #4 · answered by Amalthea 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Looking for the right anything or anyone is tough. I am in the said situation as we speak, but I will not let fear deter me of what I am looking for. Not because a person is a Christian, means that that person is your soul mate, you got to find the right Christian that God has there for you. ( Story with Isaac and Rebeca....) Seek the Lord earnestly and He will guide you to the person that you are looking for and when you find them you will know, but let God guide and direct you. "He that finds a wife finds a good thing." The man should be the seeker.
2007-03-23 15:31:37 · answer #5 · answered by charmaine f 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nothing ventured, nothing gained.
Rejection is not the word.
If you approach 10 and 1 works, that's pretty good.
Personally I met a lot but it took years to find the right one.
Confidence will build with time.
Just stay away from the phoney pick up lines.
2007-03-23 15:32:01 · answer #6 · answered by Get A Grip 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a really good book, it is called when God writes your love story. It is about letting God chose the mate for you and getting prepared until he does. Go and ask God what you have asked us. Good luck and God bless.
2007-03-23 15:39:46 · answer #7 · answered by Ama A 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you a christian ? Ask God for his wisdom and for patience, Proverbs 18:22 "Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord".
2007-03-23 15:29:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
First do no longer fall in love from afar, concern of rejection FEEDS off of this.refer to her as in case you in basic terms % to be freinds first and get to comprehend her.you will possibly be able to think of she is all that and a bag of chips a candy bar and a drink with exchange to spare, purely to verify later she aint.next, you may % to stay in concern,or you may save a secure distance emotionally from her till something evolves.Use your head no longer your heart, your heart gets you into concern.
2016-10-20 07:58:37 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should pray about it. If God wants it to be, then it'll be....it might take time, but remember, God is never late, He knows His timing better than we do.
God bless.
2007-03-23 15:26:59 · answer #10 · answered by ac28 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋