If a girl cuts herself because her boyfriend broke up with her, is that a cry for attention?

Question

I know this boy that was with this girl for like two years. They keep breaking up but they always got back together. The last time they broke up the boy meet this girl and found her very attractive, they started talking then they became very close. They spoke to each other for a while. At the time the girl had a boyfriend so she couldn't be with the boy. A couple months passed and she went with the boy she spoke to for a while. His ex girl friend found out and was upset so she used to try calling and telling him she's sorry for everything she has done and she said she wanted him back. The boy was no longer interested in her and she didn't like that. She suddenly started calling him every night crying saying that she's going to kill herself. The boy always tried to talk to her because if she actually killed herself he would feel bad. The girl told him she only wanted attention. A few days passed and the girl still use to try calling. Then the boy was no longer interested in her.

Answer 1

Well number one It is a cry for help, because she relied on him and when he turned her down she felt rejected, and when people get rejected they feel like there is no point in them living, because they are not wanted anymore, now if she is infact playing there is no attention she is going to recieve except heartache, but i think she is suffering from rejection, and notw she may feel well what could i have done differently? How can i make this work? what do i need to do? do i need to change the way I look or dress? Why did u leave me? So there are many things, but attention, I hardly doubt, and maybe that is a way for him to come back. but I doubt it

Answer 2

it's manipulative in her way. also, it's her way of coping with mental anguish she doesnt know how to deal with. it's become a 'habit' a bad one at that. some people do drugs, some drink alcohol. some deal with emotions productively, safely to themselves and others. this girl doesnt. tell him to speak to her parents or siblings or other relatives and perhaps they can help her. does he want to be with her? is the 'cutting' the problem? or is there other problems?
If it's not a compatible relationship, it's best he move on...tell her straight that its her cutting and threatening to kill herself that he cant handle and he's not a professional psychiatrist and she needs to learn how to deal with her emotions productively in a positive manner. peace

Answer 3

that's a serious problem anyway. regardless of relational issues. people self-mutilate usually because it is a scar that they can deal with. you have a cut on your arm or wrist - put some Cortaid on it, Band-aid - all better.
you can't do that with emotional issues. it requires dealing with the issue head on. some people can't do that or don't want to. and that's why they cut themselves.
i think when we're dealing with this, professional attention needs to be paid. just one guy's opinion.

Answer 4

its a cry for attention, he should tell her he isn't putting up with it no more and he will not take her calls anymore. he shouldn't feel guilty if she does anything, she obviously needs help and not from him

Answer 5

its definatly a desparate cry for attention. its sad really, its a good thing he moved on because he shouldnt get stuck with someone that clingy and insecure about themselves

Answer 6

Yea, it's most definetly a cry for attention.

Answer 7

absolutely a cry for attention. If she keeps doing it, she things he'll keep coming back.

Answer 8

hell no she is emo she is depressed but kinda a cry for attention

Answer 9

yeah it is. But if you are her friend, try to convince her to get help for this. Its not normal to do that.

Answer 10

it means she needs help and that she is finding it difficult to cope.