The other night my girlfriend came home late after going out with some friends... I found some pictures on her camera of her making out with another guy. She said she was drunk and that she as soon as she realised what happened she pushed him away and asked to leave... she said that it was all that happened, but there were like 4 or 5 pictures..
she said how sorry she was, she deleted her myspace and changed her phone number.. and said she wouldnt go anywhere without me from now on.
I dont really believe her that it was all that happened, and the fact that there were 4 or 5 pictures makes me not beleive that she was trying to push him away.. and she didnt seem like she was pushing him away..
My question is... what should I do...? I told her I would take her back, because she deleted her myspace, and changed her phone number.
I think I should have her call this guy on the spot, and say "I was drunk, what did we do the other day" and see what he says (if she's lying..?)
2007-03-23 12:32:13 · 22 answers · asked by Nat T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
shes only human, and young. while it doesnt excuse her behavior, everyone makes mistakes and is entitled to another chance. give her the benefit of the doubt, and give her another chance. besides, it was only a kiss, right?
2007-03-23 12:37:07 · answer #1 · answered by ICEBOX 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You know, there is a saying: "The drunk man does what the sober man wants to do." I would think that you want a girlfriend who knows how to be respectful of you whether she is drunk or not. I got married at a very young age (19) and I have been drunk many a time. I have NEVER even kissed another dude. And how is it that she was sober enough to have pictures of it? She may be remorseful and willing to give up a few things, but if you let her get away with this behavior now, it will come up again. The only question will be when. When she is pregnant with your child? Before your wedding? At a party with your family members? Do yourself a favor. While you are still young, go for the gold. No need to settle for trash!
2007-03-23 19:39:22 · answer #2 · answered by TEXY1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that must have been tough, no-one should have to go through that. it really depends on how much you want to be with this girl, i mean, if you really like, or love this girl its hard to let go if she doesnt want to breakup. i believe in second chance, but you need to know the truth and it will always come out no matter what. Maybe try to speak to this guy and ask him what happened. He's has nothing to loose in telling the truth if yu ask him calmly and not with punches, you know what i mean! If she isnt telling the truth, she will be forever looking over her shoulder and telling more lies to cover for whatever she really hiding. but she may be telling the truth, but after 5 photos, i think its pretty cler what did happen. Good luck mate!
2007-03-23 19:49:13 · answer #3 · answered by Nik 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should re-evaluate your relationship with her, and if she's somone worth keeping, let it go. Everyone makes mistakes, let her know that you're not happy with it, that alcohol should not be an excuse, and that it should never happen again (and if it does, dump her). it sounds like she's sorry, so give her a second chance.
also, 4 or 5 pics could have been taken one after another during 30 seconds or so, so i'm not sure thats a good indicator.
good luck
2007-03-23 20:57:22 · answer #4 · answered by JudyRamone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shes lying and you are stupid for beliving her. the reason she deleted her myspace is so she wont be busted again because the guy has already sent or will send her **** and of course the cell phone because he already has the # and she wont accedently receive a call from him while you are around. 99% says she already has another myspace acct and an alternate number where she can be reached
2007-03-23 19:46:17 · answer #5 · answered by DIRKDIGGLER 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously i dont know how else to say this because i know it hurts ya. But dump her. once a cheater always a cheater. The SAME thing happenend to me dude. the whole "I was drunk" thing is a bunch of bs. Ive been hammered and i would never make out with some random chick if i didnt want to. When your drunk you do things you want to do but usually wouldnt. In my opinion tell her to pound sand, and get a chick that would never hurt you like that
2007-03-23 19:36:47 · answer #6 · answered by Mikey B 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
What more do you want from her? People do all kinds of strange things when they are drunk. If you are really worried about her going further than a few kisses, ask her to get tested for STD's (drunk people don't use condoms either). If you are going to take her back, don't harp on the subject. If you can't let it go, then drop her.
2007-03-23 19:37:06 · answer #7 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Will you still trust her? do you want to be always worried about her? Do you think she`s the only woman around? It`s not and easy answer, and it`s not easy to give and advise in such situations. Maybe this questions help you some. Try to think with time, no one hurries you (she shouldn`t be the one), and always think in the bottom line of what`s happening.
2007-03-23 19:40:51 · answer #8 · answered by Alec113 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Calm down, Be sensible. If you ask her to call, the other person might think you are so childish or something. It's not a problem with the other guy. It's problem with your girlfriend. Try to talk clearly with your girlfriend and try to get solutions. Good luck!
2007-03-23 19:37:37 · answer #9 · answered by future 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Once a cheater always a cheater.....Next time she'll say "Oops honey I fell on top of his penis and kept trying to get off but I was drunk".....she should have never gotten drunk if she can't handle it.....If my girlfriend of 6 years did that to me.......bye bye
2007-03-23 19:38:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think if you cant trust her word you need to break up with her.. if you cant trust somebody, you cant have any type of relationship with them
that's a crappy situation ive been through before, and the only thing i learned is that sometimes people change, but usually they dont
good luck man
2007-03-23 19:38:01 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋