2 yr relationship. My girlfriend broke up with me...and she has a boyfriend now.It's been six month and we really don't talk that much anymore.yesterday , she says she still loves me the way she used to but she also cares about her boyfriend. Her boyfriend is 1 year younger than her and she is 3 younger than me. He makes her say sorry in an argument all the time and for me i'll just get mad and later compromises. She said she is so confused on what she wants when she thinks about it. She knows i am willing to work things out whatever the problem that broke us up. Sex was the first time for the both of us. She said that she wants me but at the same time she doesn't. That doesn't she doesn't know how to explain it. I'm waiting and searching for another girl
She wants to come and see me. I said why...she reply i just want to. At first we argued and later i said sure. It wouldn't hurt much. Any ideas how i should treat her
2007-03-23 13:41:57 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Treat her respectfully, but hunn, i am sorry but you will be a total idiot if you go back to her, because, if she is going to leave you for another man, then if things go rocky and then want you back, it is just putting you as the second hand man, in her life... and most men who are in a realationship would like to be the one and only man in a girls life. unless you like being econd hand, then go for it, but it is just oing to keep going on and on the way it is, unless you stand up for your self and put a stop to it. And at some point in time, you guys want to get back together, you should explain to her, hoe it made you feel, and that you will not stand for the emotional bull crap she has pulled. But satart out slow, and just stay as casual friends. then gradually go on more, if it leads to that direction
2007-03-23 13:49:12 · answer #1 · answered by tuffchevy86 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quite honestly, I wouldn't even be talking to her. Why waste your energy on someone who didn't want to expel the energy on you in the first place? In my opinion she's not confused at all, she knows exactly what she wants, but she doesn't know how to get it yet. Next thing you know, she's broken up with him to be back with you. Within the next few months, you'll find out that he's still in the picture somehow, and most likely she's saying the SAME things to him as she said to you. There she goes, she has her cake AND she gets to eat it too. That's not cool. To me, she's sacrificing your feelings for her own. She's being selfish. If she wants to be with you so bad, she would have already broken up with this new dude.
My advice may seem cold and harsh, but speaking from experience: Do not let her come over. I wouldn't even have any contact with her whatsoever. If you are "waiting and searching for another girl" you will NEVER find one while she's hanging onto you. Get out of your house, hang out with the guys, go watch March Madness, the Frozen Four, Spring Training....whatever it may be. Enjoy life being on your own before jumping into the waters with another girl. You need to stablize your own well-being before having another relationship.
I wish you the best of luck!
2007-03-23 20:56:34 · answer #2 · answered by MissKate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of ALL of the people in ALL of the world, there are a few that you know for sure you shouldn't be with...those are your EX's... there is a reason why relationships don't work out. Stay friends with her if you want to, but don't get involved with her anymore, she has a boyfriend and things will only end badly.
good luck.
2007-03-23 20:46:38 · answer #3 · answered by katiebug 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well just treat her like a regular friend don't treat her speacial or any thing if she wants u back then ask her y she broke with u and see if guys could solve ur problems and if u guys decide to go out agian then frist figure out a way that u guys can solve ur prblem and that will get u a good relationship. well good luck and remember frist just treat her like a friend because u don't know if she is playing mind games on but if she is a good person then u know she is not u like i said good luck
2007-03-23 20:52:54 · answer #4 · answered by mysterygirl105 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her as you would a male friend, no kissing or sex. It sounds like she isn't sure what she wants right now. Sometimes people feel that they need a fling or two before the settle down with one person.
I wouldn't let her come back unless she was willing to make a commitment to you and only you, if that is what you want (.i.e. marriage)
2007-03-23 20:48:35 · answer #5 · answered by knittinmama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your being played....if you truly would consider re-kindling with her,she has to come correct!,disconect...until or unless she dumps the new boyfriend,in the mean time keep looking for another dont wait for her if shes available when you are fine, otherwise move on,she will get with you and do the same thing behind your back...move on...shes wrong..
2007-03-23 20:49:51 · answer #6 · answered by 2fitornot2fit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi, you can't just pretend that things are same as before, she left you for some one else and how can you trust that she won't do the same thing again....she can't let you go because she used to be with you but later she may use to be with some one else
just be a Friend, some one she used to be with but you can't just keep telling her that you love her and she replies you carelessly
for you own good let it go and move on.. be just a Friend nothing more
good luck
2007-03-23 20:52:05 · answer #7 · answered by Princess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think you should be mean
but i dont think you should be nice
because if she loved you why did she
keave you? well just talk to her about
why and dont let her run you over like a
doormat and then you can make your
choice about getting back together
2007-03-23 20:46:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋