Our relationship progressed fast from the beginning. Before I knew it he was talking about "forever". At some point, he slowed down and forgot to tell me and I ended up wondering what was wrong. I got insecure and I let it show. He also let something that was bothering him fester until he couldn't stand it, instead of telling me. Finally, he said we needed to "put on the brakes". We still love each other very much, but I'm at a loss as to what to do. Do I let him make the first move to get back together or should I do it? Should we talk about what happened between us? I'm not a patient person, but I feel like if I push I'll lose him forever and if I don't do anything he'll forget about me.
2007-03-23 14:44:17 · 9 answers · asked by 70's teen 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would definitely give him some space for now. If you love eachother then sit down and talk to him. Don't listen to people that say "he likes another girl" because no one but him knows that. If he's an honest guy, he will tell you. If not, then he would be a fool to keep a girlfriend around.
You just need to sort things out with him. For now, take some time to reflect. Let him calm down too. And don't wait too long because he might be waiting for you.
It's very subjective. Trust you instincts.
Good luck.
2007-03-23 14:53:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you love each other still, so just sit him down and tell him like it is. Relationships are built purely on trust-and if he was letting problems fester rather than opening up and talking about them then you need to discuss this with him right off or if you end up back together it can turn full-circle and return in months, possibly years in the future to bite you in the a**. Could be he had a past relationship hurt him? You'll never know unless you talk to him. If he can't or won't sit and talk things over, then you'll know it wasn't to be and not to chase anymore. Good luck!
2007-03-23 21:50:24 · answer #2 · answered by Loulla 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can let him know that you still want to work on the relationship and that is all. The ball is in his court and if he wants to work at it he'll be calling. If you push too hard he will not even want to be around you and then you won't have a chance at all. I think you will have to be patient and let him have the time he needs to sort out whatever it is he needs to sort out. I think that when someone loves you then they never ever forget about you . I wish you luck with your relationship.
2007-03-23 22:07:22 · answer #3 · answered by regina g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him some time, but let him know that you do still care. Dont push to fast, because like you said..you could lose him! Good luck and best wishes for both of you!
2007-03-23 21:48:00 · answer #4 · answered by Beautiful Disaster 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He has his eye on someone else. I dont mean to be the one to tell ya the bad news but for a man to change that abruptly and not give any explanation....he likes someone else. My advice to you would be to move on and keep this guy as a friend. He needs to see your not going to just sit around and wait for him. Value yourself and other people will then value you as well.
2007-03-23 21:48:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it depends on how long u haven't been with him...i mean if u just have a week not together, he should still love you...if you wait maybe he'll never come, maybe he wants you to go to him, he migth just be waiting for you to make the first move.
2007-03-23 21:49:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should never let a man make you fill insecure.and what ever was bothering him you should talk to him about it.and if he dont come back to you then it wasent ment to be.
2007-03-23 21:58:47 · answer #7 · answered by alifsmother@verizon.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When guys want to "slow down" or "put on the brakes", it means they have another girl, and want her more than they want you.
Don't be his "back-up"------move ON!
2007-03-23 21:48:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't bother, your relationship is already dysfunctional!
2007-03-23 21:48:44 · answer #9 · answered by Genesis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋