then he has the nerve to say i dont have any right to my opinion with his children even though i take care of them work two jobs and its my house he is living in.and i love them like they are my own even though i have my own kids as well.
2007-03-23 14:50:00 · 21 answers · asked by dragonfly 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is using and abusing you. Get away from him ASAP. You deserve much better!
2007-03-23 14:52:52 · answer #1 · answered by Tom B 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
First off I wanna tell you, you have a big heart to take care of a grown *** man and his kids.
Now as far as him not contributing to the bills and anything in the house, you need to have a good long talk with him and tell him just like this: "Either you start puttin in around here or you need to get yourself and your kids outta here". Granted you love the kids like your own but remember they are not your responsibility.
Just rememebr, you are a good person adn you need good things in your life. If you have this talk wih him and he atlest tries to put forth some kind of strength to start helping out then he really cares about you and your feelings, but if after the talk and he still wants to be lazy...BOOT HIS *** OUT!!!
2007-03-23 22:07:20 · answer #2 · answered by marie3681 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut him off and make him see what u do. Maybe then he would appreciate all u do. Time for hard lessons sounds to me like. If he dont get the hint, give him the boot.
Work something out with the kids' mom that u can take them for ice cream occasionally or something. After all, its not their fault their daddy is an @$$.
Good luck hun.
2007-03-23 21:55:41 · answer #3 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i have taken care of my wives 4 kids since they were little...and she still acts like my opinions dont count....i have cared for them like they were they my own.....but after ten years the situation only got worse..because the kids learn that there mother doesnt care about my opinion so eventually neither do they...and now that they are teens this is quite a pain in the butt.....
2007-03-23 21:58:56 · answer #4 · answered by Lying !#*&%^ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Dragonfly,
I'm sorry so many people have said bad things to you like you are stupid and such. Try not to listen to them. but PLEASE listen to me. Honey, I JUST got out of the same situation. My bf was living with me in my house. His 3 kids came over every single weekend from fri thru sun. I fed them all and watched them while he went to work. If I even so much as suggested that they clean their room or go outside to play, he got SO ANGRY and accused me of not likeing his kids. I was with him for 2 years although he only lived in my house for the past 7 months. It only got worse. Please, you really need to break it off with him and make him get his own place. You are going to feel so humiliated soon if you dont already. He is using you just as surely as mine used me. As soon as he got money, he left me high and dry and has not paid me a dime that he owes me. yes, people can say we are stupid, but sometimes when something is so close to you its difficult to see how bad it really is until its over. Please, for your own self respect, get rid of him because he will use you until you are all used up and you have nothing left.
2007-03-23 22:06:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick him out! His using his kids to make you feel bad and let him stay, but that's not your problem, you have your own kids to think about and none of this is fair to them. His kids are getting everything!
2007-03-23 22:17:47 · answer #6 · answered by Countrygirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow the golden rule... She that makes the gold, makes the rules. Any mouth you put food into (including his), you have the right to an opinion about.
Kick this sorry excuse for a man to the curb.
2007-03-23 21:53:45 · answer #7 · answered by rris-tusla 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
No you don't have any right to your opinon when it comes to his children. Just because you are ALLOWING yourself to be used by this guy doesn't mean you have the right to anything when it comes to his children. They are not YOUR children. As for your working two jobs to take care of everyone...well if you're gullible enough to not see that you are being used that is your own damn fault.
2007-03-23 21:54:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
girl, he is a leech tryng to suck out all that he can from you! Get rid of him! The money you're spending for him and his kids is the money that can buy YOUR kids better clothes, better education, better home -- better life! He is stealing from your kids! Move on!
2007-03-23 21:56:07 · answer #9 · answered by Stefani 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GIRL, YOU NEED TO GIVE HIM A DEADLINE WHEN TO BE OUT, SAY 2 MONTHS, MEANWHILE KEEP BUSY WITH YOUR FRIENDS, EVEN MALE FREINDS- MAKE PLANS FOR YOUR SUMMER, THIS IS NOT LOVE. AND PLEASE DO NOT NOT WEAKEN, YOU DO NOT NEED THIS LEACH AND HIS BAGGAGE, HE WILL GUILT TRIP YOU, PLEAD WITH YOU, EVEN ASK THE KIDS TO SUCKER UP TO YOU--BUT GET RID OF THIS DEAD WEIGHT, ARE YOU SERIOUS?? YOU CAN BE DOING SOME IMPORTANT THINGS WITH YOUR LIFE AND YOUR MONEY. LIFE IS PASSING YOU BY. YOU ARE ONLY BEING USED.
2007-03-23 21:58:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should let him know that him be aware ofhis behavior and just talk to him since you already got into the kids lives,so just let him know that he can lose someone that loves him and working hard to take care of him
2007-03-23 21:56:36 · answer #11 · answered by deangela p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋