My Ex and I have been broken up for 10 months and have not spoken since. The last time we talked she said she's in a serious relationship and got her number changed so I couldnt call her. Last month called me a week ago to talk She says she still in a serious relationship but likes to see how I'm doing every now and then. I ask if she has someone new why is she still trying to contact me but dosent want to get back in a relationship with me? We broke up before and I told her I couldnt be her friend cause I love her to much. We agreed if we beak up no contact with each other. She's never kept in contact with any other of her ex boyfriends cause she said when she's threw with a guy she's threw with him, why me? We were together for 3 and half years. She said I caused her so much pain so why would she want to talk me if there is a new guy. If you changed your number so your ex couldnt call u why later would you give him your new number to call if he wants to talk if u have some 1 new?
2007-03-23 13:28:57 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I dont know what she is trying to do but i kinda had the same situation with my ex. we broke up becuase he cheated on me and i told him not to call me and i never wanted to talk to him again or see him again. After 3 months he called me the whole summer but blocked his number so i wouldnt know it was him, but never said it was him but i knew it was. So his friends called me because i wouldnt pick up so i was FED UP and i was gonna change my number and put a restraining order on him becuase i was afraid of him hurting me again( phisically), but i decided not to. He stopped for awhile but we talked after a while and were ok but not friends. Anyways what i was trying to say was it was the same situation but turned around. My advice to u is if she is in a serious relationship right now and still is trying to call u after she changed her number because she didnt want u calling her ne more, she obviously regrets doing it and wants u to call her because u still mean something to her.
2007-03-23 14:23:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one. There are some women out there who love drama. They love to know that there's a guy out there who's carrying a torch for them. So many women are insecure enough to really get off on that, sorry to say, but they want to control it. So, when she needs a little self-esteem boost, she could call you.
Granted, I don't know the girl, so I could be selling her short. Maybe it's just that the two of you were together for a long time, and it's hard for her to let go completely, even if she had the best of intentions to do so for both your sakes.
You really must have loved the girl if you're still having such a hard time ten months later, and I must say that I get the feeling based on what you wrote that it wasn't the healthiest of relationships. I think YOU'D be better off if you state to her that you can't be her friend, at least not right now, and that it's confusing and painful to be in contact with her, so she needs to not call you anymore, period. Then YOU block HER number. Do it for your own good.
2007-03-23 13:36:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From the looks of it, you obviously didnt cause her too much hurt. Also being that you two were in a relationship for over 3 years explains alot too. From my perspective she still to an extent cares about you, and is probably missing some of the things you use to do for her, that the other guy is not giving her. For example, she probably could talk and confide in you about certain things, that she probably cant do with the other guy, since he might not be understanding, and girls yearn for that. When I broke up with my ex of a year. I was through with him, didnt want any contact at all, and it wasnt because I didnt like him, but simply because he was still trying to be with me, and would not give me the space I needed to move on, so that made it easier for me to let everything go. When you put her on pause and showed her that it was really no big issue to go back to her, by hunting her down, it messed her up. People hate to be discounted. But then again depending on her character, she just might want to keep contact with you and see how you doing, and only for that, because she still cares about you, even if she dont want to be with you anymore. So it depends on what kind of person she is
2007-03-23 13:40:42 · answer #3 · answered by girliegirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shes keeping tabs on you because she just may try coming back sometime down the line. i see no other reason for her not to keep her end of your aggreement of no contact other than that she still cares. there must be some qualities in you that she doesnt get from the other ex's that she just loves and that keeps her lingering on. the thing is you two must dont match relationship wise but you have strong qualities that each other love about one another. she needs to make up her mind. although i suggest you two remain friends.... if thats possible.
2007-03-23 13:38:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she probably misses being with you. 10 months is a long time to realize that you actually do like somebody still. she wants to talk to you now, so take advantage of this, (not her, the phone call) and talk to her like a friend for a while. eventually she will learn to like you again, and then you might go out again, or you might just be really good friends.
p.s. the "threw" you wanted is spelled "through" fyi. if that is too long for you, just type "throu" or something, cuz using the other "threw" confused me. and i am not a dumb blonde cuz i am not blonde.
2007-03-23 13:35:42 · answer #5 · answered by stevie_girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she's playing games. If she called after saying she never wanted to, and she doesn't want you to have her contact information, it sounds like she wants to be in control. She isn't really considering your feelings/emotions. Maybe she justifies this because "you caused her so much pain." However, if she wants to talk to you every now and then, it should be able to go both ways. If she just wants to dictate when she wants to hear from you, you're not able to be friends, because she is just toying w. your emotions.
2007-03-23 13:36:37 · answer #6 · answered by sestantonse58 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your ex probably isn't 100% happy with her own relationship. keeping in contact with you will probably give her someone to talk to without having to be in a relationship with you.
you need to ask her why she suddenly started contacting you, and ask it seriously. if she honestly just wants to be friends and you're comfortable with that, go for it. otherwise, tell her you can't keep in touch with her cuz SHE already caused YOU too much emotional stress.
2007-03-23 13:35:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's not working out so well with the new guy she's seeing and she just wants some attention from you or maybe there was something u used to do that she misses. Or maybe she's tryin to compare u to the guy she's seeing now.
2007-03-23 13:36:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like she still has feelings for you.But she is in another relationship so I would tell her to leave you alone because she obviously is not telling her current boyfriend about talking to you,tell her to use someone else and to quit toying with your feelings.
2007-03-23 13:36:44 · answer #9 · answered by ....... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 years is a lot, she has to feel something for you!!!! but at the same time definetly you are not the one that she prefer the most for a relationship. do not talk to her anymore until you don't love her anymore!!!!
2007-03-23 13:36:53 · answer #10 · answered by natashalee13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋