my so is getting older now,and is now dating other women.But I had concerns about him drinking.he's been introuble before all because of drinking; and now he's with some girl 27yrs old and she doesn't want to let me know where she lives at.just incase something happens,i know were my son is at. and i have never even met this girl that my son is going out with....help.what should i do.
2007-03-23 13:44:14 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You dont do anything. He is a man now and living his own life. You find something to do and live yours. The more you interfere the more he will distance himself from you.
2007-03-23 13:49:54 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-19 11:31:25 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you said, you're son is all grown up. Let him go, you shouldn't do anything. Once he's had a chance to be on his own for a while, he'll figure it out. Relax mom!
2007-03-23 14:47:47 · answer #3 · answered by FuzzyPinkBathrobe 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
your son is an adult now, and has the right to come and go as he pleases... if he lives in your home, you do have the right to expect him to help around there, and not to cause family disruptions.
what do you mean by "is now dating other women" ? i didnt quite get that, unless you mean you and him were dating? that is how it sounds.
perhaps the 27 year old girlfriend has something to hide? or maybe your son feels if you know where she lives, you might just come over unannounced?
it's really none of our business as parents to interfere with our childrens' relationships. i have two sons, 19 and 30, and i have worried plenty.
i guess you have the alternative of asking him to move out, if his activities cause you too much stress.
take care of YOU, let your son know you love him.
2007-03-23 14:04:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say if your son is still living with you, but if he is then it is time for him to find a place of his own and handle his own personal affairs without any assistance or interference from you.
2007-03-23 14:09:33 · answer #5 · answered by Bethany 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
my son is 19 also. i try to stay out of his love life, but i know its hard, because i can see the way things are going way before he does and its hard to keep my mouth shut, but i do.
my seventeen year old is hooking up with a 22 yr. old and although i would like to really have a stern talk with this girl, i plan to be "nice". (for as long as i can).
we cannot keep them under our wings, safe and sound for always.---we have to let them grow & learn for themselves.
The most important thing i think we can do is just be there for them if (and when) they need us.
2007-03-23 14:03:17 · answer #6 · answered by angel1 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Since he's all grown up, let him fend for himself.
2007-03-23 15:20:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
try to stay out of his love life, he has to find his own way make his own mistakes, and hopefully learn from them. You have raised him and given him a good start in life , and he has learn-ed good moral values from you, so just be there if some thing happens but it's best not to interfere. He has to find his own way, and believe me I know exactly how hard it is to let your Son grow and learn on his own
2007-03-23 13:54:47 · answer #8 · answered by inmate3685 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
men grow up...but the worse thing you can do is pry and intervene in his relationship. we tend to rebel more if you do. think a little....tough love. always worked for me. dont baby him, if he likes to "act" like a man treat him like one...responsability.....
2007-03-23 13:50:02 · answer #9 · answered by richard l 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋