ok heres the deal me and my bf have been together almost 4 months and everytime we are alone together there is this awkward silence in the room and it makes me uncomfortable to be around him. and other times when were making out i feel like im doin it all wrong or something like that. then when we are ready to have sex im affraid im not gonna be able to do that right either and im just really nervous about it. wat can i do that wont make me feel so uncomfortable around him and wat can i do that waont make so nervous about me doin something wrong when e are making out or having sex? im affraid that if i do something wrong hes gonna leave me. plz guys i need ur help really badly. tell me wat i can do.
2007-03-23 14:57:46 · 15 answers · asked by sec_cogley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should try to relax more around him don't think too much just be yourself. If there is an awkward silence then make conversation about anything. And try not to be so concerned about whether you are kissing him wrong or right...don't hold yourself back just relax. And about doing something wrong when having sex...it hard to mess up if you are both really into it...trust me. But if you do something wrong don't stress over it too much.
Good luck w/ your b/f
2007-03-23 15:07:37 · answer #1 · answered by Jen <3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well hun, when you are making out or having sex just ask him if everything is hot enough for him and if he tells you no it isn't then you need to heat things up some more. Take the sex to the next level.
2007-03-23 22:01:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am a male..and i have the same problem with women that you are having with your boyfriend......its all about your own insecurities which u yourself will have to overcome....maybe its your selfconcious telling you that your just arent comfortable with the guy....maybe its just something else in your life ...some tragic event u have to get over...either way u have to work it out or it will haunt you forever...if u have never had this problem before i would say that u may just not be comfortable with the guy and i say stick with your instinct it usually isnt wrong
2007-03-23 22:03:46 · answer #3 · answered by Mr Crowley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MY GOODNESS, BREATHE. THESE ARE ALL NORMAL THOUGHTS. CON GRATES ON MAKING IT FOUR MONTHS!
LISTEN DONT SPEED THINGS UP. IT SOUNDS LIKE YOU GUYS ARE SPENDING TONS OF TIME TOGETHER AND THATS WHY YOUR RUSHING FROM MAKING OUT TO SEX SO SOON.
PACE YOURSELVES THERE IS NO RUSH WITH SEX AND IF YOU START NOW ,SO EARLY IN THE RELATIONSHIP, THATS ALL IT WILL BE BASED ON AFTER A WHILE, SEX.
DONT BE NERVOUS EVERY THINGS GOING TO BE FINE, BUT TRY NOT TO RUSH INTO SEX THIS SOON.
2007-03-23 22:05:56 · answer #4 · answered by Jason & Milly T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should talk to him if theres an awkward silence he must feel it too see what he thinks, maybe thats y it feels wierd when your making out, as for being worried about sex dont be just wait till its comfortable for you, i doubt you could really do anything wrong he will understand if your not very experienced
2007-03-23 22:02:24 · answer #5 · answered by Lee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To tell you the truth he should already make you feel comfortable. I think somthing is wrong maybe you should be onest and tell him the way you feel. And for you I think that every woman on this earth is made perfect.I think your just trying too hard to make it perfect just be your self and let mother nature take its course.GOOD!LUCK!!
2007-03-23 22:25:27 · answer #6 · answered by chuky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems like ur forcin urself 2 be around him... jus take time 2 chill alone! trust me i think that bein around someobdy for 4 months isnt somethin 2 stress about u prolly can let him go easily now rather then later!
2007-03-23 22:03:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just dump him, its not meant to be. Silence with someone is not uncomfortable if you truly feel comfortable with them.
2007-03-23 22:01:47 · answer #8 · answered by bigern1977 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he really loves you, he won't care if you don't make-out correctly. As for sex... that depends on what kind of person he is.
2007-03-23 22:01:52 · answer #9 · answered by Neil Rawson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know it sounds kind of negative but your problem is you don't love him. if your afraid he'll leave you because you do one thing wrong than you don't need to be going out with him
2007-03-23 22:05:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋