2007-03-23 14:16:37 · 10 answers · asked by goodness 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i ended up dating while still technically married. after we separated, it took 8 years before he finally signed the divorce papers. i started dating on year number 5.
i know that my case is just not typical, but if you are talking about a regular separation/divorce deal i think it all depends on the both of you.
if you are both trying to move on and your spouse is looking or already dating, and if you are considering it i say go for it.
but, sometimes spouses are not ready to give up or they still have feelings for you and in that case i would probably wait until after the divorce. divorcing is a terrible experience in itself for everyone, but if you still care for that person and they are already dating that will crush you even more.
i would also consider if there are any kids between you. that makes things more complicated. i have one son. when i decided to start dating again he was 5 and i made sure i kept those relationships away from him. the only way someone was allowed in my house is if and when my son was sleeping over my mothers'. the person that i dated and i moved in together and lived together for 3 years. after we broke up not only i was crushed but also my son. since then, i've never moved in with anyone. i keep dating separate unless it's something that is promising and i only introduce the guy as a friend to my son.
anyway. keep in mind that everyone around you is going to have an opinion on what you are supposed to do. they may not agree with what you decide. but you have to be the one to make that decision, you are the only one that knows what to do.
i wish you well, i hope you have an easy transition.
2007-03-23 14:29:09 · answer #1 · answered by la21unica 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I tell you if infidelity had anything to do with a divorce concerning my wife, I see her with another guy and there just might be some pictures happening for the time it goes to court for the divorce proceedings, if for no other reason so I can keep the bmw and the house lol.
Now I am not your husband and you are not my wife, and maybe if your soon-to-be ex husband is already dating and you're also not that concerned about things, then it might be ok, but I'd wait to be sure, because it's the right thing to do.
2007-03-23 21:22:16 · answer #2 · answered by netthiefx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am separated FOR 3 YEAR the divorce is taking along time for me get on with your life ..........divorce can take forever ........you dont have but like 50 good year and half of that is past .......i started dating after 1 year .and now i have the best girl ever i am so happy now
2007-03-23 21:24:16 · answer #3 · answered by chuckmartin1998 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok first of all do you have kids.. if you do the dont date until the divorce.. if he can prove that your dating the chances of him getting the kids.. all the property increases.. not worth it..i waited.. it drove my ex crazy because he kept trying to catch me doing something i was not doing..but even thought i gave him the home and land.. the cars .. etc.. he could not take my daughter
2007-03-23 21:23:01 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While I was separated of course...why wait.
2007-03-23 21:19:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dated while i was separated...ex did 2, and he got a gold-diggin chick he barely knew pregnant, LOL!! it's fine if ur ready 2 move on, but, if ur not over ur soon-2-b-ex, wait until u r...good luck, sugar ;o)
2007-03-23 21:21:26 · answer #6 · answered by Aurora Blue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess the right thing would be to wait.
2007-03-23 21:23:25 · answer #7 · answered by lisa w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you waite
2007-03-23 21:19:59 · answer #8 · answered by Angel gril 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is better to wait.
2007-03-23 21:20:35 · answer #9 · answered by amey t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
***** it doesnt matter
2007-03-23 21:26:13 · answer #10 · answered by jasmin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋