We all know our parents love all of us, but is it wrong to have a favorite?
2007-03-23 12:20:37 · 14 answers · asked by Truth Hurts 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Of the bat just to let you know that i have no children, but it is normal that you may prefer one "alittle" over another. this coming from a person who is a first child out of five, and her mother keeps telling here that "shes the best" it dosnet nesesarily mean its bad but it does affect the other children...
2007-03-23 12:25:15 · answer #1 · answered by KARLA M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think every child a mother has every one is her favorite according to time , and age, and how far a part they are. I got three kids and when my first was born, I couldn't image loving someone like I did my son. He was my world and everyday when he was a baby I was happy he was my baby and know one can take us a part then when I had my second child a girl I just loved watching her and with her I wanted her to be strong from the inside out, because she was my daughter and no one could hate her and my last child a boy was my baby and he was the king to me and no one better not hurt him. and to this day he is 9 and I call out my baby. And there own way there all spacial and for some one to say that's my favorite child is wrong you treat each child accordingly to their attitudes, personally etc...By saying or treating the other one you call" your favorite" your making your other child hate that brother/sister and making them feel less loved. Of course you loved them the same, but that's not how your going to make your child feel. And your child's feelings come first. All brothers and sisters fight I heard it over and over mom loves you more you where always her favorite and that's how some moms make there children feel and that's wrong.
2007-03-23 19:39:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its wrong, but most parents do have their favorite.
I had a step-mother who had 2 children. One was 2 years older and the other obviously was the youngest. She liked the youngest one more. Just by looking at them I could tell and I was shocked how it would be so obvious. Like if you had a favorite child, wouldn't you want to try to keep it a secret to yourself?
But, I must admit the youngest one seemed to have a better attitude and was cuter most of the time.
2007-03-23 19:25:23 · answer #3 · answered by DisneyLover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im from a big family and growing up we were all told how much we were loved there was no difference made!We all got new shoes the same day and were constantly told you know by my parents "we dont love your sister or brothers more than you"and by the way im the baby!A good parent does not have a favourite so yes it is wrong.
2007-03-23 19:29:39 · answer #4 · answered by bubble 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I only have one child so I can't respond with 100% certainty, but....
I think mothers love their children differently and for different reasons. I dont think the it is about "favorites" as much as it is about -- maybe one child is more like THEM than another.....or one child causes them to worry more.......or one child is more needy.
I also think these feelings of being closer to one child than another change over time, based on ages, what is going on, etc. Situations change, and so do feelings.
But I could be wrong. After all, as a child I was afraid of my dad, and adored my mother. Starting in my teenage years, I didn't like either of them. As an adult, I definitely preferred my dad.
2007-03-23 20:01:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 2 kids and i dont favor them, i love them for what makes them special to me, my son is calm and understanding and loving my daughter makes me laugh a lot, and i love her laugh and her smile. I heard of parents favoring there children and to me its wrong and i wouldnt want to be the child that wasnt favored. my daughter is 11 months old but she gets a little more attention at times because shes a baby, my 5 year old always particiapates with her
2007-03-23 19:26:24 · answer #6 · answered by oneandonlyness 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i really don't know how to answer this because i am an only child, but i know alot of my friends are favorites or their younger brother or sister are, i think its wrong to have a favorite, but if you do, you shouldn't show it, unless you have a favorite something with each one (ex. favorite to play board games with, favorite to color with (if they are little) and if they are older favorite to go shopping with, or favorite to cook dinner with) but have one for each so nobody feels left out
2007-03-23 19:32:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well each kid is different i have 2 boys and they are both totally different you love each one for different reasons . Like my older son is soo bad but there's just something about him that i love maybe its cause hes 2 and he talks more i love it . my other son is 1 he doesnt do much besides walk and baby talk but i love them both the same and i couldnt pick which one is my favorite!
2007-03-23 19:27:25 · answer #8 · answered by Zainyazen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Mother did, and I resented her for that. I treat my children equally and I love both of them dearly.
2007-03-23 20:29:08 · answer #9 · answered by Urchin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its typical to get along better with one or more than the other or others. just personality conflicts or such. love is the same for each. peace
2007-03-23 19:24:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋