Please Help Me (Serious Answers)?

Question

I want to die (bit straightforward) but i do not know why? In my lifetime no major incidents have happened, no one close has died nothing like that. My feelings confuse me, I am not depressed, i dont feel sad , but everyday i think of suicide, death, which seems like the place to go. Why is this happening to me, plz help

Answer 1

Well, obviously you ARE depressed.

http://www.suicidehotlines.com/

Answer 2

Hi, you've taken a first HUGE step - by asking about your feelings, so you must have realised that dying isn't really what you want to do - so well done.

I don't agree with some of the answers given, especially ones that tell you that it is wrong to have such feelings. I myself, and many others I know, do have similar thoughts on very regular occasions. The people who don't are the lucky ones!

What we sufferers all have to realise is that every time we have these thoughts but don't act on them, it's a good thing. We manage to go through the thought process but not do the ultimate - and for that we should applaud ourselves.

I really think it would help for you to talk to someone so you can voice what you are thinking. An understanding GP would be good place to start. A close family member, or friend might also help - but be aware that they may not understand your feelings and could be angry and/or distressed by what you say - so you will need to choose wisely. Find a good local mental health charity who can offer you help, support and understanding.

Personally I have found that my local 'Mind' has been the place that has offered me most support. We are extremely lucky in the town I live in as the Mind there offers a drop-in centre which is open 5 days a week. For me this was a much less scary place to go, as they are not formal health professionals, but they are very knowledgeable and can access further help for you.

The great thing about the drop-in centre is that it can be accesed as and when you want to. There are no set appointments, no rules on how often you have to attend, and no stigma or discrimination from the people you will meet there. Other members are suppportive and all have their own understanding and suggestions to help everyone else out.

The samaritans offer telephone support, but also offer an email service - which I've found preferable on occasion, as it is feels easier to maintain your privacy (set yourself up an email account in a different name, and use only for this purpose) and no-one can find out who you are. They ususally aim to provide a reply within 24 hours.

There are many causes of depression, and it is much more common than people realise. It doesn't have to start with a major lifetime event, it can slowly build up over a period of time without you realising that it is happening.

Don't be disheartened, you're doing well so far. You may have the thoughts, but you are still here to ask your question and wait for helpful answers.

Every time you have the thoughts, whether you sit and plan everything out, or just have a brief thought, be strong - tell yourself you aren't going to act on them.

Try and seek some sort of advice, hopefully some of what I've mentioned will be available to you. Don't sit alone trying to cope with this, there really is good help available you just need to know where to look for it.

Good luck - Be brave - Keep surviving!!

You may never get completely rid of the thoughts, and that's something you may have to live with, but if you can learn the best way of you dealing with them, then you'll have not given in, and will be coping.

It's not easy, there isn't a miracle cure, but there is hope!!

Answer 3

You may think of suicide but do you really want to die? It is normal for people to think about death, what is it like etc - we all have dark thoughts for no reason - it doesn't mean you are depressed and immediately need medication like a zombie. You don't say how long this has been going on for - perhaps you are just going through a down time - this happens to everyone. I really am against mediciation that so many people just pop pills. We are all human, everyone of us goes through stages in our lives whether you are 20, 40, 60 or 80 we all face different problems and issues. Talk to a doctor or family and friends.

Answer 4

I'm sorry for how you're feeling. You may not be aware of any other symptoms, but to me you ARE depressed. I suffer from ongoing severe depression and think about suicide frequently.

All I can say is make an emergency appointment with your gp on monday. If you think you are at severe risk of carrying out your thoughts, go to A & E and speak to someone NOW!!! Depression is just an illness, it's a lack of serotonin for whatever reason, either you don't produce enough in the first place or your neurotransmitters are taking it back in. PLEASE SEEK HELP AS SOON AS POSSIBLE!!!

Answer 5

Thomas i'm so sorry you feel this way.I suppose you feel you need a reason to feel like this.You say your life has had no major problems,so it's not as if you are thinking over past troubles.So what can it be?
To be thinking everyday about ending your life,is not right is it?
I don't know how old you are,but just try writing two lists.
On one list write,what your death would mean to the people you leave behind.
On the other write what your death would achieve,what would it prove?and to whom?
Why do you say death seams like the place to go?
Have you ever been there?i have,and came back.
.I t's not someting i want to do again for a long long time.

Answer 6

You are dealing with some kind of depression or something..I understand..I have major depression disorder...was diagnoised seven years ago..untill then i also had those feelings..you have to get some help..please do this..my friend killed himself about 18 months ago and it has tore alot of people apart..it is not the answer..your answer is to get help and fight..tell someone in your family or anyone how you are feeling...I been there but i'm telling you suicide is not the answer, when you think about it think of all the people you will leave back here hurting...but right now think of you and get some help..please..remember someone who commits suicide dies once..but the loved ones are left to die a thousand deaths wondering why...Seek help something is going on even if you think you don't feel depressed or anything else...please im begging you listen to me..also when you are having those thoughts call someone and tell them..my prayers are with you..stay strong and dont you give in.The main one to call on is God He has helped me a many a time..He is there and will listen..take care

Answer 7

You need things to do to occupy your mind so you don't think things like that. Also maybe you need to plan ahead a bit (rather than living day-by-day) plan things to look forward to, things to treat yourself with at the end of every week, maybe set some objectives to achieve today-this year-in 10years, find new people to meet & places to go to make life more interesting (I know I should do some of these things!)

I hope you're not religious and expecting something better to be the other side of death - perhaps there is, but if there isn't you would have made one huge big mistake with no chance of going back.

Answer 8

You need to talk to someone and I suggest you look up Samaritans in the phone book! You also need to see your GP as soon as possible! You may not feel depressed but what is happening is > your brain is lacking the chemicals it needs for you to think positively at the moment and you don't need for anything major to have happened to get this way whatever age you may be! Why is the unanswerable question I'm afraid!

Answer 9

Hi Thomas,

Get help ASAP m8, U can get help, get to ur GP now.
Tell ur parents and friends, let them know how u feel.

Are U living on UR own ?

Sorry m8 its only a short answer, I usually write down a lot more but I am feelling drained as I has just een stuck on a dialysis machine for around 5 and a half hours.

Look after urself m8, take care, God bless u and protect u.

Jimmy LOL

Answer 10

In addition to some of the excellent advice you've already had, I'd recommend cognitive behavioural therapy. It's a way of helping you to think differently. Have a look at the web page below - you may find a book there that can help. I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 11

Do you have a family history of depression? Depression and other problems like this can be partly genetic. I think u need to definitely see a professional about this, it's the only way you're going to get help...they're really nice ppl and they dedicate their lives to helping ppl in ur position. Also, try occupying yourself with an activity you enjoy or excersize to make u feel good and take ur mind off of thinking about suicide. You deserve to live a good life, don't let it go!