i stay with my sister i just moved from l.a to perris in california ive been here about a month and i havent found a job ive been lookin but it seems as if im not doing a good enough job! everyday i get a call from her asking how is my job search. i feel like she is pressuring me to leave. but when i ask she tells me its not like that! but i feel out of place. im new out her i dont know where to go or how to be im doing what i know how. im 24 she's 31 weve been through alot in this lifetime i thought she would atleast understand me!!! i dont like to be where im not wanted am i running or making my situation better by leaving ?//???? please help need answers ?????
2007-03-23 14:57:12 · 7 answers · asked by applebottom19822004 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You may be reading WAY too much in this. She may be trying to show you she does believe in you
eg: maybe she thinks if she stays silent THAT wouldn't be showing you support. Sounds like you need to tell her how you feel about the calls, the message you get from them. She may need some input from you as to how to help / support you.
2007-03-23 15:10:21 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Tiilynn♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, take the time in your room to cool off a bit. Fighting with your mom only makes things worse, if she is stressed out she may take it out on you. It sounds like you two might need a break from each other, even if it's just for a few hours, do you have any family close by that you can go visit for a bit? Somewhere safe that you can be calm and think? When you come back let your mom know you love and appreciate her, and you want to help but you both need to talk things out together without yelling. Remember that you are at an age where everyone goes through things like this, and it's not your fault that you feel the way you do. If you are hiding in your room all the time, that is normal too - you are trying to find yourself and sometimes that is hard if you have a lot of stress at home. Just take things slow and work with your relationship with your mom, she is your best resource and you will be glad that you stayed friends with her when you are older. Think twice before you say anything that will fire her up, and if she is on edge, tell her you want to help, you want to work things out, but you have to talk about things. Sometimes that is hard for a mother to do, but she has to realize that you are becoming a woman now and you both need each other. You are so fortunate to have each other, even if things are rough between you. Also, it won't always be this way, things change and people change. Just do what you can to be positive and not focus on the negative. It's hard sometimes to be in an "up" mood when you feel depressed, but sometimes it really helps if you just get yourself together and act like nothing will get you down. The reason your mom gets to you is because you love her. The people you love have the power to hurt your feelings like no one else can. She doesn't mean to hurt you, she needs help to deal with her stress. Let her know you forgive her and you want to help her talk about it. Good luck!
2016-03-29 01:37:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that u are feeling like a failure, guilty and at odds with your life. and- you are translating those feelings to your sister. asking how your job search is going on a regular basis is not a sign of any of the above mentioned things. she probably does want you to get a job soon, but unless she is doing more than what you indicated ,she is not out of line . be easy on her- and yourself. dont make problems where there are not any. just stay focused on your life, and concentrate on goals. keep her informed that you are not going to give up on finding a job, and that you are confident that you will find one soon.she will appreciate that.it must be a little scarry for her to think that she might have to support her for a while. best wishes
2007-03-23 15:11:09 · answer #3 · answered by DEBI M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, get a grip on yourself and get outa your sister's apartment. She's doing you a favor! I was in the same situation, sponging off my sister. Get on your own feet asap!!!
If you need a job, go sell cars. I'm telling you that you can make 5x what your sister makes selling cars! Don't listen to anyones BS about "used car" salesman; some of those boys clean up!!
Anyway, thats a fast way to get on your feet...afterward you can go back to working at starbucks..if you really feel you have to work for minimum wage!! good luck.
2007-03-23 15:03:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the interrim try to contribute to the house as much as possible (housework etc). Tell her to give you time but also give her a rough estimate of how long you're gonna take.
2007-03-23 15:05:19 · answer #5 · answered by - 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you keep trying to find work and your sister wants to help, Keep trekking on. Things will get better...
2007-03-23 15:02:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry just take any job, to get her off your back, meanwhile you can search for something better. GO TO A TRENDY RESTAURANT AND BE A BUSBOY--YOU WILL ALSO GET TIPS, MABEY, AND MEET GIRLS,.
2007-03-23 15:08:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋