ok here is the problem my best friend in the whole world told me he loves me but i don't love him so i told him that i'm not aloud to date and that i'm srry but i'm just not atractted to him like that and now is acting all weird how do i tell him that the fact of our friendship falling apart is killing me and every time i see him which is like every day all day becuz he is in all of my classes it just kills me the thought of him being hurt makes me cry but i just cant stop hating him for making me choose between dating or nothing and even if i was attracted to him if we broke up things would never be the same what should i do i'm so dieing here i miss him the way used to be and i'm all he has but i don't love him and i can see him dieing when ever a different guy asks me out so i gave up the chance to go out with this really cute and funny guy bcuz i didn't want to hurt him i care for him deeply but i don't love him and he is so stuburn he won't stop trying to get me to go out with him
2007-03-23 12:29:50 · 7 answers · asked by Kaydi Em 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just to let you all know i wasn't able to date (and he already knew that b4 hand)when i told him but then afterwards my dad said i could so i didn't lie to him and i don't remember anytime that i ever have he is my best friend i would never lie to him i care about him way to much to hurt him that is why i posted this so i could figure out how to tell him without hurting him bcuz i already have and i don't want to do it again.
2007-03-23 12:49:17 · update #1
Okay I had this same problem just a few weeks ago...
Don't lie to him about not being able to date...that will odds are make it worse. Just calmly explain to him that there are other girls out there for him and that you're not the right one. THen tell him that you've felt weird around him lately. And tell him you dont want it to be awkward around him and that you wish things would be back to normal. It might take some practice, but he'll learn to deal with it. It's better than hurting yourself. Also tell him that you didnt want to act like you liked him and then really be hurting BOTH of you. Then just act like you used to around him before this all started. He will eventually stop liking you and find someone else. But dont forget to tell him you will always be there for him no matter what. THat will make him realize that it's best NOT to go out so it doesnt ruin the brother-sister bond you have. Then he will also realize you are no more than just a friend. I had to do this too with my best friend.
2007-03-23 12:37:42 · answer #1 · answered by kabelski101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you like your friend enough to date him .. but only you will know.
I agree .. don't lie to him any more.
But you have drawn a line in the sand and don't be surprised if you don't see him much any more.
After a certain point it is really hard for a guy to be "just friends" if he likes a girl enough and you both have just found that out.
But you are young and seem determined to meet other guys .. which is probably the right thing to do.
2007-03-23 16:16:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be honest. But I'm afraid you run a serious risk of losing him...at least for a while. He'll be heartbroken and probably won't want to be around you. It will be too hard. So tell him the truth, apologize for lying, and give him space and time. Sometimes you lose people. It's sad, but true. But you can't keep lying to him if you respect him. And it may take a while, but he'll get over you and can probably be your friend again later.
2007-03-23 12:35:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that there's a girl out there for him and you just want to be friends
2007-03-23 12:33:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should show him this message. It sounds like you do love him, but like a brother. tell him that. and maybe reconsider, he sounds like a good guy.
2007-03-23 12:34:18 · answer #5 · answered by Revelation S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mabye date him and dump him and that will be a lesson for his ***
2007-03-23 12:32:23 · answer #6 · answered by ashlandtree 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say this "just because im not dating you, doesnt mean we still cant be friends..."
2007-03-23 12:34:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋