I have been in a relationship for about 6 weeks and this situation has occured?

Question

Girl I have been seeing had her father recently pass away. Relationship was going fine until 2 weeks after this happened. We both decided to not get more deeper into it, because of her emotions/feelings of sorrow. I emailed her a article about how to know your type & even warned her to not read it until she was ready. She emailed me & said she was in a bad mood & that me sending that wasn't good. We had a dinner date couple of days prior & everything was great. Since then I have not heard from her when I have left messages. If she wanted to just be alone I feel she should have told me so. How am I to know her mood at any given time without telling me? I would respect her need for space if she told me & she would contact me when she was ready. Since not knowing what is going on or her desire to be alone. I have been worried/stressed. I dont think this is how a person should treat another reguardless. Am I wrong? Should I end it the relationship part & just be friends or end it all?

Answer 1

It sounds to me like she is a moody person who wants to make everyone around her feel bad when she is feeling bad for whatever reason. You sound like you have been very considerate and respectful and don't deserve to be treated like garbage or ignored. I would send her one more message saying that you are sorry that she is going through such a hurtful time and that you are ready to listen with a loving ear to whatever she has to say whenever she is ready to talk. Ask her to please let you know what she needs from you to feel better. Then wait, patiently. If she continues to ignore you, or worse, send you critical messages, she obviously doesn't want to be comforted by you, as a friend or as a boyfriend.

I personally would want to be crying and comforted in the arms of my boyfriend if I lost someone so close to me.

Answer 2

Ok, her father just died? You need to be strong and put her first...she is grieving right now. It will take her 1-3 years to fully grieve from the loss of her father. Knowing this, you need to put your feelings aside-your hurt, your frustration, your loneliness, your anticipation. She ISN'T going to be able to tell you what she wants and will feel mad if you rush her into an emotional state. 6 weeks is not a long time. I would suggest if you don't have the time or desire to do the above, then just be friends with her.

If you do decide to stick it out, you need to be VERY patient, VERY understanding and emotionally stable (not happy one minute, mad the next). You also should not make future plans, but just concentrate on the day to day things.