i like this kid in my class. he likes me and i like him back...lots! but i am not so sure he likes me the same amount i do its like from a scale from 1-10 it'll be like a 9 1/2. we live in a small town and we are all like famliy. he acts kewl for his friends at school and won't talk to me at school. hes nice to me on msn though. it really frusterates me cause i don't know whats wrong...do i get annoying at school or does he just need to grow up? should i ask him out or give him time to ask me out? if i try to talk to him at school he walks away...I DON'T LIKE IT WHEN HE DOES THAT! its annoying it makes me look bad. i donm't know whats wrong. i am starting to get sad cause i can't stop thinking about him. any suggestions? anyone?
thanks who ever answers better!
2007-03-23 14:08:19 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sorry, but I have a question for you. Don't you think it would be better if you graduated from grade school before allowing these little boys to enter your life?
2007-03-23 14:18:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, heres the deal. This guy may like you, but he obviously treats you like crap. Do you really think that will change if you started going out if he won't even talk to you at school? You obviously like him, but it is just as obvious that he is not someone you want to get yourself involved with. I know from experiance that guys like that just are not worth it. And please don't get into the mind set where you are all like "I can make him change. He will change for me", because the sad truth is that he wont. So many innocent girls get hurt that way, and I would hate to see that happen to you. He isn't going to treat you the way you deserve to be treated, and you should settle for nothing less than what you deserve. It will be hard, but I think it is time for you to let Mr. 9 1/2 go. I know your very situation, I've been there hon, and it will be tough. But you will get past this. And there will be other guys in your life, and ones who actually deserve you, and would proudly tell his friends "Hold on a minute," just because he saw you and run all the way over to you and give you a giant hug and a kiss on the cheek, with all of his friends watching, because he cares about you so much, that he knows that if his friends have a problem with you that it is their problem. Wait for that guy, this one will only break your heart.
good luck finding that man you deserve.
~Sharon~
2007-03-23 14:24:53 · answer #2 · answered by Sheri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen sweetheart, I had almost the same problem as you. First of all, and this is most important, so listen: This guy ignores you in public, and is nice to you in private? They call that a behind-the-door friend. There's a saying: a behind the door friend is no friend at all. If he's ashamed to be your friend in public, he's not worth your time.
If you really love him, though, do this. Corner him in front of his friends. Confront him about this. If he really wants to be your friend, he will be. If he continues with that behavior, walk away. It may hurt now, but if you don't, it'll hurt worse later.
IF he acts properly in public, and ONLY IF, you walk up to him YOURSELF and ask HIM out. He may be shy about asking you out, and so you make the first move, instead of waiting. Trust me, sweetheart, I know this. I was shy once and didn't ask the girl of my dreams out. she never asked ME out, and so I moved away (not willingly) without so much as having a single dinner with the girl.
Trust me; I know these things.
Message me if you try these things and let me know what happened.
~WolfMage
2007-03-23 14:22:26 · answer #3 · answered by WolfMage 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he keeps walking out from you then when you talk to him on msn you need to tell him how you feel.If he does not feel the same way then you need to leave him alone and find someone else.Because the only thing he is doing is playing with your emotions and that is not right.
From a friend that cares.
2007-03-23 14:19:14 · answer #4 · answered by freecoollame 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems he is immature -that is why he is not talking to you at school...infront of his mates - guys are so strange when it comes to their mates, it is kinda like this - mates come first, girls come second. You should ignore him at school, perhaps play a little mind game and ignore him at home on msn - this will be hard but it will pay off. Maybe just a few days will do the trick... just say hi to be friendly but cut it short (like you are busy)... make yourself only available at school and he will have no choice... trust me this will work. Be strong and remember good things come to those who wait!
2007-03-23 14:16:05 · answer #5 · answered by gudsport 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just tell him to leave you alone lose your number your e-mail address because he's just plain fake honey, don't no boy who really like a girl dis her like that when you try to talk to him in school that means he ashamed to be with you and he don't want anyone to find out that he like you so tell him until he stop dissing you like that in front of his fake friends and until he grow up and get on your level don't talk to you tell him you don't want to be bothered with him anymore and walk away girl please it's always more fish in the sea then just him.
2007-03-23 14:19:59 · answer #6 · answered by sweetcandy_tolick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alright hon, you need to work up your strength and ask him out. in the end it will be best for both you and him. he is to shy to ask you out and you must make the first move if you are tired of waiting. the only way to find out if you both can work together is to be together and if he has not worked up the courage yet, help him out or just ask him out yourself. once you ask him, you will be releaved and satified with yourself, no mater the answer (which is mostly likely yes)
2007-03-23 14:13:40 · answer #7 · answered by ktluve22 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes not worth your time if hes like that. if he cares more about looking cool in front of his friends then u dont need to worry about him. but i know what its like to not be able to stop thinking about someone u dont thnk likes u. so i say ask him out. though i still thnk hes a total jackass for the whole popularity thing.
2007-03-23 14:16:41 · answer #8 · answered by Therapist in need of therapy! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive been that type of guy before.....And he likes you , but apparently you have a bad rep at school and he doesn't want ppl to see you together. Ask him to meet you outside of school.
2007-03-23 14:13:18 · answer #9 · answered by keithr2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to grow up and act like and adult. He's not worth dating if he doesn't treet you with respect all the time.
2007-03-23 14:12:25 · answer #10 · answered by The Real McCoy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋