My neice is a spoiled brat who doesn't appreciate anything. Last year for her 10th birthday I gave her $20. She said "ooooh wow $20" in her most sarcastic voice. She didn't even thank me. So it's her birthday again and I don't really even want to give her anything. For one thing, I can't afford to give her $50 or $100 and then I just think that's too steep if I could and the rude way she accepted my gift last year just doesn't get it. Her grandma on her dad's side (they're divorced) gives her everything she asks for & she's spoiled and bratty as a result. Should I give her a gift or what?
2007-03-23 12:23:17 · 24 answers · asked by ♥Pretty♥ ♥Kitty♥ 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
How do I explain not giving a gift without hurting my sister's feelings?
2007-03-23 12:29:05 · update #1
In that case, I think I'd just give her a very nice card. I'd probably choose one that pokes fun at the fact that there is no gift attached.
2007-03-23 12:28:53 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Lucky♥ 6 · 5⤊ 3⤋
Sorry, you have such a ungrateful niece. Any chance that you could "avoid" her on her birthday. I would let her ask me "Hey where's my birthday present? At that point I would say ... Well last year you really hurt my feeling when I gave you a gift. I don't want my feeling hurt again. This "should" help open a conversation with her...perhaps she will feel a little empathy....I would also have a card for her with $15- 20 gift card to say Target. Ready to give after your conversation. I like a gift card for a kid this age cause then she can choose what she likes and feel grown up. Cash feels a little impersonal.
In closing be the good aunt and try to help this kid get a little manners ... That would be the best gift you could give her. good Luck.
2007-03-23 12:41:51 · answer #2 · answered by yeah , yeah whatever 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that is totally unfair that she wouldn't give a "Thank You" or atleast a hug for actually getting something from her aunt on her birthday. She could have gotten nothing. Hey, I would be happy if I got twenty dollars on my birthday. Look, I would atleast give her a card saying happy birthday, or get her an ipod gift card for 15 dollars and that's it. When she blurts out some negative comment than just kill her with kindness. I think that is pretty rotten if you don't appreciate squat. A gift is a gift and when she is older hopefully she will regret what she said.
2007-03-23 12:46:32 · answer #3 · answered by Ms.Flirtz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Might I suggest you give her a gift but go to the dollar store and get her 20 little things they sell nick knacks or get her her Favorite snacks with a joke card. Make sure this year the gift is cheap looking then next year her high hopes won't be so high
2007-03-23 12:35:41 · answer #4 · answered by malebear1960az 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all has she changed in the year that has been significant. i mean have you talked to her and found her to still be a brat? if so you should probably tell your sister now don't wait for a party and give her what you gave last year. another 20.00 wont break you but you will have a chance to point out her behavior. you should say to give it back if she says it again. and make sure you do it in front of people so she gets embarrassed by her own behavior
2007-03-23 12:35:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh my, I am chuckling over this one. I think I have outdone myself:
Send her to etiquette classes, starting with table manners. This is a gift that she truly needs.
This might be more expensive, but has a BIG payoff in the end. Who knows, the little "dear" might actually learn something. And perhaps her parents as well.
If this gift is refused, take it as a sign to not feel obligated to give anything in the future. Ever.
2007-03-23 12:30:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
You should bring her nothing. Then when she starts to whine about it, remind her of last year. Have a nice gift ready for after she apologizes or says thank you from last year. If she doesn't end up apologizing, you should ask for your $20 back. If she doesn't have it with her, show her the nice gift you had in mind, then rip it up in front of her.
2007-03-23 15:07:17 · answer #7 · answered by hanalulu2☺♥☻ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, what I would do is immature and wrong, but here goes. I would give the brat something that looks nice but that you know she will NOT like. Why try? She is going to be rude about it anyway. And you will feel much better. I did that to my in-laws for years. It was fun.
2007-03-23 21:29:36 · answer #8 · answered by Patti C 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would give her a gift card this year (just be prepared for her not to like it...) but when she gives you a gift this year for Christmas or your birthday, hold onto it and give it to her next year.
2007-03-23 12:39:43 · answer #9 · answered by phdamy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it might be appropriate for you to gently as possible let your sister know that her child is a spoiled brat
for the child: give her 15 dollars this year... say, "you didn't seem to like the $20 dollars last year, so I though this might be more fun!!"
2007-03-23 17:44:58 · answer #10 · answered by Lulu Belle 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would not give her anything, and spend that money on a nice manicure on yourself and go to the party.
And your sister will get over it sooner or later
2007-03-23 12:34:00 · answer #11 · answered by lalupis 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋