Is it better to have a big family or a small family in your opinion? Explain Why?

Question

I was thinking of this earlier. I know what I think of the question but I was wondering what others were thinking of this subject. and before I leave to let you answer this question, please when you answer please explain why you think so, it would be much appreciated.

Answer 1

In my opinion it is better to have a big family. I say this because I have seen it one way and experienced it another. My great grandmother had eleven children, which are all very close and supportive of each other. On the other hand I only have one sister and we could not be more opposite. The joy that I get when gathered around all of my aunts and uncles is a great feeling. Another factor to this is cost though. I want as many children as I can afford to support (maximum of eleven).

Answer 2

I am the third of eleven children. It was tough at times when I was a kid because there was no place to go when I needed to be by myself, but it was also great because there was always someone to play with. All 7 of the girls shared a dorm style bedroom and we would often talk late into the night about boyfriend issues, school, etc. We also all had responsibilities around the house, helping with house cleaning, laundry, cooking, child care... so when I became a parent (only 2 boys, not by choice), I was totally prepared for what to expect.

One of my sisters has 14 children, all still at home. They are very close, and do all kinds of stuff together, including surfing, rock climbing, photography, camping, many of them play musical instruments and they sing all the time... the kids are homeschooled and also help their father in the family construction business and the children created their own website. Don't think big families can't do as much because of money constraints. Where there is a will there is a way.

Answer 3

It totally depends on the individuals involved--taking into account finances, living conditions and lifestyle--people should have the family size that best allows them to have a relatively comfortable life--one that maximizes their happiness..for some people they want no children--they feel it would cramp their style, etc..some want just one child--etc..there is a balance between loving children and wanting them in your life and then realistically assessing how another child would fit into your overall family life--would having another child make you happier--or would it be too much of a financial burden--maybe you don't care about that and the joy would outweigh the difficulties?..It is all an individual decision...but people need to be honest with themselves about what would really work for them--they shouldn't look at others and say--oh so-and so- could do it--so can I--it depends on your expectations and what would work for you--

Having said that--I think having some siblings is nice for a child if the parents can still manage to have time for all the children and can financially afford a pretty comfortable lifestyle for all of the kids...this way kids have people in their homes to play with, bond with, etc..and it keeps things lively...and this is true even if the kids are very different in age--because bonding will still occur...

Answer 4

I think it is better to have a big family, both as a child, to have some siblings, and as an adult, to have a few children.

I believe it is a great thing for a child to have siblings, to have somebody to grow up with. I also believe it is a great thing for an adult, to have somebody so close, somebody you have known all your life and you grew up with. If there are more of them, there will be more joy and more fun, both while they are children and later, when they are grown-ups. And there will be more support and more love as well and we can never have too much of those. Of course, this only goes if a family is a happy and a healthy one.

So, I think it would be nice to enable your children to have siblings. Also, though I am not a parent yet, I feel is so great, so special, so rewarding, that having a big family seems like an awesome thing to me!

Answer 5

I always wanted a big family, but I was destined to have an only child due to many miscarriages. Like someone else said, there are pros and cons to everything. Since someone already gave you a great pro to having a big family, I'll name some of the pros to having an only child.

More time to spend one-on-one with that child

Tons more money to spend ON that child (horseback riding lessons, music lessons, private school, every hobby under the sun)

Tons more money to take really cool family vacations 2-3 times a year and sometimes allow child to bring a friend along

The ability to get along very well on one person's salary thereby allowing me to be a stay-at-home mom

Twice, I've overheard other kids tell my daughter they wish they were an only child like her and she's told me many times that she's glad she is an only child. If I had my way, I'd still have had a big family, but I'm happy the way things worked out and I'm glad my child is too.

Answer 6

I personally think a big family is waay better...Imagine being an only child...yeah you are probably spoiled but just think about how lonely that would be...siblings in my opinion are best friends for life. They are always there especially if your friends are not. They also keep each other busy. And they help each other more than any parent could possibly know... i love having 5 sisters...i have learned so much about life through them. . . i would hate to have an only child i would feel so guilty, like i was depriving them of everything that i had.

Answer 7

Well I have 2 real sisters, 2 ex-step sisters 1 ex-step brother, 3 step sisters and 1 step brother... and growing up wasn't easy.. In fact most of it I have taught myself to forget because I hated it.. I think that if you are loving parents and you can handle alot of kids and can make them all feel loved and not always be trying to make ends meat and get thier new clothes out of give away bags then go for it.. big families are fun. but if you are like me and just want to be able to get by each day with money in the bank and know that all your bills will be covered and you have food in your house and can spoil your kid everyonce in a while then just have 2 or 3 at the most..

Answer 8

this is a question i am constantly putting to myself, because i am in the process of beginning my own big family..
I choose a big family because i came from a big family, i didn't always have my siblings to play with, frankly as the youngest, they didn't always want me around, but they did always stick up for me if someone was bullying me, my sisters did play with me (even if i was the doll most days) and overall, i enjoyed coming from a big family.
but i think i am out of my mind when creating my own big family, and i stare in awe at my mother who bore five children of her own and adopted two into our home. I adopted my niece (5yrs), to give her a good home at the same time i had my first baby (9mo's) and am pregnant with my second baby (2.5 mo's along) i a tired on a constant basis, i gave up trying to keep my house spotless because there isn't enough time in the day to play with my children and clean and cook and do laundry (now i know why mom's house was always a lil messy)
bottom line, i've almost got three kids, and plan on two more! and i don't remember how good sleep feels, i haven't had a moment without some kind of fear, and i have cried more then i ever did in my young life. (well i am pregnant)

This growing family of mine has been an emotional rollercoster, and it isn't even near done, but i stick to my resolve, big family, better.. there is some strange joy in seeing your children playing and laughing together.. even if there are plenty of fights to go around...

Answer 9

If I could I would love to have 4-5 more kids and I am 52. my last one I adopted at birth when my baby was already 12 years old
This is not for every one But man kids are so cool
I love the noise, the giggles, the sounds of children, I have kids always talking to me in person about troubles and I help go between kids and their parents some times when they can not seem to understand each other, some reason they trust me and I love helping them. To Me A HOUSE IS JUST A HOUSE TILL IT HAS KIDS... THEN IT BECOMES A HOME.....

Answer 10

Well I have a huge family, and everyone thinks its so good. But really its not its easy to get left out since there is so many people they cant notice everyone. At other times its good because there are certain things such as games that get more enjoyable the more people there are with different personalities.