My husband and I are having our first baby, this is also his mother’s first grandchild.
She is very excited about the baby, but doesn’t want to know if the baby is a girl or boy and wants to keep it a surprise for as long as possible.
We have known for weeks that we are having a baby girl.
My mother-in-law is kind of upset that we haven’t been giving her updates on the baby, but we are worried about slipping up and saying “she” and ruining the surprise. She is the only one in the family who wants to keep it a surprise so she doesn't hear any baby news.
Do you think this is silly? We want to respect her wishes, but it’s weird to us and I am starting to feel bad for avoiding baby stuff around her.
Any advice?
2007-03-23 11:50:29 · 29 answers · asked by PrettyWifey 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Keep her updated... I'm sure she'd much rather learn it's a girl by accident than be locked out of all information.
If you find yourself slipping and saying "she", then you can deliberately call the baby "he" a couple minutes later - and then go back to "she" a few minutes after that. Or you can just apologize for letting it slip, smile, and simply not worry about it from that point on. It's really not THAT big of a deal.
Congratulations on the baby!
2007-03-23 11:55:28 · answer #1 · answered by Bramblyspam 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You know if she's feeling hurt because you're not giving her baby news than ask her which she'd prefer. 1) No news so the baby is a surprise. Or 2) news with the chance that you'll slip and give the sex away. That way she won't be able to complain because she'll make the choice.
2007-03-23 12:24:17 · answer #2 · answered by Critter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
respect her decision just the way you had the urge to find out what your having she wants it to be a surprise because it's exciting it's a nice rush A goose bump feeling. She's going to be a grandma for the very first time and that means the whole world to her now if you tell her you'll just spoiled the whole incitement for her. She wants to wait and when she finds out the time of delivery that perfect moment that whole rush feeling,excitement emotion that goose bump joy feeling will explode and that's what shes waiting for the baby's timing not yours. Let the baby surprise her that's baby's job.Don't let the explosion burst before time especially if baby is a girl "wow" baby is going to be very spoiled.
Good luck and a very quick delivery.
2007-03-23 12:11:15 · answer #3 · answered by amores 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just tell her that.
It is very nice of you to consider her feeling about the gender. I'm sure she will be excited. But if she does accidentally find out, she will be excited then, too. What difference would the news be sooner rather than later? Bottom line is it is YOUR pregnancy and you and your husband have the right to find out and share that with the family if that is what you want. If she finds out from someone.... that is her problem.
2007-03-23 11:55:50 · answer #4 · answered by Yinzer from Sixburgh 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you can keep it a secret then do it. but if you cant then ooppss!!!! who cares if she finds out the baby is a girl. i mean you want the world to know you are having a baby girl, lets shout it and if mama finds out then hurray lets celebrate!!! i dont think she will get that mad about finding out! i mean come on this is her first baby. she wont be upset that long and after the baby is born she will be even more excited! good luck.
2007-03-23 11:56:44 · answer #5 · answered by Christina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just don't talk about the babies sex around her and when buying for the baby buy for boy and girl,but keep your receipt and return the items after the baby is born.I think that it is very caring and very respectful that you guys are granting your mother-in-laws wishes by not telling her what the babies sex is so people love the surprise.
2007-03-23 11:59:32 · answer #6 · answered by heavenlli_61 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you have picked a name, refer to the baby by it's initals, not only will it keep the sex a secret, but you'll be refering to your baby girl by her name early on.
2007-03-23 11:55:19 · answer #7 · answered by Yoda_Yodel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely ridiculous behavior for this day and age.
If she is invited to your shower or sees the nursery, she's going to find out. It's that simple.
Have your hubby tell her that you cannot keep it a secret from her. It's asking too much, and you shouldn't be burdened with that responsibility and stress during your pregnancy.
2007-03-23 11:55:16 · answer #8 · answered by yet_another_realist 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that your not avoiding her and that you dont want to accidentally tell her the sex. If you shop together she will have no choice but to know. Its exciting for you and your husband and gramma but dont forget whats important. Your first baby enjoy it dont stress
2007-03-23 11:54:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My good acquaintances comprehend that they'd open as much as me. no longer in basic terms because of the fact I won't breach their self assurance, yet because of the fact they comprehend if I supply them suggestion, i will shoot directly with them. I won't sugar-coat something. I won't repeat those issues notwithstanding in the event that they ignore to question me to no longer. in spite of this, i admire a quote that Mae West as quickly as coined: "you start to maintain secrets and techniques, and your secrets and techniques will save you."
2016-10-01 09:36:13 · answer #10 · answered by durrell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋