I have asked all my friends and some close family. What is wrong with my boyfriend? We have been going out since last Dec and he hasn't even kissed me yet. I have kissed him on the cheek about 5 times and he has yet to kiss me back. I love him but I don't know if my heart can take this much longer. The people i asked said that he was shy, but hell so am I. Oh. I am so confused and my heart is aching... please help mend it.
2007-03-23 14:00:38 · 15 answers · asked by Kris13 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have told ALL of my close girl friends and my best friend and his friends told him that I want to be kissed. I don't care if it is on the cheek or the lips. I want to feel it..... and he is my first.
2007-03-23 14:10:41 · update #1
I have tried talking to him. And when I do he has to go somewhere. I am only 14 and still in school.
2007-03-23 14:14:04 · update #2
perhaps nothing is wrong with your boyfriend. perhaps he just isn't sure yet, he might have some things in mind, or he could be gay and he truly loves you as a friend and doesn't want to make any mistakes because you're that special to him, or, perhaps he simply isn't ready just yet.
perhaps it would be good to talk to him about it.
if you were a friend whom I could talk face to face, my first suggestion would be that you'd be the one to initiate the kiss. but, obviously, we don't know each other, much less me anything much about your boyfriend. i know it's different being the one to be kissed and the one kissing. would it be too differently disappointing from your plans if you'd kiss first.
Let's have an analogy. This won't be precisely or overtly romantic but I really hope it gets my point across.
An argument isn't an argument if one simply lets out the first statement. It would be just a statement. When the one being given the statement for argument argues back, then it becomes an argument.
Think about it this way - but this is really such a huge gamble, it'll be a cornerstone in your relationship. If you kiss him first, you allow him to kiss you back - which is I think more of a giving of the self. You could see it as this: Being kissed back is the way to be truly kissed.
But it's a gamble.
(Sometimes it's best to do it when the person's guard is down, when they least expect it. But, of course, it's your relationship, you two are the ones in the relationship. You know what's best.)
My first statement should also have been this: I hope you're doing this for yourself and not for peer pressure or anything. But I believe in striving to be happy.
Perhaps nothing's wrong with your boyfriend. And that nothing's wrong with you but you since you want things moving forward, perhaps it's time to take things into your own hands (lips, mouth and tongue)
Follow your bliss.
Stay in love.
Best.
2007-03-23 14:32:01 · answer #1 · answered by ficklefeather 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is just a little nervous. Ok a lot nervous. He needs to step up a little and be a man. If its his first kiss than he probably is really nervous. Maybe you should make the first move. Like instead kissing on the cheek maybe you should just kiss him. No tongue or anything just a peck. And if you want anymore. Don't criticize it.
2007-03-23 14:05:27 · answer #2 · answered by love_alw_693 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might be really shy?? I'm just guessing though. Tell him how you feel about it and see what he says. Get to the source of why he won't kiss you. I'm hoping he comes around soon. If not, something might be going on and he could be seeing someone else. If not he might be gay or strictly religious?? I hope that you come down to the source of the problem. Good luck!
2007-03-23 14:13:21 · answer #3 · answered by poetry_dreamer2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't push him into anything, or he could freak out and run out of fear! If you truly love him, then you should be able to wait until he's ready. That could be the problem: that he isn't ready. If you truly feel like you'll explode without feeling his love, talk to him about it and ask why he won't do anything back. Just don't go fast and scare the poor guy! <3
2007-03-23 14:05:55 · answer #4 · answered by The Prep 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him what you want. He could be shy and not know how you'd react if he did kiss you. Just tell him you want him to kiss you. Not all guys do it without being asked to, so he could be that kind of guy.
2007-03-23 14:05:06 · answer #5 · answered by Fae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gee, that sounds almost too hard to believe that he wouldn't kiss you in how many months...hope those months don't turn into years..find out what is going on in his mind..say,," Hey, Honey..why don't you ever kiss me or are you waiting for me to do it first." Maybe he has halitosis and is trying to cover it up.
2007-03-23 14:05:37 · answer #6 · answered by goodness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-28 02:18:31 · answer #7 · answered by shiley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay here's one thing that you can do...just kiss him as a goodbye kiss and if he feels comfortable he will kiss you back..good luck.
2007-03-23 14:04:18 · answer #8 · answered by jennaroooo:) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask him- maybe he has the same problem I do- self confidence issues when it comes to girls
2007-03-23 14:06:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is either very shy, very religious, very respectful, or gay, or all of the above. You really need to ask him why.
2007-03-23 14:03:40 · answer #10 · answered by carq31 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋