how could my heart be broken ????

Question

I like this guy named Javel and he is the cutest guy in my class and he is also the type of guy that parents want for their kid. I secretly loved him and the love was going on and off alot so I decided to stop liking him. But I had my very first heart break on March 14th when Andreanna, this really annoying girl kissed him on the cheek and he pulled away and yet my heart is broken.

I gave up on him and stoped talking to him but lately I just wanna be right next to him. I know I shouldn't like him but I always fall for the wrong guy and I promised myself that when Mr. Right comes along I won't let him go and obviously I won't let Javel go. Now my problem is when I am heart broken I depressed, angrily or just straight up pissed. So why am I willing to go throught the pain for a guy that may never love me.

And now all I need know is how to let go? The question that I ask myself every day is : is he worth the pain ?

Answer 1

i am 22 and for the 1st time ever fell in love with this guy who is now my ex 20 months ago. i am in the same situation of a broken heart. all i can tell you is to focus on yourself. hang out with friends who obviously dont have bf's or a reminder of teh guy that broke your heart. second, you need to realize that just because you like him does not mean that he has the same feelings for you two unless he asks you our. thirdly, take a yoga, kickboxing class to release some of the anger-that is what i am doing and it so helps! also, focus on school, academics, bury yourself in studying and be driven to make good grades. heck, it helps me as of rt now! i mean my ex and i were still friends until yesterday when he tells me that he does not love me ne more at all, he tells me this over the phone. i hung up on him, but was logged on AIM and he thought that it was rude what i did. afterwards i told my ex that he does and never existed for me. after that we have stopped speaking to each other and erasing each other from our daily life. you and this guy that a cute thing but at least you did not get really heartbroken if he were to cheat on you or if he stopped talking to you. what i am dealing with is called a heartbreak. yours is minor compared to mine yet i wake up early to do yoga and to focus more on me. you need to realize that there are ton of other guys out there and this one guy is not the one! you need to date and gain experience and then make a decision..what you have is infatuation and nothing more...just because you fall for the wrong guy does not mean ne thing except to learn lessons from the guys you date! if you for example have a type that you go for try another type: ex: if you like blond try dating brunettes, etc. try something new and spontaneou and do not ever give up

Answer 2

You guys are still way young. You don't fall in and out of love- what you are describing is more of a crush. I suggest you try to just be cool with him, be a friend, be assertive and funny and he will be knocking down your door when you guys are old enough to know what love is.