I am in a relationship and my gf wants to call me everynight and i tell her not to crowd me and i have tried to tell her this several times am i doing anything wrong i do not wanna hurt her in anyway,please help.
2007-03-23 13:19:13 · 12 answers · asked by Sean C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She doesn't understand what your needs and boundaries are in the relationship. A relationship is an agreement by which the parties involve voluntarily give up some freedoms in order to be closer.
It's easy for one person to take this to extremes, and try to demand from a high school boyfriend, for example, what a married 34 year old woman my expect from her husband. Set some ground rules on what is and is not acceptable and give her an ultimatum. It's not like there is a rulebook somewhere of what a highschool girl should expect from her boyfriend. If you don't tell her she won't know.
2007-03-23 13:22:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, I know that sometimes the annoyance of a schedule or the requirement of a relationship is sometimes necessary but think about this. As men or women, in selecting those people that we spend the majority of our time with in life, we find that someone that we feel more than like for. This ultimately leads us to want or need to extend our relationship to include more time with that person. In essence, maybe your gf is not trying to check up on you for wrong doing, but simply enjoys your company above her other relationships in life and it is comforting and beneficila to her to chat with you. If you feel confined, tell her so and maybe there is an alternate for her to support that need. There is nothing worse than wanting to spend time with someone that you love and them telling you that you can only have them on Tuesdays and Thursdays. Wear the other shoes and be compassionate when you talk to her and her feelings will not be an issue and will make other arrangements easier and possible. I am sure that she is not intentionally trying to annoy you. Prevent the problem instead of issuing ultimatums or dividing your time and issuing her a share like all the others in your life. The positions of importance in a relationship are that your partner is granted a major portion of your time to share not monopolize therefore giving value to their love for you.
2007-03-23 20:31:47 · answer #2 · answered by missionaryplus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh you big wuss.
Why wouldn't you want to talk to your gf every night?
It means a lot to a girl to hear her bf say goodnight. Even if that's the ONLY thing said.
Lighten up a little.
I could understand if she had shrine conceived of you, made out of your own hair and gum. But she just wants to hear your voice before she falls asleep.
If you honestly think she is over doing it tell her you'll call her two or three times a week, at night. And you care about her, you're just honestly busy. [If you really are busy]
Good luck anyhow!!
2007-03-23 20:25:41 · answer #3 · answered by jenimiper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may had a bad deal with some one else if it isn't a problem call her and she will see you can be trusted or maybe she just misses you and wants to hear your voice love is that way
2007-03-23 20:25:34 · answer #4 · answered by ladyoh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, how old are oyu? You sound liek you might be thirteen.
Keep telling her not to crowd you. If she doesnt listen, then tell her that you arent going to work out and break it off.
2007-03-23 20:23:11 · answer #5 · answered by Ariel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't answer her calls when she calls. I don't mean totally ignore her, but only talk to her maybe once at night. If she gets upset ("Why didn't you answer my calls!?") Tell her that you warned her that you want some time for yourself one time to another.
2007-03-23 20:28:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
crowd you?? really? she only wants to call you instead of see you? well, obviously you don't want to see her as much as she wants to see you. let her go. she'll cry for a week and get over it. let her go find someone that likes her as much as she will like them. don't be selfish.
2007-03-23 20:23:27 · answer #7 · answered by Bella 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do NOT let her do that to you--abandon ship if she keeps it up. Watch "Play Misty for Me" several times.
2007-03-23 20:24:16 · answer #8 · answered by stevemxusa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you see her raise your right hand in the air while it is there bring it over to your left shoulder with your back of your hand facing her face swing as fast as you can connectioning the back of your hand to her cheek,,,, this solves a lot of other problems also
2007-03-23 20:24:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
either stop the madness now or start shopping for china patterns. it will not go away on it's own.
2007-03-23 20:22:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋