My daughter has a friend and she spent the night over at her house one night. I received a call from her mother, who explained she walked in on them "playing Mommy and Daddy sex". She explained that the clothes were on, but that it spooked her. Her daughter admitted being the one who started the "game" and my daughter agreed that it wasn't her idea. Since the "incident", the little girl has joined my daughter and I on a trip to the park, and everything seemed to have cooled off. Recently, we have been away a lot, and now the two are crossing paths again in the neighborhood. My daughter is telling me this girl is ignoring her now and telling the other kids my daughter is mean. I fear that her mother is telling her to avoid my daughter. I don't know how to handle this. It's not MY daughter's fault, and she is being treated awful now. It breaks my heart. How do I explain this to my daughter and should I confront the other mother? Ahh!! What should I do!?!?!?! :(
2007-03-23 12:09:51 · 6 answers · asked by Confused_mom 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
ooh er thats tricky how old is your daughter for a start if its all innocent then the best thing you can do is forget it ever happened but have a word with the other girls mum to make sure shes not making matters worse by telling her to avoid your daughter. Surely if they were just playing a game then its nothing to worry about. But on the other hand are they old enough to understand what they were doing and should they know that much? If they are very young I would wonder where they got their ideas from and make sure nothing more worrying is going on. Speak to a health visitor if still worried good luck
2007-03-23 12:19:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like kids being kids. Its quite possible that the other mother has asked her to avoid your child because of the "mommy/daddy sex" incident. This is the same reason you should have your child avoiding this family. After all, it was the other child that intiated the activity. Obviously, thats not the kind of friend that is good for your daughter. I would talk to the mother of the other child but don't bring up the past. I would just be super nice so maybe that mother will put a different bug in her daughter's ear about your child. Just a thought.
2007-03-23 12:27:02 · answer #2 · answered by Shawn P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all how old is your daughter? and since you stated that she was playing "mommy and daddy sex" your daughter and her friend are getting to that stage where they want to experience with sex unless they are deciding to become gay. Which is perfectly fine. You have to sit you daughter down and explain to her what the situation was about, why she did, what did she think of it, what sex is, and what gayness is. As for her friend her mother needs to realize what the situation was about, ask why she did it, what she thought of it and also explain to her what sex and gayness is too.
PS. Explain to her what happens when you have sex or become gay so she knows you can go to the library/store and pick up a mvie on sex and sexual differences....!
2007-03-23 12:22:50 · answer #3 · answered by ~*^_^Charity^_^*~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing i would do is talk to your daughter about what she did, it is perfectly normal for children to be curious and 'play-doctor' etc. Explain to her that is OK to be curious but caution her on more appropriate behavior. Coach her to deal with the other girl herself, she won't learn if you call the mother, and only do it if things appear out of hand. Suggest she talk to the girl about what they did and that it is normal for kids to do silly stuff and next time they may talk to their parents when wanting to know about sexuality. I have two daughters age 13 and 17, relax this is no biggy! Good luck!
2007-03-23 12:24:20 · answer #4 · answered by RED 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pain and unpleasantness is a huge part of life. If you try to shelter your children from it, you will only cause them trouble later on when they are suddenly exposed to it. Let her work her own way through it, and teach her that there are bad people out there all over the place. She needs to work on her inner strength, and self-defense. Fighting her battles for her is not a favor.
2007-03-23 12:23:03 · answer #5 · answered by littlechrismary 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop worrying so much. Let your daughter know that the pretending was inappropriate, but it doesn't make her bad.
Then take her out for ice cream.
She'll get over it (if you do)
2007-03-23 12:19:10 · answer #6 · answered by kurgan_fish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋