I have been in a serious relationship with this girl for 6 months from since this summer. I always taught she was the prettiest smartest girl I have ever met when I met her 6 years ago in high school. We were best friends and then became in a serious relationship. She is pressuring me to sleep with her, in my mind I want to do it because she looks good and I really care and admire her but in my heart I feel that I should wait longer. What is best?
2007-03-23 12:26:28 · 61 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you have to ask, that should tell you that you are not ready. Wait until you are married, it will mean SOOOOOOOOOOOOO much more.
2007-03-26 05:41:09 · answer #1 · answered by cztara 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I won't make a moral issue out of this. I do not condone premarital sexual relations. But here's what I will say: You should explain to her that you place this kind of intimacy in higher importance than that (whatever it is you're feeling, tell her. If this is a serious relationship, both you and your girl deserve and have the obligation to take the time and effort to really talk things out.) If you don't feel with your mind, body, and heart that you want to sleep with her at this time (maybe it is just carnal temptation), then your experience will not be as satisfying as if you did. It's that easy.
If you truly feel ready, as a man, as a member of your family (what would they say?), as your father's son, as your girl's partner, as the person you will be in five, ten, twenty years, as in your relationship, with your heart and body and mind, and you love her, then you should go ahead, because the experience will be full and satisfying and not just physical. But If you don't, then you should wait until it would truly be a fulfilling experience. Just remember sleeping with someone should strengthen a sense of intimacy that already exists with talk and coexistence, not begin a sense of intimacy. Having premarital sex could create a false sense of intimacy that could have been attained (and enjoyed) in a much more fulfilling way. OK, that's all I'm saying.
Good luck.
2007-03-25 12:04:58 · answer #2 · answered by loupazul 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow..you're a guy and feel you should wait? That's pretty awesome, really. romantic in a way, especially for whoever the girl is that you eventually give yourself away to. Same for a girl. Anyway, you should do what you think is best. For a girl, the first time is definetely most important, or so I'm told. For a guy, it could be, but usually it isn't.
Let me caution you on one thing, though, because I don't want it to happen to you. If you like this girl in any way, or you think she's cute, think carefully. Because it's possible that later on in life, if you don't hit it, you'll wish you would have. I know.... I know a few girls that liked me...and wanted me to hit it, but I didn't for one reason or another (chicken lol). And now I regret it.
But on the other hand, if you think you might regret doing it later, don't do it. Just think what will be more important to you like 10 years from now.
2007-03-23 12:32:33 · answer #3 · answered by merlin_steele 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, especially if she is pressuring you. If you don't feel that it's right for you both(like you feel her father is gonna kick your a**, or you are afraid that something bad may happen, don't go for it) The worst thing to happen is for her to break up w/ you and u dont want that to happen. Just tell her that you don't think that you are ready for sex yet. But since your a guy, what are you so afraid about?? I'm not trying to be rude, but it doesn't hurt for a guy as much as a girl's first time. I don't think it should even hurt at all, just a little weird, maybe, but you aren't ready, so stick with your answer.
Hope that this helps u lots=)
2007-03-23 12:38:35 · answer #4 · answered by supaflyredhead1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart, or regret will follow you. You waited this long. Where is the relationship going, besides the bedroom, whats next? Alot to think about. How will you fel about her after the mystery is gone? Basically sex is sex some better than others but basically the same. Alot is going to change after you sleep with her. Just really think about all the consequenses that might go along with the pleasure.
2007-03-23 12:32:34 · answer #5 · answered by Papa Joe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give in to pressure. Do it only when you feel it is the right time. Obviously it is not now. You have all your life to do it. There is no hurry. Take your time. If you are still dependent on your parents or below the age of 18, definitely Don't Do it. If you do it after you finish education and living on your own, the new confidence gives you extra satisfaction.
2007-03-23 12:29:42 · answer #6 · answered by gamma_wave 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy are you sure that you are strait.
What the hell is wrong with you. A girl wants to get banged and you don't want to do the banging.
Hell when I was you age I banged all that I could. Now that I am older I still want to bang all that I could.
Have some fun before you settle down. While it's there take advantage of it.
After you have sex for the first time you will kick yourself in the *** for not doing it before.
If you don't bang it someone else will.
Do it right now......
I wlways say if your D I C K is hard it's the right time.
2007-03-23 12:33:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
The fact you are asking this suggests you are not ready. What about disease? Wear a condom, no matter what!
As trite as it sounds, you WILL know the right time.
Sex is no big deal. Really, truly, it means more when you care deeply about the other person, ESPECIALLY if you are a virgin.
Also, you don't give your age. If you are under 18, talk with an adult that you trust -- they will give you a unique perspective to life.
2007-03-23 12:30:41 · answer #8 · answered by alter_tygo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
6 months is very little time. You should wait much more and make sure that you are in love with her and you see a future with her. Remember that if you don't feel 100% ready you shouldn't do it or else you will regret it! hope you make the right choice
2007-03-23 12:30:23 · answer #9 · answered by celinuchis90 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she truly cares about you and knew how much you thought this through, then she'll admire your decision and wouldn't pressure you anymore until you feel the time is right for the two of you. I suggest that you hold out until you feel you really love this girl. And remeber to use protection.
2007-03-27 10:39:29 · answer #10 · answered by josefa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to convince yourself-then you are not ready in your heart you feel you should wait then you really should trust your instincts.They really isn't any set time-hopefully after you are at least educated about sex and are over 17 in my opinion but you should be the one to decide without the influence of other people.Good luck
2007-03-23 12:30:44 · answer #11 · answered by sweetsmiles69@jennieask-me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋