how do you learn to love yourself...?

Question

when you hate everything about yourself, and you dont want to be 'full of yourself'...?

Answer 1

To love yourself is not to be full of yourself. It is to respect yourself and know that you are worthy. I would say that to the child within you and nurture that child. In other words, the part of you that hates yourself, that feels insecure is the child within....what would you say to a child who has these feelings. This works because it's a way of reassuring yourself.

It's quite a sweeping statement to say that you hate everything about yourself. Depression can cause these intense feelings.

Write down things that are positive about you....this can be a very difficult exercise to do...because often we don't want to find the good. It is there, though.

See, the more you feed negative stuff into your mind about yourself...the more you will feel like rubbish....what you need to do is balance things up and put good thoughts about you in your head. It's easy to say there isn't anything good....but there is...think hard...think about what other people would say.

Every time you think a negative thought about yourself, challenge it in a scientific way....what evidence is there for that statement and what evidence is there against it.

If you fill your brain will bad stuff then that is what you'll believe 'cos it's the only thing you've put in there....the more good stuff you can think about yourself, then the more your mind will begin to change.

I've been in this situation...it takes time and practise but it does work...if you're willing to try.

Best wishes.

Answer 2

If you are not doing it, start reading the bible. If you don't attend a church, find a bible study group nearby that you could attend regularly to help you understand the bible better.
Every word in the bible can be applied to your life. No matter how mamy times you read the bible, if you live til you are 100 years old, you will learn something new that you can apply to your life. This will help you understand yourself, learn what purpose you have here on earth, set reasonable goals for yourself, get rid of baggage thats weighing you down, be responsible, be your own person and not what someone else wants you to be, think positive, not worrying about losing but taking the chance anyway. I know there is probably a lot more that could be added to the list. But reading the bible, appling it to your life and working toward having a positive attitude will help you to love God first which in turn will help you love yourself. And if there is anybody in your life that is going to tell you that this is not possible and is going to prevent you from being a loving person, then they do not need to be a part of your life.

Answer 3

I hate everything about myself, yet I've learned to deal with who I am from the start.

You can't change who you are. You can alter your appearance and your lifestyle. You can make a difference in your attitude and how people view you. You can take away the bad things and add good things, but no matter what, you'll still be unhappy with yourself. You have to take the time to realize that you are not the same as anyone else. You have to put aside a place for you to think about what things are good, because its pretty much impossible to hate EVERYTHING about yourself. And once you find that unique piece of yourself, then you'll emphasize what makes you happy, instead of miserable.

Don't look down on yourself. Occupy your life with things that bring smiles other than tears. You know you're lucky just to have a computer to complain on...

Answer 4

Some people say you need to be loved by someone before you can love yourself. The same people say you must love yourself before you can love someone else. In a perfect world, your parents loved you when they had you and while you were growing up. That would have tought you how to love yourself as a young adult. Then you would have been in the position to offer love to another in the form of a relationship and a mariage.

Have you ever heard the saying, "Love is a war, and there is hate in it." That should encourage you when you are hating on yourself.

I love you!

Answer 5

Loving yourself is simply accepting who you are. Mistakes are made by everyone. What you make of those mistakes is the focal point. To reflect on anything and to know that you did the best you could is all you can hope for. Be realistic. Know that if a friend made a mistake that you would be forgiving and supportive of them. You should do the same for yourself.

Answer 6

One way of stopping yourself from being conceited and loving yourself at the same time is realizing the good in you and the good in others. The good things you share with people and the bad. Loving yourself doens't mean loving the good, its forgiving yourself and then changing things for the good. Of course, you can't change completely, but so long as yo ucan hope, you are willing to try and yo udo your best at it, you are worth loving. You are worth fighting for.

Answer 7

Just have respect for yourself just like you would anyone else you admire.you don't have to be full of yourself to love yourself..Just be as kind to yourself as you would to other people,and look in the mirror everyday and say hey i love you..you do that when your looking at someone else telling them you love them..take care

Answer 8

Start by lien to yourself if needed. But remember this, If its looks that are bothering you.... Remember that what everyone else is doing does not make it right for everone. Being yourself is often the best thing. It makes you Unique! To be something your not, will not make you happy.

Answer 9

go 2 peekvid and watch the movie the secret

Answer 10

You have to be comfadint ♥ ps your probally beautiful