does anyone know how to do time out to children as a punish withtout hurting them ?
thank you
2007-03-23 12:13:59 · 21 answers · asked by Marjani M 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Watch Supernanny, she is the queen of timeouts.
2007-03-23 12:16:19 · answer #1 · answered by Lal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Current professional opinion is that "time out" is a dirty word. However the only way I could teach my son was by using time out. We want to socialise our children and teach them what is socially acceptable. When the limit was reached, my son had to go to his room for a half hour, or until he was reasonable. This worked for him because he was a social person. I used to say 'if you cant behave in socially acceptable ways, then you cannot be in society". He is a very well adjusted and successful young man, now aged 28. Physical punishment like hitting just doesn't work, once a child is past the stage of putting screwdrivers in power sockets.
2007-03-23 20:11:08 · answer #2 · answered by carlina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have a dedicated spot. use only for second or beyond occurrences, once it was explained the first time why it was wrong and that they'll get time out if they do it again. put them in time out immediately upon bad behavior, while explaining why. keep them there for one minute per year of age. do not pay attention to them while they're there, but put them back and restart the timer if they move. when the time is up have the child explain why they were there and have them say sorry.
2007-03-23 19:18:08 · answer #3 · answered by Bored Enough To Be Here 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes--give them a time out immediately after tehy are doing the behavior that you find unacceptable-- not 30 mintues later--or when you get home or something like that--do it right away--and make it short--just so that they get the idea that it is something you do not like--the behavior--you don't want to make it at a later time or too long becasue then it will be more about punishing them instead of letting them know that the behavior they engaged in did not work for them...
2007-03-23 19:22:59 · answer #4 · answered by Shay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I put my little girl in a chair facing the wall for 5min or for what ever time fit the crime but it never cause any physical pain they will learn that if they do something wrong there is consequence for their action and stick with it they will try to make you feel bad but they will get over it and love you the same.
2007-03-23 19:26:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hurting them?? Physically, or Mentally??
Either way, you wouldn't do damage. Have them sit in a chair for a certain amount of time. Soon enough they'll learn how to behave. Children need discipline.
2007-03-23 19:17:27 · answer #6 · answered by phxchik07 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at my job( i work in child care) time out is a minute for every year. one mintue for a one year old etc. Set limits, and sticfk to them( ie. If u get up the time starts over) if they get up start the time over. Make a chair esp for time out, and set an egg timer near it. they will cry but u have to give children boundaries.
2007-03-23 19:18:29 · answer #7 · answered by cocokutie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't respond and just keep putting them back till they sit for the amount of time. When you catch them getting up just say no and put back. then tell them why they got into trouble and sent to time out. and ask them why they did it and also ask a better way to handle the situation or behavior
2007-03-23 19:22:55 · answer #8 · answered by littledueceb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes - it works very well on my neice and nephew. get a kitchen timer like an egg timer. have a specific chair in an area where they will not have entertainment (like a hallway where they cant see or hear TV) or have them sit on thier bed with no toys/books/remote. set the timer and they cannot get or speak until it goes off, or it starts again.
the important key is before instituting it - you need to explain to them when/why/how long they will end up in time out. when you send them to time out you should also after letting them sit for a minute, before they get to out, go to them and ask if they know why they went to time out, if they say no explain to them gently why they went to time out, then after they know why they are in time out (whether you tell them or they tell you) ask them if they know why that was wrong, and again if they do not know why explain it to them. then let them know when the buzzer sounds they can go play again.
getting them to know what they did wrong and why it was wrong will help them know why they should not do it again.
2007-03-23 19:21:21 · answer #9 · answered by Shopaholic Chick 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
depends on how old they are. make sure they know what they did wrong and put them in "the time-out chair" tell them to go to it, if they dont listen start counting and how ever long it takes them to listen will be how many mintues they have to sit there, unless it's a rediculas amount.
2007-03-23 19:18:14 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Bella Ragazza♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope the best way to punish children is to spank them. "Train up a child in the way he should grow..." They will learn quickly the last time you'll have to spank them is when they're five at most maybe six!
Just make sure that you do it not out of anger but out of love. that sounds wierd but just try it!
2007-03-23 19:17:16 · answer #11 · answered by Chefdude101 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋