I am dating this guy and he has cheated on me numerous times before . Lately I have noticed that he is talking to this girl a lot and flirting with her. I think he is making plans with her. Her name is Vanessa and she is really pretty. Do you think that he might be cheating? He told me that he never would but he has said that many times before. What do you think?
I am younger than he is. This has been going on for two years. What should I do? I saw him kiss her on the cheek once and once on the lips. He said he was sorry and that he was just fooling around. WHAT SHOULD I DO?!?!
2007-03-23 12:52:35 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's totally cheating on you--but you are better than him, so dump him. Let him "fool around" with Vanessa the skank whore, and DONT let him take advantage of you anymore!
2007-03-23 12:55:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. Realize that if it's gotten to the point that you seriously suspect he's cheating, your relationship is already on thin ice.
2. Remember that honesty is the best policy. Talk about it. Don't try and catch him secretly. Just ask him up front. If he won't tell you the truth, then even catching him - ed won't save your relationship. Ask him to explain his whereabouts or whatever else is troubling you. Don't take a simple yes or no answer.
3. Remind him that you've entrusted him with your heart, and how much he means to you. Tell him how proud you are of him and your relationship - how strong and honest it is. If he gets uneasy or quiet, he might be hiding something, and the guilt will eventually push him to the edge.
4. Tell him that you would never keep secrets from him, and mean it. Share with him a secret that you've kept from him; it might encourage him to admit any secrets he may be keeping, and will deepen your relationship.
5. Hiring a private investigator can be the easiest way to gain proper evidence, but can be very costly.
6. You can use spy software or monitoring programs to catch him in the act to get real evidence.
7. A friend of mine called her boyfriend knowing he was home. When he didn't pick up his phone, she borrowed his crush's cell to call him, and he picked up the phone. She dumped him. Lesson learned, if you're really dumb enough to be cheating on someone, at least be smart enough to always pick up the phone.
2007-03-23 20:00:23 · answer #2 · answered by cool&laid-back 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Open your eyes child! Have you ever heard the old saying "Once a cheat, always a cheat" It obviously was easy for him to cheat in the past, and it will be easy for him to cheat with Vanessa. Dump his ***, move on, you do not have to live your life worrying about what this schmuck is doing. Get a real sincere man.
2007-03-23 19:57:28 · answer #3 · answered by vivib 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girlfriend...if he has cheated on you in the past, he is most definately doing it again. It really is true...once a cheater, most always a cheater. You are young. Move on with your life and find a guy that cares for you and gives you the respect you DESERVE. Do not settle for less!
2007-03-23 20:00:49 · answer #4 · answered by Sassy S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie cannot let this keep happening to you its not easy but trust me your heart will feel at such rest when you let him go dont be a fool honey if his done it before he will continue until he sees what he really want but there guys out there that just like to cheat and it not right because there is also guys out there that want to be faithful seriously youve put up with enough dont let this keep slidin at the end you ll be the one gettin hurt
2007-03-23 19:59:53 · answer #5 · answered by nata s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep going back like you always have, if you keep doing the same thing after he keeps doing the same thing its a sure thing you will get a different outcome right?I dont think so homegirl.Do the same things youve always done, youll get the same things youve always got,in this case, cheated on.
2007-03-23 19:57:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I didnt even have to read your whole story . Once a cheater always a cheater. Dont believe that sorry crap. Why would he stay with you if he wants to be with others thats stupid you cant say he cares cause if yhe did he wouldnt be doing what he's doing !
2007-03-23 19:59:48 · answer #7 · answered by Zainyazen 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OH yea.
From a guys point of view. If she forgave me one she will forgive me twice.
If you have been forgiving him for two years he has you trained very well, I wish that you were mine so I could walk all over you like that and still come over to get a piece when the pool was dry.
2007-03-23 19:58:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should break up with him b/c i been in the same situation and i found out once a cheater always a cheater
2007-03-23 20:12:37 · answer #9 · answered by marie8701 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I read the first line only, then realized you need to move on. He cheats once it's OVER!!!
2007-03-23 20:03:56 · answer #10 · answered by JLM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋